Letting kids ahead of you in the bathroom line?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So- looking for the crowd's feedback here. I feel half guilty that I should have done something differently, and half annoyed at the rude b*tch.

Was at a children's museum today. In the one preschool-aged kids play area (which is enclosed- kids can't escape- but is moderately large, so you definitely can't see or hear them unless you're nearby), there is one bathroom that's a single "family" stall with a changing table, etc. Other restrooms are located pretty much on the other side of the museum. My 4 year old was playing and my 5 month old had a super dirty diaper. I went over to the bathroom but it was occupied so I waited outside the door. It took a good 7 full minutes before the mom and her kid came out of it (zero judgement on the amount of time they were in there- just giving context to how long I was waiting with the baby while my 4 year old was off playing, out of sight from me). The door opened and they started to emerge, and then a little girl (3? close to 4?) ran up in front of the line and grabbed the handle and said to no one in particular (I'm assuming her mom was nearby), "I'm going to the bathroom!"

What would you have done?

This is what I did- I paused and looked around, and luckily I heard a woman's voice call out "Evelyn! There's a line!" to which the little girl looked at me but kept walking in. I continued to stand there- didn't push her away or anything crazy, I would have just let her go if she'd kept walking in. I heard the voice call again more firmly for "Evelyn" to wait. The girl backed off, at which point I took the door handle, and as I walked in I smiled at her and said "don't worry we'll be quick". I then proceeded to start to change my fussing 5 month old's gigantic dirty diaper. The entire time, I can hear this woman outside of the door going to her mom friend "I cannot BELIEVE she just did that. I give her 30 seconds before I bang on that door and shame her." I did a double take in the bathroom- like, wait what? But kept (quickly) changing my kid. I actually had to pee also but I had already planned on waiting until later since I knew the little girl was waiting. I hear her repeat the same thing- about how i had 30 seconds before she was going to give me a piece of her mind or whatever. So I open the door (poop diaper in hand) and say- "so I can hear you? And if she needs to go really badly she can come in with us. But I need to finish up and get back to my older child." and the woman goes "YES, SHE DOES HAVE TO GO BADLY, THANK YOU" and the girl came into the bathroom with me. I felt a little uncomfortable but she was independent and i figured- whatever, I'm almost done, and if she has to go she has to go.

So I finish up and the girl is still in there so I walk out and hold the door a little bit and say to the woman "I'm finished, if you want to go in there with her now" and the woman looks at me and says in the same harsh tone "she isn't my kid". Ummmm, what???? You gave some random 3 or 4 year old permission to go into the bathroom with a stranger???? Not to mention how indignant that you were that I'd gone to the bathroom when she also walked up and had to go... but she wasn't even yours?? At this point the girls mom walks up, totally friendly, and is like "oh she's mine! I'm so sorry, and thank you!!" and i walked off and that was it.

So... I guess the TLR version is, was I totally out of line to not let this girl go ahead of me? Even though I'd been waiting for quite a while, my baby was fussing about his diaper, and my 4 year old was off on his own waiting for us? Is it an unspoken rule that I should always let kids go first?

Honestly, I think it was weird that you offered to let the little girl go (whom you don’t know) in the bathroom with you. I do think you should have just let her go first. Your baby was in a diaper so it was contained. But a young 3 year old could easily have had an accident.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That is a weird story OP.

To answer your question, I would have let the little girl go first. A lot of times they've just recently potty trained and can't hold it. And an accident would not only inconvenience the girl and her parents, but likely everyone else at the location.

I've been at one of those places where someone had an accident and they had to clear the whole room out and it was pretty annoying.

That's what I was debating after the fact. My older child has always been great at holding it in when needed, but I know not every kid is like that. I think I was just in the mindframe of, I've been waiting here forever and God knows what my older child is up to in the play area right now. But in other circumstances I would have let her go ahead of me (no poop diaper, my older kid is with me and not off somewhere)

It seems like the girl's mom wasn't concerned, though. I have a 3yo in the middle of potty training and I'd be watching her body language like a hawk and communicate that to the mom in your position if my DD had to go right. now.

It really creeps me out that another mom got into the middle of the situation and made a parenting decision for that girl. I know women not in the company of men are extremely unlikely to offend against children, but I would lose it if some other person made a decision to let my child into a bathroom with another adult.

