What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?

[Anonymous]

Family, kids.

Yes, I agree in general if your goal is to have a great sex life then don't get married.

[Anonymous]

Look at the gay community. No women involved.

There are still men who want long term relationships. Men fall in love, they get jealous, they like familiarity.

There is a much higher percentage of open relationships in the gay community so you have a higher percentage of men who want the benefits of a long term relationships and also sex with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at the gay community. No women involved.

There are still men who want long term relationships. Men fall in love, they get jealous, they like familiarity.

There is a much higher percentage of open relationships in the gay community so you have a higher percentage of men who want the benefits of a long term relationships and also sex with others.

Lesbian couples are also far more likely to get divorced than gay couples...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

That lifestyle eventually gets very, very empty.

Does it though. For some people it may, others not so. I knew a man who was disabled and lived in a wheelchair. Never married and never had kids. He lived with his mother until she died and then lived alone for many years until he died. He had hobbies and he went up to the club every day, there were a ton of men who would go and eat together and they had a betting club together. When he died he had so many people there to mourn him. He was out every day socialising.

I agree with the other poster who said it's not about dying alone, because he was alone when he died, as the majority of people are. It's about between now and then and he had a very full life surrounded by a ton of people who use to help him and support him, pretty much like family though none were blood related. People that wept at his loss, real tears.

Life is what you make it and as long as you do what makes you happy you'll be ok in the end. So if a man doesn't want to marry, so be it. A marriage is only good if it is happy. If the marriage isn't happy then it makes your life hell. There is such a thing as being lonely in marriage, isn't that empty as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

We don't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love?

I would say this and if he wants the family and kids experience.

[Anonymous]

My husband was single for most of his life. He had sex maybe 1-2 times a year. Now he gets regular sex and BJs with children that love him. Not everyone is miserable in marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was single for most of his life. He had sex maybe 1-2 times a year. Now he gets regular sex and BJs with children that love him. Not everyone is miserable in marriage.

Oops probably should have worded this sentence better!

He gets regular sex and BJs with me. Also has children that love him. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was single for most of his life. He had sex maybe 1-2 times a year. Now he gets regular sex and BJs with children that love him. Not everyone is miserable in marriage.

Oops probably should have worded this sentence better!

He gets regular sex and BJs with me. Also has children that love him. Lol

Sure he does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was single for most of his life. He had sex maybe 1-2 times a year. Now he gets regular sex and BJs with children that love him. Not everyone is miserable in marriage.

Oops probably should have worded this sentence better!

He gets regular sex and BJs with me. Also has children that love him. Lol

Oh I laughed so hard at this, that was great.

I agree marriage is great when it's happy. I guess when you start out you never really know which way it's going to go. I was lucky as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Family, kids.

Yes, I agree in general if your goal is to have a great sex life then don't get married.

Man here, and THIS. +1000

I adore my kids. I love my family. Having someone to care for, to provide for, gives my life meaning. The tradeoff is that I must have sex with the same person. Over. And over. And over again. For the rest of my life.

But if I had to do it over again, I would have waited. And I would have chosen much more carefully.

[Anonymous]

A longer life - it is known.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family, kids.

Yes, I agree in general if your goal is to have a great sex life then don't get married.

Man here, and THIS. +1000

I adore my kids. I love my family. Having someone to care for, to provide for, gives my life meaning. The tradeoff is that I must have sex with the same person. Over. And over. And over again. For the rest of my life.

But if I had to do it over again, I would have waited. And I would have chosen much more carefully.

At what age did you get married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family, kids.

Yes, I agree in general if your goal is to have a great sex life then don't get married.

Man here, and THIS. +1000

I adore my kids. I love my family. Having someone to care for, to provide for, gives my life meaning. The tradeoff is that I must have sex with the same person. Over. And over. And over again. For the rest of my life.

But if I had to do it over again, I would have waited. And I would have chosen much more carefully.

At what age did you get married?

Early 20s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family, kids.

Yes, I agree in general if your goal is to have a great sex life then don't get married.

Man here, and THIS. +1000

I adore my kids. I love my family. Having someone to care for, to provide for, gives my life meaning. The tradeoff is that I must have sex with the same person. Over. And over. And over again. For the rest of my life.

But if I had to do it over again, I would have waited. And I would have chosen much more carefully.

At what age did you get married?

Early 20s

Ahhh, yeah I see your point.