Best Meal to Bring New Mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New mom who is nursing has to watch out what they eat. Anything and everything crosses to the milk and can cause all kinds of problem for the baby.
Just to get you started on foods that can cause all kinds of problem from colic to sleep problem to diarrhea in the baby..:

chocolate.
spices (cinnamon, garlic, curry, chili pepper)
citrus fruits and their juices, like oranges, lemons, limes, and grapefruit.
strawberries.
kiwifruit.
pineapple.
the "gassy" veggies (onion, cabbage, garlic, cauliflower, broccoli, cucumbers, and peppers)
fruits with a laxative effect, such as cherries and prunes.
Fish. Fish are a great source of protein and omega-3 fatty acids and are okay to eat in moderation during breastfeeding. ...
Coffee and Tea. ...
Alcohol. ...
Chocolate. ...
Parsley, Peppermint and Sage. ...
Garlic. ...
“Gassy” Foods. ...
Medicines to Avoid While Breastfeeding.


So back at you.. do you want really to make a new mom more miserable? It is enough to deal with the struggles of the first days and weeks of mothering without added stress of complications from food and results on newborn.

Just give them choice to feed themselves and therefore a baby (as a result) with whatever they are comfortable.

If you start going over the list and try to avoid anything that can make a baby miserable.. starting with onion,
garlic, spices, cabbage etc.. you will be really in a very If you would press me to bring something, I would bring bagels as others suggested. Least harmful of all the offerings listed.

Omg. I breast-fed for kids, each for over a year, and you are a total nutcase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meal trains are sexist. It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner. Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women. Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.

There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc.

If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control

I hate all the picky ass replies to this OP, but I am so totally agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meal trains are sexist. It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner. Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women. Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.

There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc.

If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control

I hate all the picky ass replies to this OP, but I am so totally agree with this.

This is insane. My husband cooks all the dinners in our house, we loved getting things because it frees him up to do things like, gasp, take care of our newborn! Sexist to assume meal trains only relieve the women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meal trains are sexist. It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner. Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women. Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.

There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc.

If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control

I hate all the picky ass replies to this OP, but I am so totally agree with this.

This is insane. My husband cooks all the dinners in our house, we loved getting things because it frees him up to do things like, gasp, take care of our newborn! Sexist to assume meal trains only relieve the women.

+1

Parents with newborns need support during the postpartum period. Insisting that they don't need and not get that support "because patriarchy!" is ludicrous. There are times when having the love and support of your community is extremely helpful and the right-after-birth period is one of those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meal trains are sexist. It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner. Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women. Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.

There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc.

If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control

I hate all the picky ass replies to this OP, but I am so totally agree with this.

My husband is the cook in the family. The meal train relieved him. I didn't want him cooking, I wanted him tending to me and the baby. And many of the meals were made by the men, although the train was organized and ran by my friends.

[Anonymous]

My husband CAN cook, but if he's cooking and doing all the dishes after he gets home from work I'm responsible for keeping track of the older kid, bathing, and getting him to bed as well as taking care of the newborn. Which may be the new normal we have to adjust tk, but when the newborn is cluster feeding every hour in the evening right now, I literally don't have enough hands. Freeing up half an hour to an hour of my husband's time from cooking is a godsend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have loved fajitas.

Same. I can’t eat gluten or dairy and am a vegetarian, so out of all the meal ideas on here it would be the only one that I could eat. DH and DS would be happy with it too because we could all pick and choose the parts we like but still be eating the same meal. I don’t understand the point about having to wash multiple dishes and bowls. Shake some cheese directly out of the bag, pour some salsa directly from the jar. Things that can even be done one handed if that’s your thing! Yes, you may have to wash the plate you eat off of, but how is that any different from chicken Marbella or spaghetti and meatballs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband CAN cook, but if he's cooking and doing all the dishes after he gets home from work I'm responsible for keeping track of the older kid, bathing, and getting him to bed as well as taking care of the newborn. Which may be the new normal we have to adjust tk, but when the newborn is cluster feeding every hour in the evening right now, I literally don't have enough hands. Freeing up half an hour to an hour of my husband's time from cooking is a godsend.