Exactly. Although like I said in retrospect I think the families new eachother. There was a multi family group of Jewish moms and kids there and I believe they both belonged to it.

I'm on OP's side, but why the description of "Jewish moms". Do they parent differently from agnostic moms? Catholic moms? That is unnecessary.
--relapsed catholic mom, married to secular Jewish dad, with one awesome interfaith kid.

No! Definitely not. It was solely to try to explain why I thought they knew each other- I didn’t see them chatting or anything but they were both dressed orthodox along with maybe 5 other moms/kids in the same room. I guess I could have said “seemed to be there with the same religious group/ club” but didn’t realize just saying “group of Jewish moms” would be offensive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So- looking for the crowd's feedback here. I feel half guilty that I should have done something differently, and half annoyed at the rude b*tch.

Was at a children's museum today. In the one preschool-aged kids play area (which is enclosed- kids can't escape- but is moderately large, so you definitely can't see or hear them unless you're nearby), there is one bathroom that's a single "family" stall with a changing table, etc. Other restrooms are located pretty much on the other side of the museum. My 4 year old was playing and my 5 month old had a super dirty diaper. I went over to the bathroom but it was occupied so I waited outside the door. It took a good 7 full minutes before the mom and her kid came out of it (zero judgement on the amount of time they were in there- just giving context to how long I was waiting with the baby while my 4 year old was off playing, out of sight from me). The door opened and they started to emerge, and then a little girl (3? close to 4?) ran up in front of the line and grabbed the handle and said to no one in particular (I'm assuming her mom was nearby), "I'm going to the bathroom!"

What would you have done?

This is what I did- I paused and looked around, and luckily I heard a woman's voice call out "Evelyn! There's a line!" to which the little girl looked at me but kept walking in. I continued to stand there- didn't push her away or anything crazy, I would have just let her go if she'd kept walking in. I heard the voice call again more firmly for "Evelyn" to wait. The girl backed off, at which point I took the door handle, and as I walked in I smiled at her and said "don't worry we'll be quick". I then proceeded to start to change my fussing 5 month old's gigantic dirty diaper. The entire time, I can hear this woman outside of the door going to her mom friend "I cannot BELIEVE she just did that. I give her 30 seconds before I bang on that door and shame her." I did a double take in the bathroom- like, wait what? But kept (quickly) changing my kid. I actually had to pee also but I had already planned on waiting until later since I knew the little girl was waiting. I hear her repeat the same thing- about how i had 30 seconds before she was going to give me a piece of her mind or whatever. So I open the door (poop diaper in hand) and say- "so I can hear you? And if she needs to go really badly she can come in with us. But I need to finish up and get back to my older child." and the woman goes "YES, SHE DOES HAVE TO GO BADLY, THANK YOU" and the girl came into the bathroom with me. I felt a little uncomfortable but she was independent and i figured- whatever, I'm almost done, and if she has to go she has to go.

So I finish up and the girl is still in there so I walk out and hold the door a little bit and say to the woman "I'm finished, if you want to go in there with her now" and the woman looks at me and says in the same harsh tone "she isn't my kid". Ummmm, what???? You gave some random 3 or 4 year old permission to go into the bathroom with a stranger???? Not to mention how indignant that you were that I'd gone to the bathroom when she also walked up and had to go... but she wasn't even yours?? At this point the girls mom walks up, totally friendly, and is like "oh she's mine! I'm so sorry, and thank you!!" and i walked off and that was it.

So... I guess the TLR version is, was I totally out of line to not let this girl go ahead of me? Even though I'd been waiting for quite a while, my baby was fussing about his diaper, and my 4 year old was off on his own waiting for us? Is it an unspoken rule that I should always let kids go first?

Honestly, I think it was weird that you offered to let the little girl go (whom you don’t know) in the bathroom with you. I do think you should have just let her go first. Your baby was in a diaper so it was contained. But a young 3 year old could easily have had an accident.

Right, but my baby was also waiting uncomfortably as someone else pointed out. I don’t know, I felt bad for my baby too! And again- the jel hasn’t been waiting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So- looking for the crowd's feedback here. I feel half guilty that I should have done something differently, and half annoyed at the rude b*tch.

