DH "banning" me from visiting my family with kids

[Anonymous]

When was the last time you saw him/did anything together as a family?

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Anonymous wrote:I would go with what your lawyer told you. You need to go to court and get a temporary order for child support and alimony. Do this ASAP.

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Anonymous wrote:I would go with what your lawyer told you. You need to go to court and get a temporary order for child support and alimony. Do this ASAP.

This and don't move to Texas if you don't want to live there. Your kids reside in DC.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

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OP, you need to elaborate. Why won't you go to Texas with him? Of course he's not going to pay for a 4k apt for you to stay here--why would he? Whether or not you stayed home, he has an equal right to legal custody of those kids. And even if you get more physical custody, that doesn't translate to none for him. You're really not being reasonable. Unless he's been abusive, you're not helping the kids by removing their father from their lives. It sounds like you just want everything on your terms, period. Perhaps he's the same but, as the one with the job, he has more say than you about where the family lives. If you can't work something out with him, then you'll need to hash this out in court, which will be difficult and expensive.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

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[Anonymous]

You could go on vacation with the kids to CA. Then what do you intend to do next? Stay there? Kidnap the kids? Not good.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the divorce is happening no matter what? In that case DO NOT move to Texas. You will be stuck there until the last child is 18. Stay in DC - that forces your ex to file for divorce in DC, and no judge will force you to move to Texas with the kids.

Start looking for a job now. Skip the vacation if you need to.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

This.

[Anonymous]

Texas is brutal for supported spouses in divorce. Basically, odds are you will not get maintenance unless abuse is involved (according to divorce.net).

If he wants a divorce do it in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

Uh, sounds like he made partner in the Texas law firm and his non-working wife is p*ssed it's not a DC one. Doesn't sound like a unilateral move but a grownup willing and able to support his family vs a pampered woman who doesn't care to work but wants to live where she wants (aka high COL places).

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Anonymous wrote:Move to CA with the kids. They are DC residents. Not TX. They don't live there.

Move now and let him file in CA court when they become residents in 6? Months.

DH has established residency in TX. If he filed first (in Texas) then she may be subject to a divorce in Texas if she moves to CA. Better off staying in DC.

lol no, no TX court has personal jurisdiction over OP

I really hope you aren’t a lawyer but I wouldn’t be surprised at all if you are

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a family would pay 48,000 a year in rent for a stay at home mom without family in the area to remain in DC for a year when there is a family home in Texas. Go move to Texas and get settled in there, then take a vacation to California once you have moved to Texas. For that amount you can live in an amazing house in Texas in a great neighborhood. I understand why your husband is so frustrated.

+1.

+2, this sounds made up. Why wouldn't you move with your husband to be together as a family vs. keeping the kids from him.

He moved to Texas. He unilaterally decided to move and abandoned his wife and kids. He can’t force her to move to Texas.

Uh, sounds like he made partner in the Texas law firm and his non-working wife is p*ssed it's not a DC one. Doesn't sound like a unilateral move but a grownup willing and able to support his family vs a pampered woman who doesn't care to work but wants to live where she wants (aka high COL places).

In what world does a person make partner at a firm where they never worked before. I bet $100 he got an office transfer to f*** her in alimony/division of assets.