Letting kids ahead of you in the bathroom line?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were first in line. Kid can wet her pants. She needs to be taught some manners. I have.let pregnsnt women and elderly women or people in wheelchairs go ahead of me but not women with children. Just because some brat needs a bathroom does not constitute an emergency on my part!

Wow. I hope you don't have kids. You sound like a jerk. Newly potty trained kids just don't always know how to hold it or to forecast their need to pee. I've let kids go ahead of me in line, and in the case of the OP, the damage was already done (baby with poopy diaper) while the 4 year old still had a chance to make it to pee without wetting her pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would let a kid doing the pee pee dance in ahead of me, even with a poop diaper. Poop diaper isn’t a crisis, what’s another few minutes?

If the kid isn’t doing the pee pee dance I might not let them ahead of me.

This. Always this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

+100 Who leaves a 4 year old unattended at a museum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never let kids go in front of me. They need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and to wait their turn.

This. It never even occurred to me to let a kid go in front of me. Unless maybe I was alone and the mom super apologetically begged that her kid was on the verge of an accident.

Who are you people??!!! Kids don’t have the same bladder control as adults when they’re first potty training.

[Anonymous]

I would have:
-not left my 4 yo where I couldn’t see them in a museum (even the situation you describe. What if they got shuffled out w another group of people and the employee wouldn’t know which kid belongs to which group)
-not let the kid in front of me
-definitely not have let the stranger kid in the bathroom w me. That’s just asking for trouble.
-ignored the rude woman

[Anonymous]

Do people really leave their 4 year old unattended and leave to the restroom in a public setting? I would not be comfortable with that at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never let kids go in front of me. They need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and to wait their turn.

This. It never even occurred to me to let a kid go in front of me. Unless maybe I was alone and the mom super apologetically begged that her kid was on the verge of an accident.

Who are you people??!!! Kids don’t have the same bladder control as adults when they’re first potty training.

+1 Seriously, were you raised by wolves? Kids do the pee pee dance some time, particularly 3 and 4 year olds who are newly potty trained. Try to have some empathy--or at least model it for your children (this isn't directed at the OP, who seems like she handled herself as well as she could have.)

[Anonymous]

It takes less than a minute to change a dirty diaper. Unless you are clueless, you could very easily do it without drawing any attention.

For future reference, you put a changing pad on a recliner stroller. Then you put one of those hospital blankets (that can be washed on hot water) on top. Pants come off, clean diaper goes underneath, and you quickly yank the dirty one off, roll it up and shove it in a plastic bag, then wipe and finish up.

People already smelled your kid. They won't notice this.

I'm shocked that the op cares more about her stroller than her unattended 4 year old. I don't think I ever used a public changing table with any of my kids. That's so gross and germy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes less than a minute to change a dirty diaper. Unless you are clueless, you could very easily do it without drawing any attention.

For future reference, you put a changing pad on a recliner stroller. Then you put one of those hospital blankets (that can be washed on hot water) on top. Pants come off, clean diaper goes underneath, and you quickly yank the dirty one off, roll it up and shove it in a plastic bag, then wipe and finish up.

People already smelled your kid. They won't notice this.

I'm shocked that the op cares more about her stroller than her unattended 4 year old. I don't think I ever used a public changing table with any of my kids. That's so gross and germy.

Umm I hate to break it to you but I'd definitely notice if you changed a poop diaper out in the open. And it's hilarious that you subject everyone around you to your kids feces filled diaper because the alternative, in your mind, is "so gross and germy". Talk about entitled. And no, the fact that no one else does this (unless there are no bathrooms available I guess) is NOT because they are worried about their stroller, it's becaues they have manners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

+100 Who leaves a 4 year old unattended at a museum.

Some 4 year olds are trustworthy and some aren't, to be left alone for a few minutes in an enclosed area. I could see some parents saying "never!" and some parents thinking it was totally fine, based on their kids personalities and their own style of parenting. Let's stop the CPS hysteria over relatively benign differences in parenting. It's not cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes less than a minute to change a dirty diaper. Unless you are clueless, you could very easily do it without drawing any attention.

For future reference, you put a changing pad on a recliner stroller. Then you put one of those hospital blankets (that can be washed on hot water) on top. Pants come off, clean diaper goes underneath, and you quickly yank the dirty one off, roll it up and shove it in a plastic bag, then wipe and finish up.

People already smelled your kid. They won't notice this.

