Just saw my pretty 45yo sorority sister divorced and is dating a 67yo man. Common or alarming gap?

[Anonymous]

My good friend 52, is dating a 24yr old and they are talking marriage. His son is closer to his girlfriends age. Who the fu#k cares?? He's happy, loves spending money on her, she's happy, they are consenting adults. None of my business. He my friend and I will be nothing, but kind to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would it be more OK if she was ugly?

Yes, this. So much emphasis on her looks. You sound shallow and immature OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are studies about this. Very few people marry with age gaps for the FIRST marriage. For second marriage, there are gaps.

WEALTHY goes for YOUNGER. So the claims on this forum regarding "what men want" if they can "get it" is true.

Men with resources will more often prefer to go for the hottest young thing they can find. At least that is what the studies say is more common. Note these are men who are wealthy.

I think it's gross.

Any time I see an attractive, successful 50+ guy who choose to date/marry a true peer I will throw roses, bow before him, and applaud.

Women as life partners should not = Barbie dolls who tell you you're amazing and smart. FFS. And women, you are worth more than what type of guy your body can attract.

"Men, stop enjoying yourselves wrong! Don't be attracted to the women you find attractive! Instead, be attracted to the women I say you should be attracted to, who are coincidentally just like me."

Every DCUM woman ever

[Anonymous]

She's plenty old enough to be deciding this sort of thing for herself. She's a 45 year old woman with teenagers for goodness sake. It's not like this gentleman robbed the cradle.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I'm never concerned about the relationship between consenting adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are studies about this. Very few people marry with age gaps for the FIRST marriage. For second marriage, there are gaps.

WEALTHY goes for YOUNGER. So the claims on this forum regarding "what men want" if they can "get it" is true.

Men with resources will more often prefer to go for the hottest young thing they can find. At least that is what the studies say is more common. Note these are men who are wealthy.

I think it's gross.

Any time I see an attractive, successful 50+ guy who choose to date/marry a true peer I will throw roses, bow before him, and applaud.

Women as life partners should not = Barbie dolls who tell you you're amazing and smart. FFS. And women, you are worth more than what type of guy your body can attract.

You are weird. MYOB. You have zero insight to anyone's relationship.

[Anonymous]

There are so many couples with old, fat, ugly guys with younger, attractive women. It just is what it is. I seriously cannot recall seeing the opposite in a really long while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are studies about this. Very few people marry with age gaps for the FIRST marriage. For second marriage, there are gaps.

WEALTHY goes for YOUNGER. So the claims on this forum regarding "what men want" if they can "get it" is true.

Men with resources will more often prefer to go for the hottest young thing they can find. At least that is what the studies say is more common. Note these are men who are wealthy.

I think it's gross.

Any time I see an attractive, successful 50+ guy who choose to date/marry a true peer I will throw roses, bow before him, and applaud.

Women as life partners should not = Barbie dolls who tell you you're amazing and smart. FFS. And women, you are worth more than what type of guy your body can attract.

"Men, stop enjoying yourselves wrong! Don't be attracted to the women you find attractive! Instead, be attracted to the women I say you should be attracted to, who are coincidentally just like me."

Every DCUM woman ever

DP. No dog in this fight as I'm a 30-something woman with a cute but non-wealthy husband my own age. Just curious... does it bother these older men to know that they're essentially buying the love and companionship of that woman? Like, do men ever think, if I were just some average middle class schlub, the woman I'm with would never want me, and if I lose my money, she would probably bail. Maybe I'm thinking like a woman...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DP. No dog in this fight as I'm a 30-something woman with a cute but non-wealthy husband my own age. Just curious... does it bother these older men to know that they're essentially buying the love and companionship of that woman? Like, do men ever think, if I were just some average middle class schlub, the woman I'm with would never want me, and if I lose my money, she would probably bail. Maybe I'm thinking like a woman...

You are. Most men in this situation are only thinking, good for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are studies about this. Very few people marry with age gaps for the FIRST marriage. For second marriage, there are gaps.

WEALTHY goes for YOUNGER. So the claims on this forum regarding "what men want" if they can "get it" is true.

Men with resources will more often prefer to go for the hottest young thing they can find. At least that is what the studies say is more common. Note these are men who are wealthy.

I think it's gross.

Any time I see an attractive, successful 50+ guy who choose to date/marry a true peer I will throw roses, bow before him, and applaud.

Women as life partners should not = Barbie dolls who tell you you're amazing and smart. FFS. And women, you are worth more than what type of guy your body can attract.

Procreate with a higher IQ peer, so your kids are fairly intelligent. Then use your money to attract a younger woman who no longer wants or at this point would have difficulty getting pregnant, so you can have a better sex life and social status. Sounds logical.

[Anonymous]

There are men who feel privileged to share the same air with someone they admire deeply, are challenged by, and are deeply bonded with.

It's possible to have that plus great attraction and sex.

Going for the prettiest young woman you can attract is another approach. A different approach that reveals the man's ideas about the role of women in relationships and how you value women in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DP. No dog in this fight as I'm a 30-something woman with a cute but non-wealthy husband my own age. Just curious... does it bother these older men to know that they're essentially buying the love and companionship of that woman? Like, do men ever think, if I were just some average middle class schlub, the woman I'm with would never want me, and if I lose my money, she would probably bail. Maybe I'm thinking like a woman...

You are. Most men in this situation are only thinking, good for me.

The lawyer I worked for said explicitly "It's a good thing that I make a lot of money, because it got me a hot wife."

[Anonymous]

Well, I know a woman who married a much older man when she was in her low to mid 40s. Fast forward 2 decades, and she stands to inherit a substantial amount of money and real estate. Not to mention the fact that she hasn't had to work for the last 2 decades, has literally traveled the world thanks to him, and never has to worry about money. She's basically set for life.

[Anonymous]

I’m 48 and dating a guy who is 68 and I’m having a blast. I’m an empty nester and his children are all in their 30’s so there is no drama. He’s retired and I can work wherever I can plug in my computer so in the winter I follow him to Florida for weeks at a time. He’s in very good shape and he has no need for viagra and he is as good in bed as someone 30 years younger. We know the age gap will be a problem down the road so we have no plans to marry and we are just enjoying life together right now.