Ever hear of crock pots or slow cookers? I made a huge pot of beef stew on Friday with enough to give to elderly couple next door for two meals. You and your husband should have thought of these things prior to you getting pregnant. Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency for anyone else. In this day and age there is no excuse for meal trains. Call for carry-out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband CAN cook, but if he's cooking and doing all the dishes after he gets home from work I'm responsible for keeping track of the older kid, bathing, and getting him to bed as well as taking care of the newborn. Which may be the new normal we have to adjust tk, but when the newborn is cluster feeding every hour in the evening right now, I literally don't have enough hands. Freeing up half an hour to an hour of my husband's time from cooking is a godsend.

Ever hear of crock pots or slow cookers? I made a huge pot of beef stew on Friday with enough to give to elderly couple next door for two meals. You and your husband should have thought of these things prior to you getting pregnant. Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency for anyone else. In this day and age there is no excuse for meal trains. Call for carry-out.

np There may be no need for it but, it is a long tradition in community! The community of family and friends are welcoming a new member to the community and doing so by supporting the family. It isn't about the food per say. It is an expression of LOVE.

Maybe you need more love and caring.

Who prepares before they get pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband CAN cook, but if he's cooking and doing all the dishes after he gets home from work I'm responsible for keeping track of the older kid, bathing, and getting him to bed as well as taking care of the newborn. Which may be the new normal we have to adjust tk, but when the newborn is cluster feeding every hour in the evening right now, I literally don't have enough hands. Freeing up half an hour to an hour of my husband's time from cooking is a godsend.

Ever hear of crock pots or slow cookers? I made a huge pot of beef stew on Friday with enough to give to elderly couple next door for two meals. You and your husband should have thought of these things prior to you getting pregnant. Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency for anyone else. In this day and age there is no excuse for meal trains. Call for carry-out.

np There may be no need for it but, it is a long tradition in community! The community of family and friends are welcoming a new member to the community and doing so by supporting the family. It isn't about the food per say. It is an expression of LOVE.

Maybe you need more love and caring.

Who prepares before they get pregnant?

People who are organized and use their brains for something other than a hat rack! I cook large amounts of chili (both meat and lentil) and put in large cupcake pans, freeze,and later put on freezer bags. I do the same with spaghetti sauce, lasagna, meatloaf. It's easy. Nine months is ample time to cook and freeze meals for post birth use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband CAN cook, but if he's cooking and doing all the dishes after he gets home from work I'm responsible for keeping track of the older kid, bathing, and getting him to bed as well as taking care of the newborn. Which may be the new normal we have to adjust tk, but when the newborn is cluster feeding every hour in the evening right now, I literally don't have enough hands. Freeing up half an hour to an hour of my husband's time from cooking is a godsend.

Ever hear of crock pots or slow cookers? I made a huge pot of beef stew on Friday with enough to give to elderly couple next door for two meals. You and your husband should have thought of these things prior to you getting pregnant. Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency for anyone else. In this day and age there is no excuse for meal trains. Call for carry-out.

np There may be no need for it but, it is a long tradition in community! The community of family and friends are welcoming a new member to the community and doing so by supporting the family. It isn't about the food per say. It is an expression of LOVE.

Maybe you need more love and caring.

Who prepares before they get pregnant?

People who are organized and use their brains for something other than a hat rack! I cook large amounts of chili (both meat and lentil) and put in large cupcake pans, freeze,and later put on freezer bags. I do the same with spaghetti sauce, lasagna, meatloaf. It's easy. Nine months is ample time to cook and freeze meals for post birth use.

