Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?

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If your kids walks around in the world, anyone can snap their picture and post it. Sorry. No right to privacy. This is well established law.

If you walk into Disney, Disney can use your photo, for example. Just by being there you give them rights.

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Anonymous wrote:We've had this rule for years now including people taking pics of our kids. You need to be upfront about your decision and persistent when you see violations to make people take down pics. I'd say more than half my friends don't post kid pics on social media anyway so when we're around each others kids and taking pics all the parents at this point know what's ok to share on social media. It took a long time for my mom to follow the rule but after a lot of reminding she 100% follows it. My friends and family all use private albums to share kid pics with they trust now - maybe it's a generational thing. Sorry, but once a pic is on the public internet any sicko can use it and manipulate it. Google it.

Make sure you go to school and confiscate all the yearbooks.

Most schools allow kids to be opted out of the yearbook. Many do.

How sad for the kid. Truly. Because there is a .000001% chance of being kidnapped or some other such ridiculousness.

How sad for the kids whose relatives refuse to acknowledge reality. Even sadder for that kid who really is in the percentage that is at risk there when people refuse to take it seriously.

At risk for WHAT for a yearbook photo?

Of the number of kids who go missing, the majority of the time it's either accidental, or they're runaways. Out of the rest of those, parental abduction during custody disputes or domestic violence is the most common. This is why schools are so picky about who can and can't pick up a kid--probably the easiest way for that to happen would be to take them from school, while it's assumed they're safe, and might not be missed for a few hours. Schools do not want to be responsible for giving a kid to the wrong person, or giving out information that could lead to a situation like that. The fact that it's not terribly common doesn't make it any less real for the few that do need to deal with it. Idk about you, but I'm not sure I'd judge anyone in that situation for doing what they needed to do to feel safer, including not going out of their way to make it known where their kid is all day.

Basically, it's a "be grateful you don't get it" situation.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

I am a career prosecutor and have never heard of this.

I have however seen employees from a doctor’s office snap pictures of the patient’s entire profile and open up credit cards using the information of all those people.

So maybe you or baby shouldn’t go to the doctor.

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Anonymous wrote:We've had this rule for years now including people taking pics of our kids. You need to be upfront about your decision and persistent when you see violations to make people take down pics. I'd say more than half my friends don't post kid pics on social media anyway so when we're around each others kids and taking pics all the parents at this point know what's ok to share on social media. It took a long time for my mom to follow the rule but after a lot of reminding she 100% follows it. My friends and family all use private albums to share kid pics with they trust now - maybe it's a generational thing. Sorry, but once a pic is on the public internet any sicko can use it and manipulate it. Google it.

Make sure you go to school and confiscate all the yearbooks.

Most schools allow kids to be opted out of the yearbook. Many do.

How sad for the kid. Truly. Because there is a .000001% chance of being kidnapped or some other such ridiculousness.

How sad for the kids whose relatives refuse to acknowledge reality. Even sadder for that kid who really is in the percentage that is at risk there when people refuse to take it seriously.

At risk for WHAT for a yearbook photo?

Of the number of kids who go missing, the majority of the time it's either accidental, or they're runaways. Out of the rest of those, parental abduction during custody disputes or domestic violence is the most common. This is why schools are so picky about who can and can't pick up a kid--probably the easiest way for that to happen would be to take them from school, while it's assumed they're safe, and might not be missed for a few hours. Schools do not want to be responsible for giving a kid to the wrong person, or giving out information that could lead to a situation like that. The fact that it's not terribly common doesn't make it any less real for the few that do need to deal with it. Idk about you, but I'm not sure I'd judge anyone in that situation for doing what they needed to do to feel safer, including not going out of their way to make it known where their kid is all day.

Basically, it's a "be grateful you don't get it" situation.

It still doesn’t answer how a yearbook photo increases any of those risks. I would assume in a custody dispute, the other parent knows their name and what they look like. Obviously, parents with custody concerns get a pass for however they want to handle it, but that’s not really what we’re talking about here. This is a worst case scenario you’ve made up. We’re talking about the majority of people who thinks it’s risky to have a yearbook photo or anything online. Op hasn’t addressed any real concerns other than they don’t want it out there.
A few people have asked what the risk is - absent other custody concerns and extraordinary family situations - and no one seems to have reasonably answered it.

