What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

To produce legitimate children and have uninterrupted access to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

To produce legitimate children and have uninterrupted access to them.

"Legitimate" is an outdated concept and you don't really need marriage for either of these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't fall into that category, while a few do. If the man is very rich or very good looking, they can keep on playing the field. Otherwise, they hit a wall.

Just ask my dh's friends who were holding out for the hottest woman they could find. They are now middle aged, losing their hair, single, and rarely dating.

Sounds like many unmarried 35+ women I know, except for the losing their hair part.

[Anonymous]

Sex without condoms is a big plus in a LTR

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

To produce legitimate children and have uninterrupted access to them.

"Legitimate" is an outdated concept and you don't really need marriage for either of these.

Marriage gives a better shot at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

To produce legitimate children and have uninterrupted access to them.

"Legitimate" is an outdated concept and you don't really need marriage for either of these.

Marriage gives a better shot at it.

You’re off base. I married to please my wife, whose continued presence appealed to me. It wasn’t about kids, it wasn’t about some stupid thing like having my shirts pressed. It was about living with her on her terms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't fall into that category, while a few do. If the man is very rich or very good looking, they can keep on playing the field. Otherwise, they hit a wall.

Just ask my dh's friends who were holding out for the hottest woman they could find. They are now middle aged, losing their hair, single, and rarely dating.

Sounds like many unmarried 35+ women I know, except for the losing their hair part.

Pp here. Yes, true for women as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family, kids.

Yes, I agree in general if your goal is to have a great sex life then don't get married.

Man here, and THIS. +1000

I adore my kids. I love my family. Having someone to care for, to provide for, gives my life meaning. The tradeoff is that I must have sex with the same person. Over. And over. And over again. For the rest of my life.

But if I had to do it over again, I would have waited. And I would have chosen much more carefully.

For many married guys the "trade-off" is they don't get to have sex with the same person over and over.

[Anonymous]

There isn’t one. Nor is there a benefit for a woman like myself, an introvert who outearns her husband. If he left tomorrow, well... I and the kids would be really, really sad. But I’d be fine. My nice comfortable life would continue to be nice, stable and comfortable.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and i enjoy our life together. But... benefit? I am conventionally attractive, I’m financially independent, and I could have had kids with anyone or on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There isn’t one. Nor is there a benefit for a woman like myself, an introvert who outearns her husband. If he left tomorrow, well... I and the kids would be really, really sad. But I’d be fine. My nice comfortable life would continue to be nice, stable and comfortable.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and i enjoy our life together. But... benefit? I am conventionally attractive, I’m financially independent, and I could have had kids with anyone or on my own.

+1

Marriage is an antiquated institution with very high risk and low incentive/advantage if you’re independent, have healthy self love, and are self sufficient. The greatest value of marriage is that it builds families in a safe cocoon of life two people agree to. You don’t need legal risk to do that.

Other value is religious, if you believe.

[Anonymous]

Statistically married men live longer and healthier lives than unmarried men. Now is that because they are married or those types tend to get married and take fewer risks. Don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Statistically married men live longer and healthier lives than unmarried men. Now is that because they are married or those types tend to get married and take fewer risks. Don't know.

Correlation, not causation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Statistically married men live longer and healthier lives than unmarried men. Now is that because they are married or those types tend to get married and take fewer risks. Don't know.

But married women live shorter, less healthy lives than their single counterparts.

I think the title should be what do women get out of it. Men I understand. Women are less clear to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I think about the womanizing men sometimes I wonder why they need to “settle down”.

Their market value keeps increasing. If they are handsome and make good money, they can sleep with so many women and never have to endure a dead bedroom.

They can get companionship and validation through various friends with benefits type arrangements.

Why even put up with marriage?

It’s gets boring after a while. The all start looking the same. A$$ is a$$...

[Anonymous]

Must be something, given that men are more likely to remarry after divorce than women. Women are more likely to marry once and then be over the whole concept.