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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Meal trains are sexist.  It’s assuming the man is unavailable to cook and help take care of his partner.  Participating in a meal train is enabling the patriarchy and the unpaid labor performed by women.  Instead of one woman cooking for another woman, the partner should step up and help take care of his family.

There are exceptions for women without a partner, disabilities, etc.

If your partner isn’t going to help provide you with food after the birth then you need to stay on birth control [/quote]

I hate all the picky ass replies to this OP, but I am so totally agree with this. [/quote]

My husband is the cook in the family. The meal train relieved him. I didn't want him cooking, [b]I wanted him tending to me and the baby.[/b] And many of the meals were made by the men, although the train was organized and ran by my friends.
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I literally don’t know what this means.  Seriously what does “tending to you” mean?  Bringing you glasses of water?  Putting your feet up on a pillow?  There really isn’t enough work for ONE baby that it requires two adults at the same time.   Babies sleep A LOT (16 plus hours a day) and this is when you sleep or tend to housework.

I have never seen any sort of meal train or related support provided by men.  Ever.  Every email I have received has always been by women.  Maybe the women are having their husbands do the cooking behind the scenes, but it’s always women organizing it.  I have a husband who does 50/50 at home and he would never in my wildest dreams organize a meal train for a new mom.

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