Was at a children's museum today. In the one preschool-aged kids play area (which is enclosed- kids can't escape- but is moderately large, so you definitely can't see or hear them unless you're nearby), there is one bathroom that's a single "family" stall with a changing table, etc. Other restrooms are located pretty much on the other side of the museum. My 4 year old was playing and my 5 month old had a super dirty diaper. I went over to the bathroom but it was occupied so I waited outside the door. It took a good 7 full minutes before the mom and her kid came out of it (zero judgement on the amount of time they were in there- just giving context to how long I was waiting with the baby while my 4 year old was off playing, out of sight from me). The door opened and they started to emerge, and then a little girl (3? close to 4?) ran up in front of the line and grabbed the handle and said to no one in particular (I'm assuming her mom was nearby), "I'm going to the bathroom!"

What would you have done?

This is what I did- I paused and looked around, and luckily I heard a woman's voice call out "Evelyn! There's a line!" to which the little girl looked at me but kept walking in. I continued to stand there- didn't push her away or anything crazy, I would have just let her go if she'd kept walking in. I heard the voice call again more firmly for "Evelyn" to wait. The girl backed off, at which point I took the door handle, and as I walked in I smiled at her and said "don't worry we'll be quick". I then proceeded to start to change my fussing 5 month old's gigantic dirty diaper. The entire time, I can hear this woman outside of the door going to her mom friend "I cannot BELIEVE she just did that. I give her 30 seconds before I bang on that door and shame her." I did a double take in the bathroom- like, wait what? But kept (quickly) changing my kid. I actually had to pee also but I had already planned on waiting until later since I knew the little girl was waiting. I hear her repeat the same thing- about how i had 30 seconds before she was going to give me a piece of her mind or whatever. So I open the door (poop diaper in hand) and say- "so I can hear you? And if she needs to go really badly she can come in with us. But I need to finish up and get back to my older child." and the woman goes "YES, SHE DOES HAVE TO GO BADLY, THANK YOU" and the girl came into the bathroom with me. I felt a little uncomfortable but she was independent and i figured- whatever, I'm almost done, and if she has to go she has to go.

So I finish up and the girl is still in there so I walk out and hold the door a little bit and say to the woman "I'm finished, if you want to go in there with her now" and the woman looks at me and says in the same harsh tone "she isn't my kid". Ummmm, what???? You gave some random 3 or 4 year old permission to go into the bathroom with a stranger???? Not to mention how indignant that you were that I'd gone to the bathroom when she also walked up and had to go... but she wasn't even yours?? At this point the girls mom walks up, totally friendly, and is like "oh she's mine! I'm so sorry, and thank you!!" and i walked off and that was it.

So... I guess the TLR version is, was I totally out of line to not let this girl go ahead of me? Even though I'd been waiting for quite a while, my baby was fussing about his diaper, and my 4 year old was off on his own waiting for us? Is it an unspoken rule that I should always let kids go first?

Honestly, I think it was weird that you offered to let the little girl go (whom you don’t know) in the bathroom with you. I do think you should have just let her go first. Your baby was in a diaper so it was contained. But a young 3 year old could easily have had an accident.

Right, but my baby was also waiting uncomfortably as someone else pointed out. I don’t know, I felt bad for my baby too! And again- the jel hasn’t been waiting

Girl, not jel. Sorry- iPhone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So- looking for the crowd's feedback here. I feel half guilty that I should have done something differently, and half annoyed at the rude b*tch.

Was at a children's museum today. In the one preschool-aged kids play area (which is enclosed- kids can't escape- but is moderately large, so you definitely can't see or hear them unless you're nearby), there is one bathroom that's a single "family" stall with a changing table, etc. Other restrooms are located pretty much on the other side of the museum. My 4 year old was playing and my 5 month old had a super dirty diaper. I went over to the bathroom but it was occupied so I waited outside the door. It took a good 7 full minutes before the mom and her kid came out of it (zero judgement on the amount of time they were in there- just giving context to how long I was waiting with the baby while my 4 year old was off playing, out of sight from me). The door opened and they started to emerge, and then a little girl (3? close to 4?) ran up in front of the line and grabbed the handle and said to no one in particular (I'm assuming her mom was nearby), "I'm going to the bathroom!"