Calm down. No one is saying meal trains are owed and we don’t have a lot of friends/family here so we haven’t really been part of one. But here is why you could be unprepared. My first arrived 4 weeks early literally right before Labor Day weekend when I had planned to make a bunch of freezer meals. A few neighbors dropped off food with salad and bread which we were unbelievably grateful for as our fridge was empty, we didn’t yet have Instacart, and were generally a little overwhelmed as first time parents. The second time around baby 2 was again almost 4 weeks early and we made full use of Instacart/uber eats as needed. But It was even harder with the older one, as that left very little time for advance meal prepping and a clingy toddler who didn’t understand why there was a new baby that cried a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband CAN cook, but if he's cooking and doing all the dishes after he gets home from work I'm responsible for keeping track of the older kid, bathing, and getting him to bed as well as taking care of the newborn. Which may be the new normal we have to adjust tk, but when the newborn is cluster feeding every hour in the evening right now, I literally don't have enough hands. Freeing up half an hour to an hour of my husband's time from cooking is a godsend.

Ever hear of crock pots or slow cookers? I made a huge pot of beef stew on Friday with enough to give to elderly couple next door for two meals. You and your husband should have thought of these things prior to you getting pregnant. Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency for anyone else. In this day and age there is no excuse for meal trains. Call for carry-out.

np There may be no need for it but, it is a long tradition in community! The community of family and friends are welcoming a new member to the community and doing so by supporting the family. It isn't about the food per say. It is an expression of LOVE.

Maybe you need more love and caring.

Who prepares before they get pregnant?

People who are organized and use their brains for something other than a hat rack! I cook large amounts of chili (both meat and lentil) and put in large cupcake pans, freeze,and later put on freezer bags. I do the same with spaghetti sauce, lasagna, meatloaf. It's easy. Nine months is ample time to cook and freeze meals for post birth use.

Calm down. No one is saying meal trains are owed and we don’t have a lot of friends/family here so we haven’t really been part of one. But here is why you could be unprepared. My first arrived 4 weeks early literally right before Labor Day weekend when I had planned to make a bunch of freezer meals. A few neighbors dropped off food with salad and bread which we were unbelievably grateful for as our fridge was empty, we didn’t yet have Instacart, and were generally a little overwhelmed as first time parents. The second time around baby 2 was again almost 4 weeks early and we made full use of Instacart/uber eats as needed. But It was even harder with the older one, as that left very little time for advance meal prepping and a clingy toddler who didn’t understand why there was a new baby that cried a lot.

You didn't know you were pregnant six months earlier? Frozen food can, if properly stored, keeps for a long time with no freezer burn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meal trains are sexist. It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner. Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women. Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.

There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc.

If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control

I hate all the picky ass replies to this OP, but I am so totally agree with this.

My husband is the cook in the family. The meal train relieved him. I didn't want him cooking, I wanted him tending to me and the baby. And many of the meals were made by the men, although the train was organized and ran by my friends.

I literally don’t know what this means. Seriously what does “tending to you” mean? Bringing you glasses of water? Putting your feet up on a pillow? There really isn’t enough work for ONE baby that it requires two adults at the same time. Babies sleep A LOT (16 plus hours a day) and this is when you sleep or tend to housework.

I have never seen any sort of meal train or related support provided by men. Ever. Every email I have received has always been by women. Maybe the women are having their husbands do the cooking behind the scenes, but it’s always women organizing it. I have a husband who does 50/50 at home and he would never in my wildest dreams organize a meal train for a new mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have loved fajitas.

Same. I can’t eat gluten or dairy and am a vegetarian, so out of all the meal ideas on here it would be the only one that I could eat. DH and DS would be happy with it too because we could all pick and choose the parts we like but still be eating the same meal. I don’t understand the point about having to wash multiple dishes and bowls. Shake some cheese directly out of the bag, pour some salsa directly from the jar. Things that can even be done one handed if that’s your thing! Yes, you may have to wash the plate you eat off of, but how is that any different from chicken Marbella or spaghetti and meatballs?

It doesn't make sense. It could be one dish and a bag of tortillas. There are some weirdos who I hope are never brought anything who act like this is the equivalent of showing up with food for a new mom and starting daily waterboarding sessions. Normal people are grateful and capable of putting a dish or two into a dishwasher.

[Anonymous]

Scrapple stir fry with chambuka.