I'm shocked that the op cares more about her stroller than her unattended 4 year old. I don't think I ever used a public changing table with any of my kids. That's so gross and germy.

Thanks for the how-to, but I would never do this unless it were the only option. The fact that you know how to do it so quickly and easily, and have the steps down, is disturbing. Take that into a bathroom where it belongs please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you simply change your baby's diaper in the stroller? Simply park it in a discrete corner and get it done. NBD. I can't believe you left your 4 year old unattended in a museum.

+1

I would have called CPS.

OP here- to say what exactly? "There is a 4 year old playing in the enclosed/door guarded/well staffed childrens area, and his mother is 30 feet away- also in the childrens area- waiting in the bathroom line, but not currently interacting with her 4 year old. Please send someone immediately!"

In all seriousness maybe I didn't describe the childrens area well...? Because parents in there typically use the (single stall) bathroom solo unless their child has to go also. I see plenty of moms walking in or out of it without a child. I go to this museum a lot. It wasn't like I let him loose in the main hall of the AMNH in NYC and peaced out for 20 minutes. This room is about the size of 4 elementary school classrooms, and has only one entrance that is staffed so no kids can escape. I promise you, the only thing I was worried about with my 4 year old was "I hope he isn't hogging the good toys at the train table..." or "I hope no one is teasing him", etc. Also he's 4 and a half, not 2. He doesn't run away.

If it’s ok for him to be unattended in the safe space of the children’s area, then why did you make such a big deal about the little girl going to the bathroom in front of you? Let it go! I’m beginning to agree with the PP who said you were unhinged.

OP- I guess my answer is that although I was comfortable leaving him to play 30 feet away or so, knowing nothing nefarious was going to happen to him because of the room set up (and we had been here probably 100 times before, too) I didn't want to leave him longer than necessary. Kids can sometimes take 5-10 minutes to use the bathroom for what would be a quick pee for an adult- especially since no adult was going in with her, clearly. And honestly I'd been waiting a while and just wanted to change my poor kid's diaper already.
Anyways I keep checking back here because there keep being amusing responses but I think this is my cue to check out. Appreciate the feedback from everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It takes less than a minute to change a dirty diaper. Unless you are clueless, you could very easily do it without drawing any attention.

For future reference, you put a changing pad on a recliner stroller. Then you put one of those hospital blankets (that can be washed on hot water) on top. Pants come off, clean diaper goes underneath, and you quickly yank the dirty one off, roll it up and shove it in a plastic bag, then wipe and finish up.

People already smelled your kid. They won't notice this.

I'm shocked that the op cares more about her stroller than her unattended 4 year old. I don't think I ever used a public changing table with any of my kids. That's so gross and germy.

Thanks for the how-to, but I would never do this unless it were the only option. The fact that you know how to do it so quickly and easily, and have the steps down, is disturbing. Take that into a bathroom where it belongs please.

+1 I never did this unless an absolute emergency and no bathroom available. And it actually took twice as long changing in a stroller bc it’s so cramped and you have the bend down. It’s actually easier to just do it on a changing pad on the floor. But agian, with a bathroom available it is extremely rude and disgusting to change your kids poopy diaper in public. Pay no attention to the idiot PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don’t. My newly potty trained kid really was on the verge of an accident in the public bathroom for one of the commuter ferries in NYC, because the ride was like 30 minutes. No one would let her cut even when I did the apologetic begging thing. I finally held her over the sink. I got a few weird looks but WTF was I supposed to do.

Anyway, even with that experience, I wouldn’t normally let a kid cut me unless they were obviously in distressed or they/their parent asked with explanation.

You are disgusting and a bad parent.

What were you supposed to do? Maybe proactively ask your newly potty trained child every 30 if they need to go to
The bathroom and insist they try about 50% of the time so they don’t get ‘on the verge of an accident’.

+1

Be a responsible parent, not a lazy parent.

People on DCUM are such jerks. You can do this and still end up in a situation where a THREE year old is on the verge of an accident. That PP specifically said the commute took much longer than normal and then there was an abnormally long bathroom line. You are an idiot if you really believe you can 100% account for these sorts of things; in fact, you are an idiot if you really think that "perfect" potty training technique means you can guarantee any particular kid won't end up with an issue on some occasion.

[Anonymous]

If your kid can't hold it's urine then it isn't trained. Put
pullup on kid or stay home.