Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, a lot of bitter grandparents on the forums today.

Maybe this is a generational thing but as a millennial (I’m 35) I don’t know a SINGLE person who thinks it’s okay to post the photo of another person’s child on the internet. There are so many reasons why that’s just inappropriate and unfair to the child. Protecting your child’s SAFETY, privacy and future right to control their internet presence is way more important than a grandparent’s hurt feelings.

Protecting your child’s internet anonymity is just GOOD PARENTING. If you’re a grandparent or relative and that offends you—let me remind you that its not about you.

If you do t understand this, then consider that this is probably the reason why you can’t be trusted with anyone’s photos.

I post pictures of my own children but relatives may not realize I have very tightly restricted privacy controls. Can’t say the same for every random aunt and internet-clueless grandparent out there.

Yes. All of this x 1 million.

Get over yourselves, grandparents.

I get the part about controlling your kids internet presence. But I really don’t see how this is a literal safety issue. Can you elaborate?

I am also curious...what horrible thing is going to happen?
I have a “no naked parts” photo policy, which is reasonable I think. What is going to happen with fully clothed pictures of children? I dont get it.

I don’t get it either. Unless you’re like, in witness protection, what concrete problem do you see arising?

I see this conversation has been derailed and I didn’t want to have to detail the dozens of reasons why, but this is literally one way child pornographers or just generally creepy internet people obtain many of their photos.
Google “digital kidnapping.”
https://www.fastcompany.com/3036073/the-creepiest-new-corner-of-instagram-role-playing-with-stolen-baby-photos

Here is a scenario:
Grandma is babysitting your potty training 2 year old and because she’s a clueless old person whom you gave license to liberally share photos, she snaps a photo of your kid sitting on the potty and shares it on Facebook. Or maybe the 2 year old was having a meltdown over something funny. Doesn’t need to be naked to be sensitive!
Now any rando she went to high school with and other clueless old relatives who find it cute and funny can take a screenshot and share it
And because of facial recognition when your child is 18 this photo of her will still be floating around the internet.

Not fair to the kid in the future and there are definitely creepy people out there collecting kid photos.

So what is the end result? Photos of your child show up on the internet and what happens? They lose a potential job because a baby photos surfaced? I still can’t understand why I need to be terrified of digital kidnapping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people take paranoia to a completely new level. I can’t imagine what sort of mental gymnastics it takes to turn a photo of grandma hugging your child into a risk for identity theft. Or kidnapping.

I say this as someone who IS medicated for anxiety - please get yourselves some help.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, a lot of bitter grandparents on the forums today.

Maybe this is a generational thing but as a millennial (I’m 35) I don’t know a SINGLE person who thinks it’s okay to post the photo of another person’s child on the internet. There are so many reasons why that’s just inappropriate and unfair to the child. Protecting your child’s SAFETY, privacy and future right to control their internet presence is way more important than a grandparent’s hurt feelings.

Protecting your child’s internet anonymity is just GOOD PARENTING. If you’re a grandparent or relative and that offends you—let me remind you that its not about you.

If you do t understand this, then consider that this is probably the reason why you can’t be trusted with anyone’s photos.

I post pictures of my own children but relatives may not realize I have very tightly restricted privacy controls. Can’t say the same for every random aunt and internet-clueless grandparent out there.

You really don’t have stones to throw about “good parenting”. Have you heard of screen shots? If you truly think it’s an issue, you shouldn’t post any photos at all. I mean you are basically saying I can do it because it’s my kid but you can’t to the grandparents. You aren’t concerned about the child if you’re posting photos yourself. It’s hypocritical. And sure you can have whatever policy you want about your own kids, but I can understand why it would irritate grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people take paranoia to a completely new level. I can’t imagine what sort of mental gymnastics it takes to turn a photo of grandma hugging your child into a risk for identity theft. Or kidnapping.

I say this as someone who IS medicated for anxiety - please get yourselves some help.

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Yup. You all sound mental. Good luck parenting.

[Anonymous]

I mean you are basically saying I can do it because it’s my kid but you can’t to the grandparents.

Uh, yes, I am.

I am sorry for all the sad, bitter grandparents in here and I pray for you to heal so you can have a good relationship with your grandchildren that is based in mutual respect and not just Facebook posts!

But I can’t be your therapist or help you with all your personal issues so I’m going to see myself out.

