Just saw my pretty 45yo sorority sister divorced and is dating a 67yo man. Common or alarming gap?

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Anonymous wrote:There are men who feel privileged to share the same air with someone they admire deeply, are challenged by, and are deeply bonded with.

It's possible to have that plus great attraction and sex.

Going for the prettiest young woman you can attract is another approach. A different approach that reveals the man's ideas about the role of women in relationships and how you value women in general.

I value women who try to make a relationship work, vs. a cranky one with a mile-long list of deal-breakers. I also value a woman who cares enough about what she looks like, vs. one who can’t be bothered anymore to care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[1]There are men who feel privileged to share the same air with someone they admire deeply, are challenged by, and are deeply bonded with.

It's possible to have that plus great attraction and sex.

[2]Going for the prettiest young woman you can attract is another approach. A different approach that reveals the man's ideas about the role of women in relationships and how you value women in general.

It's amusing that you think [1] and [2] are different and incompatible approaches.

Why is it impossible to admire deeply, be challenged by, and deeply bonded with, the prettiest young woman you can attract? This says a lot about your ideas about men and about the role of young women in relationships... and not in a good way.

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This was my aunt and uncle 15 years ago. She is still vibrant and would have an active social life were she not dealing with his frequent health crises for the last 7 years. She can’t travel like she thought she would. In a word, it sucks for her and she tells every young woman she knows not to marry an old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are men who feel privileged to share the same air with someone they admire deeply, are challenged by, and are deeply bonded with.

It's possible to have that plus great attraction and sex.

Going for the prettiest young woman you can attract is another approach. A different approach that reveals the man's ideas about the role of women in relationships and how you value women in general.

You kind of sound like a misogynist. Gross.

Let's try not to perpetuate stereotypes about womens looks, age and intelligence ok?

[Anonymous]

I'm 42 and my grandfather just died at age 96 (WW2 Veteran). Married my grandma in 1948, divorced in 1962. In 1973, at the age of 50, married his girlfriend who was 25 at the time. 46 years married, 25 year age gap. Wonderful marriage, she is 71 and got to spend the majority of her life with the man she loved. They had a very active life together. I think someone his age would have slowed him down.

[Anonymous]

The comments above about the preference for an age gap by certain men and what that indicates about what men value in women. And vice versa.

You can nitpick and try to say there are exceptions or that you can have both, but the point is about what is generally the case with this approach. Women are the objects, and the men are the resource. It's gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't that about the same age difference as Donald and Melania?

Almost exactly. She’s 49 and he’s 73.

[Anonymous]

Well, my best friend from college is 37 and dating a 60 year old. She's a single mom, and she tells me it's slim pickings for someone like her, and at this stage of life she just wants somebody who really, genuinely treats her well and appreciates her (he's educated but not rich, and they make the same amount of money).

[Anonymous]

If they’re happy who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, my best friend from college is 37 and dating a 60 year old. She's a single mom, and she tells me it's slim pickings for someone like her, and at this stage of life she just wants somebody who really, genuinely treats her well and appreciates her (he's educated but not rich, and they make the same amount of money).

wow, there is a whole lot to take in there. Sounds like your friend got tired of chasing the next 'hot' dude and and torrid nights

[Anonymous]

Liam Neesam is 67.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The comments above about the preference for an age gap by certain men and what that indicates about what men value in women. And vice versa.

You can nitpick and try to say there are exceptions or that you can have both, but the point is about what is generally the case with this approach. Women are the objects, and the men are the resource. It's gross.

Now do "women overwhelmingly prefer taller men".

Is that also "gross"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the preoccupation with how she looks? Last I checked there were a multitude of other factors that bring people together besides similar age range.
Similar interests.
Similar tastes.
Compatible temperaments/personalities.
Affinity and appreciation for one another acquired over time.
List goes on and on. It's not always about looks.

And again balding used as an insult.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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DP. No dog in this fight as I'm a 30-something woman with a cute but non-wealthy husband my own age. Just curious... does it bother these older men to know that they're essentially buying the love and companionship of that woman? Like, do men ever think, if I were just some average middle class schlub, the woman I'm with would never want me, and if I lose my money, she would probably bail. Maybe I'm thinking like a woman...

You are. Most men in this situation are only thinking, good for me.

The lawyer I worked for said explicitly "It's a good thing that I make a lot of money, because it got me a hot wife."

There was a psychology study a few years ago that concluded men often pick careers that pay more so that they can attract women. Thanks capitalism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I know a woman who married a much older man when she was in her low to mid 40s. Fast forward 2 decades, and she stands to inherit a substantial amount of money and real estate. Not to mention the fact that she hasn't had to work for the last 2 decades, has literally traveled the world thanks to him, and never has to worry about money. She's basically set for life.

So she pissed away her 40s - 60s with an old man to “enjoy” a haul when she’s an old bag? Dream big.