Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?

[Anonymous]

Don't be that crazy person that uses is excuses (kids, dogs, etc) to control the actions of others around you.

[Anonymous]

You’re not being crazy or selfish. There’s basically little you can do here — it’s probably best to just roll with it — but posting other people’s photos to social media is incredibly rude, period.

[Anonymous]

You sound nutty and overly controlling. And you say you are not on social media, so you don't even really have a handle on what you are talking about. If and when you have a child, the child's grandparents are bound to be excited and proud. Why would you deny them the chance to share photos of their grandchild with their friends? You can ask them to establish their privacy settings so only their friends can see the photos and they won't be "plastered all over social media." Really, find something else to be worried about. You are gunning for a fight over photos of a child who isn't even born yet...?

[Anonymous]

Everyone involved here seems kind of odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it selfish? Grandparents have zero right to grandchildren and/or their photos

See if you feel that way down the road (if you even have kids).

[Anonymous]

We've had this rule for years now including people taking pics of our kids. You need to be upfront about your decision and persistent when you see violations to make people take down pics. I'd say more than half my friends don't post kid pics on social media anyway so when we're around each others kids and taking pics all the parents at this point know what's ok to share on social media. It took a long time for my mom to follow the rule but after a lot of reminding she 100% follows it. My friends and family all use private albums to share kid pics with they trust now - maybe it's a generational thing. Sorry, but once a pic is on the public internet any sicko can use it and manipulate it. Google it.

[Anonymous]

We've had this rule for years now including people taking pics of our kids. You need to be upfront about your decision and persistent when you see violations to make people take down pics. I'd say more than half my friends don't post kid pics on social media anyway so when we're around each others kids and taking pics all the parents at this point know what's ok to share on social media. It took a long time for my mom to follow the rule but after a lot of reminding she 100% follows it. My friends and family all use private albums to share kid pics with they trust now - maybe it's a generational thing. Sorry, but once a pic is on the public internet any sicko can use it and manipulate it. Google it.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t want them posting photos, then don’t send them any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't think it's selfish to ask someone to not send photos of my child to strangers, to randos at their weird church, and to 3rd cousins who don't know us.

I think its pretty common to not do social media for a child? No?

No, it’s not common. And it’s selfish because your kid is THEIR grandkid. They should be allowed to share that. You have the right to ask, but I’d find something else to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it selfish? Grandparents have zero right to grandchildren and/or their photos

See if you feel that way down the road (if you even have kids).

NP, I also feel this was and my kids are 18 and 20.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it selfish? Grandparents have zero right to grandchildren and/or their photos

Now that's selfish.

[Anonymous]

It is very normal for grandparents to be proud of being a grandparent and to want to share pics of their grandchildren with their friends and family.

Since about a decade ago, the most common way that is done is through online forms, be it email or social media. Most photos are now digital files and often people don't even have hard copies of them.

Personally I don't really understand why it could be so awful for third cousin Mildred or Betty that lives next door to see a pic. People have been sharing pics of grandchildren since photography was invented.

[Anonymous]

Wow, a lot of bitter grandparents on the forums today.

Maybe this is a generational thing but as a millennial (I’m 35) I don’t know a SINGLE person who thinks it’s okay to post the photo of another person’s child on the internet. There are so many reasons why that’s just inappropriate and unfair to the child. Protecting your child’s SAFETY, privacy and future right to control their internet presence is way more important than a grandparent’s hurt feelings.

Protecting your child’s internet anonymity is just GOOD PARENTING. If you’re a grandparent or relative and that offends you—let me remind you that its not about you.

If you do t understand this, then consider that this is probably the reason why you can’t be trusted with anyone’s photos.

I post pictures of my own children but relatives may not realize I have very tightly restricted privacy controls. Can’t say the same for every random aunt and internet-clueless grandparent out there.

[Anonymous]

Grandparents...hate to break it to you but you had your turn. You have absolutely zero claim to your grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents...hate to break it to you but you had your turn. You have absolutely zero claim to your grandchildren.

False.