Letting kids ahead of you in the bathroom line?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don’t. My newly potty trained kid really was on the verge of an accident in the public bathroom for one of the commuter ferries in NYC, because the ride was like 30 minutes. No one would let her cut even when I did the apologetic begging thing. I finally held her over the sink. I got a few weird looks but WTF was I supposed to do.

Anyway, even with that experience, I wouldn’t normally let a kid cut me unless they were obviously in distressed or they/their parent asked with explanation.

You are disgusting and a bad parent.

What were you supposed to do? Maybe proactively ask your newly potty trained child every 30 if they need to go to
The bathroom and insist they try about 50% of the time so they don’t get ‘on the verge of an accident’.

Thanks? The commute took much longer than it was supposed to. (That's why I referenced the 30 minute ferry ride; it's usually like 10.) There was a bathroom available, but the line was long and my guess is that one of the two bathrooms had someone in it who wasn't leaving, so it was taking longer than usual. She was a 3 year old, so not the world's biggest bladder. She'd been holding it for about 15 minutes at the point she told me she was starting to leak and no one would let her go ahead. I'm actually curious what you would have done that would be less gross than peeing in a sink. We still had a 30 minute commute once the ferry arrived at the station.

[Anonymous]

You were first in line. Kid can wet her pants. She needs to be taught some manners. I have.let pregnsnt women and elderly women or people in wheelchairs go ahead of me but not women with children. Just because some brat needs a bathroom does not constitute an emergency on my part!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don’t. My newly potty trained kid really was on the verge of an accident in the public bathroom for one of the commuter ferries in NYC, because the ride was like 30 minutes. No one would let her cut even when I did the apologetic begging thing. I finally held her over the sink. I got a few weird looks but WTF was I supposed to do.

Anyway, even with that experience, I wouldn’t normally let a kid cut me unless they were obviously in distressed or they/their parent asked with explanation.

You are disgusting and a bad parent.

What were you supposed to do? Maybe proactively ask your newly potty trained child every 30 if they need to go to
The bathroom and insist they try about 50% of the time so they don’t get ‘on the verge of an accident’.

Thanks? The commute took much longer than it was supposed to. (That's why I referenced the 30 minute ferry ride; it's usually like 10.) There was a bathroom available, but the line was long and my guess is that one of the two bathrooms had someone in it who wasn't leaving, so it was taking longer than usual. She was a 3 year old, so not the world's biggest bladder. She'd been holding it for about 15 minutes at the point she told me she was starting to leak and no one would let her go ahead. I'm actually curious what you would have done that would be less gross than peeing in a sink. We still had a 30 minute commute once the ferry arrived at the station.

Definitely use the sink at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have let the kid go first and I wouldn't have opened the door to let her in until I was finished in the bathroom. I find it kind of odd that you let her in while you were still in there.

Oh to be clear I wasn't using the toilet myself (I had to pee but I wasn't going to, with the kid waiting and the woman berating me outside the door). I was solely using the room as a changing facility for the baby. But yeah I kind of made the suggestion tongue in cheek/ in annoyance when I opened the door, I probably shouldn't have. Not that I cared that the girl came in to use the other half of the bathroom facility, but still.

Eh, I would've peed if I had to go. Especially 5 months post partum. I'm sure I couldn't have held it.

I would've loudly announced that, too. But I'm a bigger B and I will out-crazy anyone.

+1

That 's just it, no qualms about outcrazying these amateurs. I am never going to see these people again. Besides I planned accordingly - a parent has a responsibility to plan accordingly, also. It is not your business why I have to pee when I have to pee, if I have my place in line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don’t. My newly potty trained kid really was on the verge of an accident in the public bathroom for one of the commuter ferries in NYC, because the ride was like 30 minutes. No one would let her cut even when I did the apologetic begging thing. I finally held her over the sink. I got a few weird looks but WTF was I supposed to do.

Anyway, even with that experience, I wouldn’t normally let a kid cut me unless they were obviously in distressed or they/their parent asked with explanation.

You are disgusting and a bad parent.

What were you supposed to do? Maybe proactively ask your newly potty trained child every 30 if they need to go to
The bathroom and insist they try about 50% of the time so they don’t get ‘on the verge of an accident’.

+1

Be a responsible parent, not a lazy parent.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would have repeated the mom's words exactly and repeatedly: "EVELYN! THERE IS A LINE!" Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

Also, I’m not going to chance a blowout diaper in my stroller , in “a discrete corner” (?? In a children’s museum in the summer? Right!)even if I had one with me, when there are clean changing facilities. That’s disgusting.

You need to learn to function. Put some paper towels down on the sink and change your baby - or wait your turn. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

Also, I’m not going to chance a blowout diaper in my stroller , in “a discrete corner” (?? In a children’s museum in the summer? Right!)even if I had one with me, when there are clean changing facilities. That’s disgusting.

You need to learn to function. Put some paper towels down on the sink and change your baby - or wait your turn. Simple.