What would you have done?

This is what I did- I paused and looked around, and luckily I heard a woman's voice call out "Evelyn! There's a line!" to which the little girl looked at me but kept walking in. I continued to stand there- didn't push her away or anything crazy, I would have just let her go if she'd kept walking in. I heard the voice call again more firmly for "Evelyn" to wait. The girl backed off, at which point I took the door handle, and as I walked in I smiled at her and said "don't worry we'll be quick". I then proceeded to start to change my fussing 5 month old's gigantic dirty diaper. The entire time, I can hear this woman outside of the door going to her mom friend "I cannot BELIEVE she just did that. I give her 30 seconds before I bang on that door and shame her." I did a double take in the bathroom- like, wait what? But kept (quickly) changing my kid. I actually had to pee also but I had already planned on waiting until later since I knew the little girl was waiting. I hear her repeat the same thing- about how i had 30 seconds before she was going to give me a piece of her mind or whatever. So I open the door (poop diaper in hand) and say- "so I can hear you? And if she needs to go really badly she can come in with us. But I need to finish up and get back to my older child." and the woman goes "YES, SHE DOES HAVE TO GO BADLY, THANK YOU" and the girl came into the bathroom with me. I felt a little uncomfortable but she was independent and i figured- whatever, I'm almost done, and if she has to go she has to go.

So I finish up and the girl is still in there so I walk out and hold the door a little bit and say to the woman "I'm finished, if you want to go in there with her now" and the woman looks at me and says in the same harsh tone "she isn't my kid". Ummmm, what???? You gave some random 3 or 4 year old permission to go into the bathroom with a stranger???? Not to mention how indignant that you were that I'd gone to the bathroom when she also walked up and had to go... but she wasn't even yours?? At this point the girls mom walks up, totally friendly, and is like "oh she's mine! I'm so sorry, and thank you!!" and i walked off and that was it.

So... I guess the TLR version is, was I totally out of line to not let this girl go ahead of me? Even though I'd been waiting for quite a while, my baby was fussing about his diaper, and my 4 year old was off on his own waiting for us? Is it an unspoken rule that I should always let kids go first?

Honestly, I think it was weird that you offered to let the little girl go (whom you don’t know) in the bathroom with you. I do think you should have just let her go first. Your baby was in a diaper so it was contained. But a young 3 year old could easily have had an accident.

Right, but my baby was also waiting uncomfortably as someone else pointed out. I don’t know, I felt bad for my baby too! And again- the jel hasn’t been waiting

Girl, not jel. Sorry- iPhone

I think you were more concerned because your 4 year old was out of your sight for so long, which I completely get. And that is why you ultimately didn’t let the little girl go first. Maybe next time, make your 4 year old go with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So- looking for the crowd's feedback here. I feel half guilty that I should have done something differently, and half annoyed at the rude b*tch.

Was at a children's museum today. In the one preschool-aged kids play area (which is enclosed- kids can't escape- but is moderately large, so you definitely can't see or hear them unless you're nearby), there is one bathroom that's a single "family" stall with a changing table, etc. Other restrooms are located pretty much on the other side of the museum. My 4 year old was playing and my 5 month old had a super dirty diaper. I went over to the bathroom but it was occupied so I waited outside the door. It took a good 7 full minutes before the mom and her kid came out of it (zero judgement on the amount of time they were in there- just giving context to how long I was waiting with the baby while my 4 year old was off playing, out of sight from me). The door opened and they started to emerge, and then a little girl (3? close to 4?) ran up in front of the line and grabbed the handle and said to no one in particular (I'm assuming her mom was nearby), "I'm going to the bathroom!"

What would you have done?