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Anonymous wrote:We've had this rule for years now including people taking pics of our kids. You need to be upfront about your decision and persistent when you see violations to make people take down pics. I'd say more than half my friends don't post kid pics on social media anyway so when we're around each others kids and taking pics all the parents at this point know what's ok to share on social media. It took a long time for my mom to follow the rule but after a lot of reminding she 100% follows it. My friends and family all use private albums to share kid pics with they trust now - maybe it's a generational thing. Sorry, but once a pic is on the public internet any sicko can use it and manipulate it. Google it.

Make sure you go to school and confiscate all the yearbooks.

Most schools allow kids to be opted out of the yearbook. Many do.

How sad for the kid. Truly. Because there is a .000001% chance of being kidnapped or some other such ridiculousness.

How sad for the kids whose relatives refuse to acknowledge reality. Even sadder for that kid who really is in the percentage that is at risk there when people refuse to take it seriously.

At risk for WHAT for a yearbook photo?

Of the number of kids who go missing, the majority of the time it's either accidental, or they're runaways. Out of the rest of those, parental abduction during custody disputes or domestic violence is the most common. This is why schools are so picky about who can and can't pick up a kid--probably the easiest way for that to happen would be to take them from school, while it's assumed they're safe, and might not be missed for a few hours. Schools do not want to be responsible for giving a kid to the wrong person, or giving out information that could lead to a situation like that. The fact that it's not terribly common doesn't make it any less real for the few that do need to deal with it. Idk about you, but I'm not sure I'd judge anyone in that situation for doing what they needed to do to feel safer, including not going out of their way to make it known where their kid is all day.

Basically, it's a "be grateful you don't get it" situation.

Gosh. I didn’t realize schools allowed pickups with a yearbook. I will definitely no longer allow my kids to be in the yearbook.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

Wow. You're mental.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

You think most identity theft occurs from people scouring the internet for photos posted from grandparents and parents? You’re nuts!
It’s from data breaches. Unless you plan to do no banking or use insurance or any number of things that require a SSN, your child could have their identity stolen.

Ok. I'm not sure I'm following you at the end there, but that's not what I said. I did specifically mention Equifax, and yes, SSN is a huge concern--the Equifax breach is part of why people should be very concerned about this. SSN is damaging enough. But SSN + birthdate + location = basically, somebody could probably get a junk mortgage with just that information. We can't control Equifax, it's done. So why make it even easier to get the rest of the pieces? That, we do still have some control over. We're (presumably) adults, and get to decide what level of risk we're ok with. It's not right to decide to expose a child like that. There are lots of ways to be grandma without social media or posting photos online. We managed for most of human history, I assure you that it is still possible.

But ok, I think we're done here. I've answered several of your questions, and at this point I'm certain enough that this isn't just a basic case of low information. If you were inclined, a quick google search for "children photos safety online" or even "How does identity theft work" would clear much of this up for you without your having to argue with internet strangers any more. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

I am a career prosecutor and have never heard of this.

I have however seen employees from a doctor’s office snap pictures of the patient’s entire profile and open up credit cards using the information of all those people.

So maybe you or baby shouldn’t go to the doctor.

Ok. I sure hope the rest of these posts aren't you as well, because ad hominem is probably a phrase you should be familiar with. Although that's more debate, actual argument rather than just badgering.

Maybe you should've studied cs or got a few security certifications instead. Then, you'd hear about things like this every day.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

You think most identity theft occurs from people scouring the internet for photos posted from grandparents and parents? You’re nuts!
It’s from data breaches. Unless you plan to do no banking or use insurance or any number of things that require a SSN, your child could have their identity stolen.

