DH "banning" me from visiting my family with kids

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Anonymous wrote:OP you need to file immediately. You need to get a judge involved and avoid a venue dispute with your ex. Even tho he has no right to proceed in TX, proving it is going to be annoying and expensive.

Get a lawyer, file in dC, divorce.

Do not move anyone - you or kids- to Texas.

I had a jerk coworker who moved to MD to work mon-Friday and sometimes go back to Nc for the weekends and his kids. He hated his wife. He did this long distance thing for two years. He told the company he wanted to make sure it was a good fit, plus he was working so hard.

Then he played her big time. He pleaded with her to transfer to MD so he could get promoted to partner and prove her was here for the long term. It’s be so good for them and lucrative potentially.

She moved up, he served her with MD divorce papers one month in. Now she is stuck. and is one of those states where divorced parents must both live within 50 or 100 miles of the kids and do 50/50 coparenting. In order to move you have to prove you need full custody or give up custody. I do not know the rule in dC or Va.

Now she is here, divorced, coparenting with an a hole, and away from her family in Nc. And he is dating anything with legs and raising his two girls to be bullies. Like him.

This is horrible. What an asshole. I truly believe people like this reap the negative that they sow.

Thiis is exactly what OP’s husband is doing. He is being selfish.
He checked out if marriage
He found a new job anywhere, one that was only good for himself, not his family.
He told his wife who knows what and moved to TX to work.
Now he is bullying his wife to move so he can divorce, get kid access for his reputation, and pay less alimony.
He will continue to put himself first. Not his kids. Not his wife or ex wife.

In another possible version of this story:

- the DH is the sole wage earner
- the DH got a job in Texas, and moved out there on the understanding that OP and kids would join him
- Now OP is refusing to join him in Texas, and expecting him to pay for everything in DC,
- DH loves his kids and wants to live in the same state, which was the plan, until OP refused to move as agreed

It sounds like OP is actually trying to move to CA, not just visit... and her soon to be ex is trying to prevent the move, which he suspects is not a routine visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to file immediately. You need to get a judge involved and avoid a venue dispute with your ex. Even tho he has no right to proceed in TX, proving it is going to be annoying and expensive.

Get a lawyer, file in dC, divorce.

Do not move anyone - you or kids- to Texas.

I had a jerk coworker who moved to MD to work mon-Friday and sometimes go back to Nc for the weekends and his kids. He hated his wife. He did this long distance thing for two years. He told the company he wanted to make sure it was a good fit, plus he was working so hard.

Then he played her big time. He pleaded with her to transfer to MD so he could get promoted to partner and prove her was here for the long term. It’s be so good for them and lucrative potentially.

She moved up, he served her with MD divorce papers one month in. Now she is stuck. and is one of those states where divorced parents must both live within 50 or 100 miles of the kids and do 50/50 coparenting. In order to move you have to prove you need full custody or give up custody. I do not know the rule in dC or Va.

Now she is here, divorced, coparenting with an a hole, and away from her family in Nc. And he is dating anything with legs and raising his two girls to be bullies. Like him.

This happens more than you think. The woman should not move nor agree to in email or text form.
You don’t just up and take a new job and strongarm everyone into your out of state divorce plan.