This is what I did- I paused and looked around, and luckily I heard a woman's voice call out "Evelyn! There's a line!" to which the little girl looked at me but kept walking in. I continued to stand there- didn't push her away or anything crazy, I would have just let her go if she'd kept walking in. I heard the voice call again more firmly for "Evelyn" to wait. The girl backed off, at which point I took the door handle, and as I walked in I smiled at her and said "don't worry we'll be quick". I then proceeded to start to change my fussing 5 month old's gigantic dirty diaper. The entire time, I can hear this woman outside of the door going to her mom friend "I cannot BELIEVE she just did that. I give her 30 seconds before I bang on that door and shame her." I did a double take in the bathroom- like, wait what? But kept (quickly) changing my kid. I actually had to pee also but I had already planned on waiting until later since I knew the little girl was waiting. I hear her repeat the same thing- about how i had 30 seconds before she was going to give me a piece of her mind or whatever. So I open the door (poop diaper in hand) and say- "so I can hear you? And if she needs to go really badly she can come in with us. But I need to finish up and get back to my older child." and the woman goes "YES, SHE DOES HAVE TO GO BADLY, THANK YOU" and the girl came into the bathroom with me. I felt a little uncomfortable but she was independent and i figured- whatever, I'm almost done, and if she has to go she has to go.

So I finish up and the girl is still in there so I walk out and hold the door a little bit and say to the woman "I'm finished, if you want to go in there with her now" and the woman looks at me and says in the same harsh tone "she isn't my kid". Ummmm, what???? You gave some random 3 or 4 year old permission to go into the bathroom with a stranger???? Not to mention how indignant that you were that I'd gone to the bathroom when she also walked up and had to go... but she wasn't even yours?? At this point the girls mom walks up, totally friendly, and is like "oh she's mine! I'm so sorry, and thank you!!" and i walked off and that was it.

So... I guess the TLR version is, was I totally out of line to not let this girl go ahead of me? Even though I'd been waiting for quite a while, my baby was fussing about his diaper, and my 4 year old was off on his own waiting for us? Is it an unspoken rule that I should always let kids go first?

Honestly, I think it was weird that you offered to let the little girl go (whom you don’t know) in the bathroom with you. I do think you should have just let her go first. Your baby was in a diaper so it was contained. But a young 3 year old could easily have had an accident.

Right, but my baby was also waiting uncomfortably as someone else pointed out. I don’t know, I felt bad for my baby too! And again- the jel hasn’t been waiting

Girl, not jel. Sorry- iPhone

I think you were more concerned because your 4 year old was out of your sight for so long, which I completely get. And that is why you ultimately didn’t let the little girl go first. Maybe next time, make your 4 year old go with you?

You’re probably right, probably why I feel a little nagging guilt about the whole thing g

[Anonymous]

My friend with liver/kidney issues, and other friends with "invisible" issues can not let people go in front of them - you are a good person, OP.

It is the same precept that gives the assumption nowadays that if a person in line at the grocery has one item, they are expected to be able to cut. But here's the issue with that - what you don't know is that I have already let two people with on item proceed before you, and I have to pick up my kids.

Funny, I was at a venue recently and a grown woman sprinted to the front of a very, very long line of women waiting, declaring how bad she had to "go". Guess what? Not one woman in that line cared one bit how much that grown woman had to go, they were absolutely NOT letting her in, and they did not. Can't say I blame them - people are becoming more and more entitled and it has to stop somewhere. :shrug:

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would have let the girl go if I was changing a diaper. An extra minute is no big deal.

Different story if my young child had to go. My youngest is only 2 and not potty trained. I remember those days when my big kids were younger. Strangers let them cut when they did the pee pee dance.

But in this story, the child with the poopy diaper had already been waiting and crying for a little while, whereas the little girl had just then decided to come up and use the bathroom. Why shouldn't the little girl wait for one extra minute on top of the zero minutes she had already waited, as opposed to the baby waiting an extra minute on top of the 10 or so minutes he/she had already waited uncomfortably?

+1

Plus, parents have a responsibility to find a solution for the dance. Your problem is not everyone else's problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never let kids go in front of me. They need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and to wait their turn.

This. It never even occurred to me to let a kid go in front of me. Unless maybe I was alone and the mom super apologetically begged that her kid was on the verge of an accident.

[Anonymous]

I think the fact that you took this long to post about this is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never let kids go in front of me. They need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and to wait their turn.

Dp. Well I hope nobody ever lets you ahead because you have to go or had an accident. Remember you gotta lear n the world doesn't revolve around you either.

[Anonymous]

Also want to say - never look Crazy people in the eyes or engage with them, she was threatening you and your baby, joking or not.