Ok. I'm not sure I'm following you at the end there, but that's not what I said. I did specifically mention Equifax, and yes, SSN is a huge concern--the Equifax breach is part of why people should be very concerned about this. SSN is damaging enough. But SSN + birthdate + location = basically, somebody could probably get a junk mortgage with just that information. We can't control Equifax, it's done. So why make it even easier to get the rest of the pieces? That, we do still have some control over. We're (presumably) adults, and get to decide what level of risk we're ok with. It's not right to decide to expose a child like that. There are lots of ways to be grandma without social media or posting photos online. We managed for most of human history, I assure you that it is still possible.

But ok, I think we're done here. I've answered several of your questions, and at this point I'm certain enough that this isn't just a basic case of low information. If you were inclined, a quick google search for "children photos safety online" or even "How does identity theft work" would clear much of this up for you without your having to argue with internet strangers any more. Good luck!

A photo of larlas first step does not equal giving people your child’s SSN.
Use the google machine to search paranoia.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

I am a career prosecutor and have never heard of this.

I have however seen employees from a doctor’s office snap pictures of the patient’s entire profile and open up credit cards using the information of all those people.

So maybe you or baby shouldn’t go to the doctor.

Ok. I sure hope the rest of these posts aren't you as well, because ad hominem is probably a phrase you should be familiar with. Although that's more debate, actual argument rather than just badgering.

Maybe you should've studied cs or got a few security certifications instead. Then, you'd hear about things like this every day.

Put the wine down and slowly back away from the computer.

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Some of you people take paranoia to a completely new level. I can’t imagine what sort of mental gymnastics it takes to turn a photo of grandma hugging your child into a risk for identity theft. Or kidnapping.

I say this as someone who IS medicated for anxiety - please get yourselves some help.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do that then you of course will make your child wear a mask at all times out in public.

+100. I genuinely want to know what issue people see with pics of their kids online. No one cares about looking at a random kid. Get over yourselves.

Sure. Let's pretend stalking, bullying, harassment, discrimination, and identity theft don't exist for a minute, and that the law they passed in MD about employers using social media to check people out exists for no reason at all., and that you're totally ok with stuff like your kid's image being used in advertising without their permission or any kind of compensation.

All that stuff about Google or Facebook or amazon or anyone else snooping around and tracking everything you do online so that they can sell your data to marketers is not only just fine with you, but that you also have the right to make that decision for someone who couldn't legally consent to any of this even if they did understand it. Yahoo and Experian were only in the news because no Kardashians farted that day. I'm not even going to get into the details of the international ring of sickos that just got busted and are now in the news. Obviously they started out somewhere, and it probably wasn't the darknet.

Hard to say what it would take (other than something bad actually happening to someone they care about) for some of these posters, but just that last bit is enough for me. Just facebook can automatically tag a photo with a real name. So that, plus If you post little Larla's first cake smash, show someone's house number or a recognizable street sign, pretty soon there's enough for a bad actor to start applying for loans, credit cards, or taking other steps to establish a kid's identity as their own. So then the kid turns 18 and finds out their credit is trashed and they can't get a student loan. I don't know about you, but this is stuff most people never even considered 10 years ago, yet here we are. Do you think it's fair to expose a kid to any of that?

I am a career prosecutor and have never heard of this.

I have however seen employees from a doctor’s office snap pictures of the patient’s entire profile and open up credit cards using the information of all those people.

So maybe you or baby shouldn’t go to the doctor.

Ok. I sure hope the rest of these posts aren't you as well, because ad hominem is probably a phrase you should be familiar with. Although that's more debate, actual argument rather than just badgering.

Maybe you should've studied cs or got a few security certifications instead. Then, you'd hear about things like this every day.

Nope! This is my first post and just sharing actual, real life experience seen over the past 15 years. Unlike you, who just shouts out hypothetical hysteria.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, a lot of bitter grandparents on the forums today.

Maybe this is a generational thing but as a millennial (I’m 35) I don’t know a SINGLE person who thinks it’s okay to post the photo of another person’s child on the internet. There are so many reasons why that’s just inappropriate and unfair to the child. Protecting your child’s SAFETY, privacy and future right to control their internet presence is way more important than a grandparent’s hurt feelings.

Protecting your child’s internet anonymity is just GOOD PARENTING. If you’re a grandparent or relative and that offends you—let me remind you that its not about you.

