DH "banning" me from visiting my family with kids

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

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+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

Uh, sounds like he made partner in the Texas law firm and his non-working wife is p*ssed it's not a DC one. Doesn't sound like a unilateral move but a grownup willing and able to support his family vs a pampered woman who doesn't care to work but wants to live where she wants (aka high COL places).

In what world does a person make partner at a firm where they never worked before. I bet $100 he got an office transfer to f*** her in alimony/division of assets.

Or she is disappointed her dream of a DC law partner husband didn't pan out and is willing to punish him by leaving him and keeping his kids, all while expecting a pretty penny in support.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

Uh, sounds like he made partner in the Texas law firm and his non-working wife is p*ssed it's not a DC one. Doesn't sound like a unilateral move but a grownup willing and able to support his family vs a pampered woman who doesn't care to work but wants to live where she wants (aka high COL places).

In what world does a person make partner at a firm where they never worked before. I bet $100 he got an office transfer to f*** her in alimony/division of assets.

Or she is disappointed her dream of a DC law partner husband didn't pan out and is willing to punish him by leaving him and keeping his kids, all while expecting a pretty penny in support.

He is the one who wants a divorce.

[Anonymous]

OP disappeared. (Troll.)

OP - please answer. Are you leaving your husband? If not, don’t you want to live with him?

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Anonymous wrote:OP disappeared. (Troll.)

OP - please answer. Are you leaving your husband? If not, don’t you want to live with him?

The OP says he said he’s filing for divorce. Not if she doesn’t move to TX. Just period.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

Uh, sounds like he made partner in the Texas law firm and his non-working wife is p*ssed it's not a DC one. Doesn't sound like a unilateral move but a grownup willing and able to support his family vs a pampered woman who doesn't care to work but wants to live where she wants (aka high COL places).

In what world does a person make partner at a firm where they never worked before. I bet $100 he got an office transfer to f*** her in alimony/division of assets.

Or she is disappointed her dream of a DC law partner husband didn't pan out and is willing to punish him by leaving him and keeping his kids, all while expecting a pretty penny in support.

He is the one who wants a divorce.

No, he says he will divorce her if she doesn't agree to move to TX by next summer. Why should her pay for a non-working spouse to stay in DC for a year? Sounds like he is the one who is trying to find a compromise.

[Anonymous]

*he not her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move to CA with the kids. They are DC residents. Not TX. They don't live there.

Move now and let him file in CA court when they become residents in 6? Months.

No. Do not do this.

File where you currently reside, and ask the courts permission to relocate to CA where you have free housing and family support. Do not do anything without a courts permission, unless its a VACATION with a return ticket.

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Why should OP be afraid of her husband. She doesn't need his damn permission for anything. OP, if you have a strong support system, just move home, live with your family. Start over.

HE ABANDONED HIS CHILDREN BY MOVING TO TEXAS.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

Uh, sounds like he made partner in the Texas law firm and his non-working wife is p*ssed it's not a DC one. Doesn't sound like a unilateral move but a grownup willing and able to support his family vs a pampered woman who doesn't care to work but wants to live where she wants (aka high COL places).

In what world does a person make partner at a firm where they never worked before. I bet $100 he got an office transfer to f*** her in alimony/division of assets.

Or she is disappointed her dream of a DC law partner husband didn't pan out and is willing to punish him by leaving him and keeping his kids, all while expecting a pretty penny in support.

He is the one who wants a divorce.

No, he says he will divorce her if she doesn't agree to move to TX by next summer. Why should her pay for a non-working spouse to stay in DC for a year? Sounds like he is the one who is trying to find a compromise.

That’s not what the OP says? It says he’s filing either way but claims he will get custody if she visits CA.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Move to CA with the kids. They are DC residents. Not TX. They don't live there.

Move now and let him file in CA court when they become residents in 6? Months.

No. Do not do this.

File where you currently reside, and ask the courts permission to relocate to CA where you have free housing and family support. Do not do anything without a courts permission, unless its a VACATION with a return ticket.

Usually I would agree with this but if she can’t get that order before her lease is up she’s gotta go to CA or else be homeless.

And given the less favorable TX law OP should under no circumstances move to TX and subject herself to TX jurisdiction.

[Anonymous]

You need to reply back:

“I understand that you do not give me permission to go to California, so we are canceling our trip. I also want to notify you that I do not give you permission to take the children to Texas. Please acknowledge that until our divorce is finalized we both agree to not take the children out of state.”

Then you need to file for temporary separation and get divorced. Once you get primary custody and finalize the divorce, THEN you can move to California.

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Anonymous wrote: Why should OP be afraid of her husband. She doesn't need his damn permission for anything. OP, if you have a strong support system, just move home, live with your family. Start over.

HE ABANDONED HIS CHILDREN BY MOVING TO TEXAS.

He moved for a job of which they all were supposed to move to TX with him. She is keeping the kids from him by agreeing to move and now refusing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to reply back:

“I understand that you do not give me permission to go to California, so we are canceling our trip. I also want to notify you that I do not give you permission to take the children to Texas. Please acknowledge that until our divorce is finalized we both agree to not take the children out of state.”

Then you need to file for temporary separation and get divorced. Once you get primary custody and finalize the divorce, THEN you can move to California.

Wrong, this can backfire and her refusing to let the kids go to visit dad can have her lose custody. She may not get primary custody. She still has to get court permission to move. There is far more to the story but its probably fake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Why should OP be afraid of her husband. She doesn't need his damn permission for anything. OP, if you have a strong support system, just move home, live with your family. Start over.

HE ABANDONED HIS CHILDREN BY MOVING TO TEXAS.

He moved for a job of which they all were supposed to move to TX with him. She is keeping the kids from him by agreeing to move and now refusing.

That's what it sounds like to me. Does anyone really blame him for threatening divorce?

[Anonymous]

OP, if you plan to stay in DC, you need to downsize big time to a much cheaper apartment and get a job.