There was a false sense of security there- -all was safe because all were “Moms”. You, for leaving your other child alone, and for allowing a strange child inside the bathroom alone with you. You are lucky her mom was so cool about it, who knows what crazy lady could have said, implied or done.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have let the kid go first and I wouldn't have opened the door to let her in until I was finished in the bathroom. I find it kind of odd that you let her in while you were still in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never let kids go in front of me. They need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and to wait their turn.

This. It never even occurred to me to let a kid go in front of me. Unless maybe I was alone and the mom super apologetically begged that her kid was on the verge of an accident.

exactly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So- looking for the crowd's feedback here. I feel half guilty that I should have done something differently, and half annoyed at the rude b*tch.

Was at a children's museum today. In the one preschool-aged kids play area (which is enclosed- kids can't escape- but is moderately large, so you definitely can't see or hear them unless you're nearby), there is one bathroom that's a single "family" stall with a changing table, etc. Other restrooms are located pretty much on the other side of the museum. My 4 year old was playing and my 5 month old had a super dirty diaper. I went over to the bathroom but it was occupied so I waited outside the door. It took a good 7 full minutes before the mom and her kid came out of it (zero judgement on the amount of time they were in there- just giving context to how long I was waiting with the baby while my 4 year old was off playing, out of sight from me). The door opened and they started to emerge, and then a little girl (3? close to 4?) ran up in front of the line and grabbed the handle and said to no one in particular (I'm assuming her mom was nearby), "I'm going to the bathroom!"

What would you have done?

This is what I did- I paused and looked around, and luckily I heard a woman's voice call out "Evelyn! There's a line!" to which the little girl looked at me but kept walking in. I continued to stand there- didn't push her away or anything crazy, I would have just let her go if she'd kept walking in. I heard the voice call again more firmly for "Evelyn" to wait. The girl backed off, at which point I took the door handle, and as I walked in I smiled at her and said "don't worry we'll be quick". I then proceeded to start to change my fussing 5 month old's gigantic dirty diaper. The entire time, I can hear this woman outside of the door going to her mom friend "I cannot BELIEVE she just did that. I give her 30 seconds before I bang on that door and shame her." I did a double take in the bathroom- like, wait what? But kept (quickly) changing my kid. I actually had to pee also but I had already planned on waiting until later since I knew the little girl was waiting. I hear her repeat the same thing- about how i had 30 seconds before she was going to give me a piece of her mind or whatever. So I open the door (poop diaper in hand) and say- "so I can hear you? And if she needs to go really badly she can come in with us. But I need to finish up and get back to my older child." and the woman goes "YES, SHE DOES HAVE TO GO BADLY, THANK YOU" and the girl came into the bathroom with me. I felt a little uncomfortable but she was independent and i figured- whatever, I'm almost done, and if she has to go she has to go.

So I finish up and the girl is still in there so I walk out and hold the door a little bit and say to the woman "I'm finished, if you want to go in there with her now" and the woman looks at me and says in the same harsh tone "she isn't my kid". Ummmm, what???? You gave some random 3 or 4 year old permission to go into the bathroom with a stranger???? Not to mention how indignant that you were that I'd gone to the bathroom when she also walked up and had to go... but she wasn't even yours?? At this point the girls mom walks up, totally friendly, and is like "oh she's mine! I'm so sorry, and thank you!!" and i walked off and that was it.

So... I guess the TLR version is, was I totally out of line to not let this girl go ahead of me? Even though I'd been waiting for quite a while, my baby was fussing about his diaper, and my 4 year old was off on his own waiting for us? Is it an unspoken rule that I should always let kids go first?

Honestly, I think it was weird that you offered to let the little girl go (whom you don’t know) in the bathroom with you. I do think you should have just let her go first. Your baby was in a diaper so it was contained. But a young 3 year old could easily have had an accident.

Right, but my baby was also waiting uncomfortably as someone else pointed out. I don’t know, I felt bad for my baby too! And again- the jel hasn’t been waiting

Girl, not jel. Sorry- iPhone

I think you were more concerned because your 4 year old was out of your sight for so long, which I completely get. And that is why you ultimately didn’t let the little girl go first. Maybe next time, make your 4 year old go with you?

You’re probably right, probably why I feel a little nagging guilt about the whole thing g

Well, just try to move on and forget it, what’s done is done. I’m sure they aren’t still thinking about it!