If you do t understand this, then consider that this is probably the reason why you can’t be trusted with anyone’s photos.

I post pictures of my own children but relatives may not realize I have very tightly restricted privacy controls. Can’t say the same for every random aunt and internet-clueless grandparent out there.

Yes. All of this x 1 million.

Get over yourselves, grandparents.

I get the part about controlling your kids internet presence. But I really don’t see how this is a literal safety issue. Can you elaborate?

I am also curious...what horrible thing is going to happen?
I have a “no naked parts” photo policy, which is reasonable I think. What is going to happen with fully clothed pictures of children? I dont get it.

I don’t get it either. Unless you’re like, in witness protection, what concrete problem do you see arising?

I see this conversation has been derailed and I didn’t want to have to detail the dozens of reasons why, but this is literally one way child pornographers or just generally creepy internet people obtain many of their photos.
Google “digital kidnapping.”
https://www.fastcompany.com/3036073/the-creepiest-new-corner-of-instagram-role-playing-with-stolen-baby-photos

Here is a scenario:
Grandma is babysitting your potty training 2 year old and because she’s a clueless old person whom you gave license to liberally share photos, she snaps a photo of your kid sitting on the potty and shares it on Facebook. Or maybe the 2 year old was having a meltdown over something funny. Doesn’t need to be naked to be sensitive!
Now any rando she went to high school with and other clueless old relatives who find it cute and funny can take a screenshot and share it
And because of facial recognition when your child is 18 this photo of her will still be floating around the internet.

Not fair to the kid in the future and there are definitely creepy people out there collecting kid photos.

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I sure hope you people don’t share photos on your own Facebook. I have a feeling some of the creeps you went to high school with or Jimmy from your running club are more likely to “digitally kidnap” your child than Gertrude from grandma’s book club.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, a lot of bitter grandparents on the forums today.

Maybe this is a generational thing but as a millennial (I’m 35) I don’t know a SINGLE person who thinks it’s okay to post the photo of another person’s child on the internet. There are so many reasons why that’s just inappropriate and unfair to the child. Protecting your child’s SAFETY, privacy and future right to control their internet presence is way more important than a grandparent’s hurt feelings.

Protecting your child’s internet anonymity is just GOOD PARENTING. If you’re a grandparent or relative and that offends you—let me remind you that its not about you.

If you do t understand this, then consider that this is probably the reason why you can’t be trusted with anyone’s photos.

I post pictures of my own children but relatives may not realize I have very tightly restricted privacy controls. Can’t say the same for every random aunt and internet-clueless grandparent out there.

Yes. All of this x 1 million.

Get over yourselves, grandparents.

I get the part about controlling your kids internet presence. But I really don’t see how this is a literal safety issue. Can you elaborate?

I am also curious...what horrible thing is going to happen?
I have a “no naked parts” photo policy, which is reasonable I think. What is going to happen with fully clothed pictures of children? I dont get it.

I don’t get it either. Unless you’re like, in witness protection, what concrete problem do you see arising?

I see this conversation has been derailed and I didn’t want to have to detail the dozens of reasons why, but this is literally one way child pornographers or just generally creepy internet people obtain many of their photos.
Google “digital kidnapping.”
https://www.fastcompany.com/3036073/the-creepiest-new-corner-of-instagram-role-playing-with-stolen-baby-photos

Here is a scenario:
Grandma is babysitting your potty training 2 year old and because she’s a clueless old person whom you gave license to liberally share photos, she snaps a photo of your kid sitting on the potty and shares it on Facebook. Or maybe the 2 year old was having a meltdown over something funny. Doesn’t need to be naked to be sensitive!
Now any rando she went to high school with and other clueless old relatives who find it cute and funny can take a screenshot and share it
And because of facial recognition when your child is 18 this photo of her will still be floating around the internet.

Not fair to the kid in the future and there are definitely creepy people out there collecting kid photos.

This is what you are so worked up about? Your baby pictures being used by teenage girls making crap up on the internet? I used to be in a multiples group and there were always people who pretended to have multiples. No idea why. But i never once felt threatened by them. Weird, yes. Worth worrying about and/or destroying a relationship with grandparents? Nope.