Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?

[Anonymous]

FIL overshare everything, especially on Facebook. We will probably do a few no face Instagram shots but really aren't planning on it. Can we ask in laws not to post photos we send them to social media? Anytime we send photos they post them, even when it's something we wouldn't want posted. Just today, he posted a photo of mil holding a random child with the caption we don't have grandbabies yet.

They both text photos to their family and friends, DH extended family which I've never met and he isn't close to. Friends we've never met and will never meet. Is it fair to ask them to limit sharing to those we know or immediate aunts/uncle's/cousins but that's it.

Ex. A relative will send mil photos and then she sends them to me. I have no idea who these kids are. She will also send us photos of kids in her classroom (5th grade). It's weird.

I'm sure I sound crazy but I want to establish boundaries with this ahead of time

[Anonymous]

Don't be that daughter in law. Selfish.

[Anonymous]

Just let it go. You are asking for more trouble than it’s worth.

[Anonymous]

I really don't think it's selfish to ask someone to not send photos of my child to strangers, to randos at their weird church, and to 3rd cousins who don't know us.

I think its pretty common to not do social media for a child? No?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't be that daughter in law. Selfish.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Also I'll send them a million photos a day. That I don't care about but I don't think my child's photos should be shown to their entire world. That's insane.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care so much if someone that your in-laws know see your baby’s face on social media? Serious question. Who cares? No face Instagram shots? Are you royalty (and even they showed their baby).

[Anonymous]

We are private. We don't want our child plastered over anyone's social media.

[Anonymous]

OP, you do not have children yet, correct? And what ages are your ILs?

If you truly do not want your kid’s picture showing up on social media via your ILs, don’t send a picture. You can ask ILs not to share your kid’s picture via text or social media, but the only way you can be absolutely SURE it won’t happen is to not send the pic in the first place.

It is 100% the right of you & your DH to work to keep your kid’s pictures off social media. Just be advised that, once your kid starts K, you’ll be bailing the Titanic with a bucket - regardless of what your ILs do or don’t do.

Signed,
Mom of 4

[Anonymous]

My mom knows I prefer that none of our pictures appear on facebook (we have no social media accounts). She generally respects it. I think it would be harder if it was just a matter of "we want to post it before you do..." I guess the ones you want to post should not be sent to them. Your post it sharing them already.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s a big deal to ask them not to post your child’s photos on social media. Personally I never post pictures of anyone’s children without their explicit consent because many, many people do not want their kids’ pics out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom knows I prefer that none of our pictures appear on facebook (we have no social media accounts). She generally respects it. I think it would be harder if it was just a matter of "we want to post it before you do..." I guess the ones you want to post should not be sent to them. Your post it sharing them already.

I find it very odd that

Sorry just re-read. It is not about who gets to post. Teachers should definitely not be sharing pictures of kids at school on their personal account!!! Some parents do not consent to have pictures released at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't be that daughter in law. Selfish.

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[Anonymous]

No you can’t.

[Anonymous]

How is it selfish? Grandparents have zero right to grandchildren and/or their photos