Just saw my pretty 45yo sorority sister divorced and is dating a 67yo man. Common or alarming gap?

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Anonymous wrote:My Dad is 66 and is in very good shape, has a full head of hair, is retired after a very successful career and is certainly well off. When he first used a dating site a couple of years ago he did not specify an age range that he was interested in but he was very surprised by the number of women in their 40’s who reached out to him. I’m sure they had googled him or tracked him down on LinkedIn and found out about his background and saw that he likely had money. I’m 38 and it blew me away as these women were close to my age. He never went into a lot of detail about his dating life but I’m sure he went out with some of them. He’s now seeing a woman in her mid 50’s who actually looks like she is in her 40’s but she is definitely more age appropriate.

It’s about the money honey! If you’re 45 and divorced money could be a big issue and your dad could solve that problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I will give you a guy perspective on that. Namely, an "age-appropriate" woman for him (say, age 60+) would also be after his money. All women, everywhere, of every age, prefer a rich man to a poor man. With all women, everywhere, of every age, you're only as good as what you can do for them today. An older woman would no more "really love him" than a younger one would. So, as him, if you're gonna get used for your money anyway, you might as well get your money's worth with the younger/hotter/tighter model.

That makes sense. I wonder if as more women have their own significant wealth if they will follow the same thinking as wealthy guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I know a woman who married a much older man when she was in her low to mid 40s. Fast forward 2 decades, and she stands to inherit a substantial amount of money and real estate. Not to mention the fact that she hasn't had to work for the last 2 decades, has literally traveled the world thanks to him, and never has to worry about money. She's basically set for life.

So she pissed away her 40s - 60s with an old man to “enjoy” a haul when she’s an old bag? Dream big.

As far as I can tell, she didn't piss away 20 years.

The guy is fun, they seem to be a great couple, and she has an amazing life. When I say she's traveled the world, I mean it. They've been everywhere, and they travel regularly. She's done charity work, too.

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I know a 45 year old woman who listed her age as 55 so she could attract older, rich guys who wanted to date someone closer to their own age. It worked.

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I'm not sure what the big deal is. My DH is 22ys older than me. The only downside is I'll spend 22yrd on the back side of life possibly alone.

I love the fact that he's retired and I'm in my 40s (don't work) and can travel with him all over the world. He's much more fit than most men my age. Weve hiked Kilamanjaro, hiked the iinca Trail, Mt Hood, Denali. He used to be a marathon runner, but now can't run more than a 10k due to joints, but he goes out on daily ocean swims and bikes all over the place. I guess this is what happens when you're not chained to a desk.

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Common.

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Anonymous wrote:

Divorced moms, or moms who had kids young, know to go for rich men - they've already been poor, and it sucks. I know a late thirties-early forties divorced woman who married a guy in his seventies. Guess what? He's not poor. She saw him coming a mile away! Now, her family gets treated to overseas trips at least once a year - about forty of her "closest" relatives. LOL. Good luck to him, if that is how he wants to blow his money, or if he somehow convinced himself she "really loves" him. I wouldn't want to be him, I would feel totally used because it is soooo obvious, but that is just me.

I will give you a guy perspective on that. Namely, an "age-appropriate" woman for him (say, age 60+) would also be after his money. All women, everywhere, of every age, prefer a rich man to a poor man. With all women, everywhere, of every age, you're only as good as what you can do for them today. An older woman would no more "really love him" than a younger one would. So, as him, if you're gonna get used for your money anyway, you might as well get your money's worth with the younger/hotter/tighter model.

This is so true!

I see your point, but a "younger model" sure looks like daddy issues, which is creepy - and should be embarrassing, if they know any better. I get it, they are adults and can do what they want, but they can't expect for almost everyone not to judge them.

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Um, can't any of these women get younger men?

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It might be fun in your 40's to travel with your retired partner who is 20-25 years older however by the 50's-60's you will be taking care of health issues.

Then when you are getting old and dealing with life's issues you will do it alone. Hopefully the money made by the husband will last for the woman's elder care otherwise she will face her elder years in poverty.

My MIL is currently spending her retirement driving FIL to hospital appointments. They haven't had a vacation in 10 years.

It can work for some but not for all.

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Anonymous wrote:She wouldn't be the first gold digger to try to stuff a noodle into her hoo-haw

+1

:high five:

I love you.

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Anonymous wrote:It might be fun in your 40's to travel with your retired partner who is 20-25 years older however by the 50's-60's you will be taking care of health issues.

Then when you are getting old and dealing with life's issues you will do it alone. Hopefully the money made by the husband will last for the woman's elder care otherwise she will face her elder years in poverty.

My MIL is currently spending her retirement driving FIL to hospital appointments. They haven't had a vacation in 10 years.

It can work for some but not for all.

Hopefully, that younger wife with the big extended family that she flies on trips with them around the world - wouldn't have blown all his money by then, or she is screwed. But I doubt it.

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I have a friend who has done this too. He first husband (her age) was an abusive dick. She then found a much older man who actually looks like he could be her grandfather. It’s so odd to see them hugging and kissing. However, he’s very sweet to her and well off and they have similar interests. To each his own I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:It might be fun in your 40's to travel with your retired partner who is 20-25 years older however by the 50's-60's you will be taking care of health issues.

Then when you are getting old and dealing with life's issues you will do it alone. Hopefully the money made by the husband will last for the woman's elder care otherwise she will face her elder years in poverty.

My MIL is currently spending her retirement driving FIL to hospital appointments. They haven't had a vacation in 10 years.

It can work for some but not for all.

Not necessarily. Lots of people in their 70s and 80s are very active. I'm on the BOD of a company with a man 86 who moves likes he's 46 and is as sharp as someone half his age.

Love them or hate them Biden, Trump, Clinton, Romney, ...hell, any of you ever met Conyers? I think marrying someone younger is probably really good for your health.

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He will probably dump her before she hits 50 and find another one about 45. That is the perfect age for an older guy (from an older guy). It's the age I prefer and it doesn't change as I get older.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will give you a guy perspective on that. Namely, an "age-appropriate" woman for him (say, age 60+) would also be after his money. All women, everywhere, of every age, prefer a rich man to a poor man. With all women, everywhere, of every age, you're only as good as what you can do for them today. An older woman would no more "really love him" than a younger one would. So, as him, if you're gonna get used for your money anyway, you might as well get your money's worth with the younger/hotter/tighter model.

That makes sense. I wonder if as more women have their own significant wealth if they will follow the same thinking as wealthy guys.

Yes, I have a female friend who is slightly more wealthy, and she is in demand by younger poorer men. It's working both ways now.