I really can’t help you if you think it’s ok for child pornographers or internet creeps to take your grandkids’ photos. You got much bigger problems than a disagreement over social media.

[Anonymous]

I truly cannot believe these responses. Beyond the fact that my kid didn't consent to having their picture on the internet, there are a lot of sick people out there who collect and doctor photos of children. We don't share photos on any social media channel and our family doesn't either, because they respect us and our decisions and also want what's best for our kids.

For god's sake do a little bit of reading about this issue before you call parents controlling. Effing boomers man.
https://nationalpost.com/news/canada/photos-shared-on-pedophile-sites-taken-from-parents-social-media-accounts

[Anonymous]

Not sure why so many parents here are ok with their childs pics being used in porn. Those folks don't deserve to be parents for playing a role in that. Shame on them for being so selfish. Sicko people.

https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/reader-stories/mums-warning-i-found-my-childrens-photos-on-porn-sites/news-story/d311f1affe3fbd6df8fbbee5bf58a8d3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many parents here are ok with their childs pics being used in porn. Those folks don't deserve to be parents for playing a role in that. Shame on them for being so selfish. Sicko people.

https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/reader-stories/mums-warning-i-found-my-childrens-photos-on-porn-sites/news-story/d311f1affe3fbd6df8fbbee5bf58a8d3

+100000 what the f*ck is wrong with you people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many parents here are ok with their childs pics being used in porn. Those folks don't deserve to be parents for playing a role in that. Shame on them for being so selfish. Sicko people.

https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/reader-stories/mums-warning-i-found-my-childrens-photos-on-porn-sites/news-story/d311f1affe3fbd6df8fbbee5bf58a8d3

+100000 what the f*ck is wrong with you people?

Yes everyone who posts their child’s photos on social media - especially if most of the audience are senior citizens - is definitely exposing them to pornographic pedophiles. You guys are insane. Do your children wear masks in public? They should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I mean you are basically saying I can do it because it’s my kid but you can’t to the grandparents.

Uh, yes, I am.

I am sorry for all the sad, bitter grandparents in here and I pray for you to heal so you can have a good relationship with your grandchildren that is based in mutual respect and not just Facebook posts!

But I can’t be your therapist or help you with all your personal issues so I’m going to see myself out.

I really can’t help you if you think it’s ok for child pornographers or internet creeps to take your grandkids’ photos. You got much bigger problems than a disagreement over social media.

You literally are talking in circles. YOU replied you posted photos of your children on Facebook but your privacy is tighter. YOU are putting them out there.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why people get so angry about this. It’s quite simple. The parents decide whether they want pictures of their kid(s) posted on social media, and others abide by their wishes. It doesn’t matter if you would want something different for your own kids. Agree to disagree. But the parents get to decide for their own children until said children are old enough to make responsible decisions. If you don’t like it, don’t take/accept/expect photos of the children of other people.

[Anonymous]

My in-laws are super psycho about pics and it does make them hard to be around. We’re local but they never ever visit us. When we visit them it’s nonstop pictures and videos. It’s like they can’t live in the moment. And then they constantly are group texting the photos to everyone. Frankly it’s in appropriate and it’s like they never learned basic manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people take paranoia to a completely new level. I can’t imagine what sort of mental gymnastics it takes to turn a photo of grandma hugging your child into a risk for identity theft. Or kidnapping.

I say this as someone who IS medicated for anxiety - please get yourselves some help.

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Yup. You all sound mental. Good luck parenting.

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Totally agree. What exactly do you think is going to happen if people see a picture of your child on Facebook? People see your child at the park, at school, at the grocery store,.... Y’all need meds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people get so angry about this. It’s quite simple. The parents decide whether they want pictures of their kid(s) posted on social media, and others abide by their wishes. It doesn’t matter if you would want something different for your own kids. Agree to disagree. But the parents get to decide for their own children until said children are old enough to make responsible decisions. If you don’t like it, don’t take/accept/expect photos of the children of other people.

I will post pics of whom ever I damn well please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people get so angry about this. It’s quite simple. The parents decide whether they want pictures of their kid(s) posted on social media, and others abide by their wishes. It doesn’t matter if you would want something different for your own kids. Agree to disagree. But the parents get to decide for their own children until said children are old enough to make responsible decisions. If you don’t like it, don’t take/accept/expect photos of the children of other people.

I will post pics of whom ever I damn well please.

Man you’re an asshole