Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a difference between sharing. If I share a digital image with granny and she posts it on a website or social media and refuses to take it down. I can contact the platform and they will take it down. If granny texts or emails it to her book club, I can do anything to pull it back but I can stop sending images to granny. If granny insists on taking her own pictures and posting them anyway I can easily disallow granny access to the kids.

I've honestly never heard of someone refusing to take down or cease and deists from posting a kid's picture when a parent asks. Someone who is this rude is likely to be a boundary crossing a-hole in other ways so chances are they end up being no contacted anyway.

If you go no contact with grandma because you are so power driven you want to ban her from texting a photo to her best friend, then that says more about you than her. And it's only hurting your kid to lose someone in their life who loves them. I say this as a mom, not a grandma yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also think that there is rampant violation of children's privacy from attention seeking idiots out there. The mommy, granny or auntie bloggers who share way too many details about their kids lives for everyone to see just so they can get attention are really disgusting IMO. It is humiliating for the children but all the person cares about is getting attention.

Kids deserve to not have their images or their lives broadcast so granny, auntie or mommy can get a few more clicks or likes.

Exactly, classic "look at me" culture. The kids are just pawns as these mommies and grannies try to seek attention. That's why I tell my family not to post pics of my kids. Sorry that I am depriving you of likes from the 50 people you haven't seen in 3 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a difference between sharing. If I share a digital image with granny and she posts it on a website or social media and refuses to take it down. I can contact the platform and they will take it down. If granny texts or emails it to her book club, I can do anything to pull it back but I can stop sending images to granny. If granny insists on taking her own pictures and posting them anyway I can easily disallow granny access to the kids.

I've honestly never heard of someone refusing to take down or cease and deists from posting a kid's picture when a parent asks. Someone who is this rude is likely to be a boundary crossing a-hole in other ways so chances are they end up being no contacted anyway.

I think you are confused about who is in the photo and who owns it (because they took it). You ask for it to be taken down because granny doesn’t own the photo, you do. Not because your kids are in it. Your distinctions don’t really make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also think that there is rampant violation of children's privacy from attention seeking idiots out there. The mommy, granny or auntie bloggers who share way too many details about their kids lives for everyone to see just so they can get attention are really disgusting IMO. It is humiliating for the children but all the person cares about is getting attention.

Kids deserve to not have their images or their lives broadcast so granny, auntie or mommy can get a few more clicks or likes.

Exactly, classic "look at me" culture. The kids are just pawns as these mommies and grannies try to seek attention. That's why I tell my family not to post pics of my kids. Sorry that I am depriving you of likes from the 50 people you haven't seen in 3 years.

Or maybe they’re proud. You’re so paranoid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I also think that there is rampant violation of children's privacy from attention seeking idiots out there. The mommy, granny or auntie bloggers who share way too many details about their kids lives for everyone to see just so they can get attention are really disgusting IMO. It is humiliating for the children but all the person cares about is getting attention.

Kids deserve to not have their images or their lives broadcast so granny, auntie or mommy can get a few more clicks or likes.


Exactly, classic "look at me" culture. The kids are just pawns as these mommies and grannies try to seek attention. That's why I tell my family not to post pics of my kids. Sorry that I am depriving you of likes from the 50 people you haven't seen in 3 years.


Or maybe they’re proud. You’re so paranoid.

This is exactly attention seeking. They are proud of their cute grandchildren and are seeking attention by using the kids to get more likes, clicks, compliments whatever. None of these people need to see a picture of a Larlo on the Internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I also think that there is rampant violation of children's privacy from attention seeking idiots out there. The mommy, granny or auntie bloggers who share way too many details about their kids lives for everyone to see just so they can get attention are really disgusting IMO. It is humiliating for the children but all the person cares about is getting attention.

Kids deserve to not have their images or their lives broadcast so granny, auntie or mommy can get a few more clicks or likes.


Exactly, classic "look at me" culture. The kids are just pawns as these mommies and grannies try to seek attention. That's why I tell my family not to post pics of my kids. Sorry that I am depriving you of likes from the 50 people you haven't seen in 3 years.


Or maybe they’re proud. You’re so paranoid.

This is exactly attention seeking. They are proud of their cute grandchildren and are seeking attention by using the kids to get more likes, clicks, compliments whatever. None of these people need to see a picture of a Larlo on the Internet.

Of course they don’t NEED to. You sound insane. Completely seriously what do you think that an 80-year-old woman’s friends are going to do with a picture of your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I also think that there is rampant violation of children's privacy from attention seeking idiots out there. The mommy, granny or auntie bloggers who share way too many details about their kids lives for everyone to see just so they can get attention are really disgusting IMO. It is humiliating for the children but all the person cares about is getting attention.

