What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?

[Anonymous]

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Truth. Which is why this thread should be asking what the benefits of a LTR are for women (at least those women who can support themselves). Men, I get. But I don't know what women really get out of it on average. They seem better off unmarried.

Marriage is a shit deal for men. Excellent deal for women.

I would say it is the reverse. Now it is a terrible deal for women.

Ha, exactly. Marriage is by far a shit deal for women who have a career. I make twice as much as my husband. I don’t need him for security.

Raising the obvious question of why you got married if it's a shit deal for you. What do you need him for?

[Anonymous]

Same as for women, you misogynist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same as for women, you misogynist.

So lazy. Do better.

[Anonymous]

This thread is a reminder that we pay a price as a gender when we let men "care for us", like children.

THey lack respect for us as adults.

Women, all I can say is once your kids are not babies, contribute to the family financially. It will serve as a lesson to your children that women are independent adults who deserve equal opportunities and respect.

Otherwise, you play right into the hands of these neanderthals.

[Anonymous]

Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

A lie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

A lie.

I dunno. Seems pretty accurate to me. It's why men rush into marriages if theirs ends, but women don't.

[Anonymous]

We’ve been married 40 years. My wife takes care of me because she really is in charge and manages our two homes in very nice areas and that makes my life incredibly easy. I worked for 40+ years and made a lot of money which affords a lifestyle for both of us that we never imagined. The ultimate benefit of this long term relationship is that we still are incredibly affectionate and love our time together. OK, at least I do!

[Anonymous]

35 year old woman here.
I have met a few 50 something year old men that are good looking, have nice jobs, never married and date younger girls. I think they are sad honestly. The party life is fun, but I am not sure it stays fun 40 years into it. I see these men at 50 looking really old (still good looking for their age) and creepy next to 25 year old (honestly ok looking girls) that just want to hang out with them because they pay for food and drinks.
I have to say that I have done it my self. I have hang out with much older men in my college and grad school years. It’s fun to date girls like I was (hot, young, looking to party), but these men in my experience don’t get the respect men of similar age get. I looked down on them and did not respected them, but “used” them because it was fun.
I end up marrying an older man (12 years older then me), but he was not 50...
maybe I am wrong about it all... but when you are 50-60 at a club 18+ and you need to take out your glasses to get a 19 year old phone number.... it’s just ridiculous in my opinion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

[Anonymous]

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Marriage is by far a shit deal for women who have a career. I make twice as much as my husband.

And how common is your situation exactly?

More common than you think. Most of my female friends make the same amount if not more than their husbands. Believe it when I say we are not married out of some desperation as you’d like to believe.

Even though my husband makes more than I do, my total compensation is still high enough that I can live comfortably on my own. So it’s not only women who make more than a husband that may not find a clear value to being married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

Who would even marry someone like this?

[Anonymous]

Men die younger than women. It's nice for them to have someone to arrange their memorial service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.

Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.

Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.

The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.

I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.

Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?

Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.