OP here- was this directed at me? It WAS my turn. That's the whole point of the post- it was my turn, and I didn't let a kid go ahead of me (in what seemed like a non emergency situation)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

OP here- to say what exactly? "There is a 4 year old playing in the enclosed/door guarded/well staffed childrens area, and his mother is 30 feet away- also in the childrens area- waiting in the bathroom line, but not currently interacting with her 4 year old. Please send someone immediately!"

In all seriousness maybe I didn't describe the childrens area well...? Because parents in there typically use the (single stall) bathroom solo unless their child has to go also. I see plenty of moms walking in or out of it without a child. I go to this museum a lot. It wasn't like I let him loose in the main hall of the AMNH in NYC and peaced out for 20 minutes. This room is about the size of 4 elementary school classrooms, and has only one entrance that is staffed so no kids can escape. I promise you, the only thing I was worried about with my 4 year old was "I hope he isn't hogging the good toys at the train table..." or "I hope no one is teasing him", etc. Also he's 4 and a half, not 2. He doesn't run away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

For what? Changing the diaper out in the open (gross but certainly not illegal) or a mom going into a bathroom and not bringing her 4 year old in with her, in what sounds like a smallish indoor play space? (I’ve gone to the restroom without my 4 year old at indoor trampoline parks and such and never thought twice about it)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

Also, I’m not going to chance a blowout diaper in my stroller , in “a discrete corner” (?? In a children’s museum in the summer? Right!)even if I had one with me, when there are clean changing facilities. That’s disgusting.

Dp. Right. And nobody else at the museum wants a parent changing a poopy diaper in a discrete corner either. We don't want to smell it. I would give the side-eye to a mom doing that and wonder why she didn't use the available changing facilities in the bathroom.

Thank you! For some reason this suggestion that I shouldn't use the available changing facilities- but instead change a disgusting diaper out in the open- so that the restroom can stay open for others to use instead of me, bothers me more than the crazy mom I posted about. Haha.

You sound unhinged. You posted a million separate replies to this one suggestion. So weird.

I would never leave my kid unattended anywhere. That's just nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don’t. My newly potty trained kid really was on the verge of an accident in the public bathroom for one of the commuter ferries in NYC, because the ride was like 30 minutes. No one would let her cut even when I did the apologetic begging thing. I finally held her over the sink. I got a few weird looks but WTF was I supposed to do.

Anyway, even with that experience, I wouldn’t normally let a kid cut me unless they were obviously in distressed or they/their parent asked with explanation.

You are disgusting and a bad parent.

What were you supposed to do? Maybe proactively ask your newly potty trained child every 30 if they need to go to
The bathroom and insist they try about 50% of the time so they don’t get ‘on the verge of an accident’.

Thanks? The commute took much longer than it was supposed to. (That's why I referenced the 30 minute ferry ride; it's usually like 10.) There was a bathroom available, but the line was long and my guess is that one of the two bathrooms had someone in it who wasn't leaving, so it was taking longer than usual. She was a 3 year old, so not the world's biggest bladder. She'd been holding it for about 15 minutes at the point she told me she was starting to leak and no one would let her go ahead. I'm actually curious what you would have done that would be less gross than peeing in a sink. We still had a 30 minute commute once the ferry arrived at the station.

NP. I would have tried the men's room. Even if there had been a line, men would be more likely to let you cut it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

Also, I’m not going to chance a blowout diaper in my stroller , in “a discrete corner” (?? In a children’s museum in the summer? Right!)even if I had one with me, when there are clean changing facilities. That’s disgusting.

Dp. Right. And nobody else at the museum wants a parent changing a poopy diaper in a discrete corner either. We don't want to smell it. I would give the side-eye to a mom doing that and wonder why she didn't use the available changing facilities in the bathroom.

Thank you! For some reason this suggestion that I shouldn't use the available changing facilities- but instead change a disgusting diaper out in the open- so that the restroom can stay open for others to use instead of me, bothers me more than the crazy mom I posted about. Haha.

You sound unhinged. You posted a million separate replies to this one suggestion. So weird.

I would never leave my kid unattended anywhere. That's just nuts.

Because the suggestion was repulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

OP here- to say what exactly? "There is a 4 year old playing in the enclosed/door guarded/well staffed childrens area, and his mother is 30 feet away- also in the childrens area- waiting in the bathroom line, but not currently interacting with her 4 year old. Please send someone immediately!"

In all seriousness maybe I didn't describe the childrens area well...? Because parents in there typically use the (single stall) bathroom solo unless their child has to go also. I see plenty of moms walking in or out of it without a child. I go to this museum a lot. It wasn't like I let him loose in the main hall of the AMNH in NYC and peaced out for 20 minutes. This room is about the size of 4 elementary school classrooms, and has only one entrance that is staffed so no kids can escape. I promise you, the only thing I was worried about with my 4 year old was "I hope he isn't hogging the good toys at the train table..." or "I hope no one is teasing him", etc. Also he's 4 and a half, not 2. He doesn't run away.

If it’s ok for him to be unattended in the safe space of the children’s area, then why did you make such a big deal about the little girl going to the bathroom in front of you? Let it go! I’m beginning to agree with the PP who said you were unhinged.