Kids deserve to not have their images or their lives broadcast so granny, auntie or mommy can get a few more clicks or likes.


Exactly, classic "look at me" culture. The kids are just pawns as these mommies and grannies try to seek attention. That's why I tell my family not to post pics of my kids. Sorry that I am depriving you of likes from the 50 people you haven't seen in 3 years.


Or maybe they’re proud. You’re so paranoid.

But their desire to show how their proud they are does not trump what the parent wants and the child's privacy. Children are not props

This is exactly attention seeking. They are proud of their cute grandchildren and are seeking attention by using the kids to get more likes, clicks, compliments whatever. None of these people need to see a picture of a Larlo on the Internet.

Of course they don’t NEED to. You sound insane. Completely seriously what do you think that an 80-year-old woman’s friends are going to do with a picture of your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I also think that there is rampant violation of children's privacy from attention seeking idiots out there. The mommy, granny or auntie bloggers who share way too many details about their kids lives for everyone to see just so they can get attention are really disgusting IMO. It is humiliating for the children but all the person cares about is getting attention.

Kids deserve to not have their images or their lives broadcast so granny, auntie or mommy can get a few more clicks or likes.


Exactly, classic "look at me" culture. The kids are just pawns as these mommies and grannies try to seek attention. That's why I tell my family not to post pics of my kids. Sorry that I am depriving you of likes from the 50 people you haven't seen in 3 years.


Or maybe they’re proud. You’re so paranoid.

But their desire to show how their proud they are does not trump what the parent wants and the child's privacy. Children are not props

This is exactly attention seeking. They are proud of their cute grandchildren and are seeking attention by using the kids to get more likes, clicks, compliments whatever. None of these people need to see a picture of a Larlo on the Internet.

Of course they don’t NEED to. You sound insane. Completely seriously what do you think that an 80-year-old woman’s friends are going to do with a picture of your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Wait, wait...

The OP doesn't even have kids yet??
She felt the need to start this 13 page debate about whether or not she'll allow her in laws to post pics to Facebook *WHEN* she has kids??

This is so dramatic... find a hobby, OP.

Has she even come back to update??

Others carried on for 13 pages. Not OP.

Uh, that's the exact point.

OP made one post - her original post & has not returned since then. Curious...

She got everyone all amped up & just sat back and marveled at her successful trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Wait, wait...

The OP doesn't even have kids yet??
She felt the need to start this 13 page debate about whether or not she'll allow her in laws to post pics to Facebook *WHEN* she has kids??

This is so dramatic... find a hobby, OP.

Has she even come back to update??

Others carried on for 13 pages. Not OP.

Uh, that's the exact point.

OP made one post - her original post & has not returned since then. Curious...

She got everyone all amped up & just sat back and marveled at her successful trolling.

x1000

[Anonymous]

I get social media but to tell them to to share a picture of
Them with their grandkids to their friends are cousin who I would assume they are vetted through the grandparents that seems really over controlling and I am very much about boundaries but damn who’s got time to be trying to enforce that shit. Meanwhile the freak you need to be worried about is the dude next-door or in the lady across the street or Becky’s best friend’s cousin and not Miss Mildred who plays bingo with your momma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get social media but to tell them to to share a picture of
Them with their grandkids to their friends are cousin who I would assume they are vetted through the grandparents that seems really over controlling and I am very much about boundaries but damn who’s got time to be trying to enforce that shit. Meanwhile the freak you need to be worried about is the dude next-door or in the lady across the street or Becky’s best friend’s cousin and not Miss Mildred who plays bingo with your momma.

He's IN the lady across the street????

Holy shit, use a period now and again... or, ya know, a paragraph.

My brain hurts from trying to read this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kids were younger, I asked that if my mom posted photos of my kids on FB that she restrict access to people she actually knew (she has A LOT of FB "friends" that she has only met online through various groups). Given that her FB settings are pretty locked down and she's always limited posts to certain people, this wasn't a problem for her.

Now that my kids are older, the rule is no photos posted at all. Ever. But that's not my rule, it's the request of my kids who are old enough not to want their pictures online. They don't love being photographed in the first place (one more so than the other) but will willingly pose for one photo per visit with the grandparents and will allow retakes until it turns out well, but prefer that the picture is for grandma and grandpa's eyes only.

+1

For everyone decrying crazy mommies, a lot of times kids don't want to have their photos posted online, either. You gotta respect their wishes for the right to use their image/likeness, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Great video that shows the damage of "sharenting"

https://youtu.be/YRPUZ3pufAg

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents...hate to break it to you but you had your turn. You have absolutely zero claim to your grandchildren.

False.

Go research grandparent rights in your state. There's only a few where you have any legal recourse to your grandchildren