Bisexual daughter and sleepovers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I remember some of the craziest pre-adult exploring encounters happening at sleepovers. My mom was in the middle of a divorce, so I slept over friends houses... A Lot.

Needless to say, sexual identity aside, we explored and watched soft porn and snuck shots of some weird peppermint schnapps from the bar and played truth or dare and did all sorts of selacious things I'd never repeat...

..and this was between the ages of 12-15.

No sleepovers after age 10 for my kids.

+1 lots of “exploring” between straight tweens... not sure bisexuality has anything to do with it

Because you didn’t feel force to put a label on yourself. Teens now do and early. There are 10-12 yr olds calling themselves bi now. Agree, no sleepovers in teen yrs, but especially middle school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say no to sleepovers. IMO 15 is young for sex, regardless of sexual orientation. I would not do things to encourage sexual exploitation. When she is 17-18, in college, have at it. She will be more mature and better able to process the emotions that come with sexual experiences

Agree. 15 is too young. Different story when the kids are in college, aged 17 and 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say no to sleepovers. IMO 15 is young for sex, regardless of sexual orientation. I would not do things to encourage sexual exploitation. When she is 17-18, in college, have at it. She will be more mature and better able to process the emotions that come with sexual experiences

Okay but then you are making your kid miss out on a lot of non-sexual fun and bonding. Your prerogative obviously, but I don't think keeping my kid in an overprotective box on the off chance they might do something you don't approve of. Personally I talk to my kids about waiting until at least 16/17 to have sex but I don't feel it's worth keeping them from having freedom to prevent it from happening. I hardly consider sleepovers to be "encouraging" sex. I guess you never leave your 15 alone in the house during the day time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and if she wanted to have a boy and girl together in her bed st the same time that would be fine too

Wtf

Might as well as sign her up for only fans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say no to sleepovers. IMO 15 is young for sex, regardless of sexual orientation. I would not do things to encourage sexual exploitation. When she is 17-18, in college, have at it. She will be more mature and better able to process the emotions that come with sexual experiences

Agree. 15 is too young. Different story when the kids are in college, aged 17 and 18.

What about 16?

You aren’t going to dictate when your kids decide

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I remember some of the craziest pre-adult exploring encounters happening at sleepovers. My mom was in the middle of a divorce, so I slept over friends houses... A Lot.

Needless to say, sexual identity aside, we explored and watched soft porn and snuck shots of some weird peppermint schnapps from the bar and played truth or dare and did all sorts of selacious things I'd never repeat...

..and this was between the ages of 12-15.

No sleepovers after age 10 for my kids.

+1 lots of “exploring” between straight tweens... not sure bisexuality has anything to do with it

Because you didn’t feel force to put a label on yourself. Teens now do and early. There are 10-12 yr olds calling themselves bi now. Agree, no sleepovers in teen yrs, but especially middle school

No sleepovers? Lol

You are one of those moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I remember some of the craziest pre-adult exploring encounters happening at sleepovers. My mom was in the middle of a divorce, so I slept over friends houses... A Lot.

Needless to say, sexual identity aside, we explored and watched soft porn and snuck shots of some weird peppermint schnapps from the bar and played truth or dare and did all sorts of selacious things I'd never repeat...

..and this was between the ages of 12-15.

No sleepovers after age 10 for my kids.

+1 lots of “exploring” between straight tweens... not sure bisexuality has anything to do with it

Because you didn’t feel force to put a label on yourself. Teens now do and early. There are 10-12 yr olds calling themselves bi now. Agree, no sleepovers in teen yrs, but especially middle school

No one feels forced. Kids feel more open to express themselves instead of being in the closet. Big difference.

And none of this should dictate if a teen can have a platonic friend sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I remember some of the craziest pre-adult exploring encounters happening at sleepovers. My mom was in the middle of a divorce, so I slept over friends houses... A Lot.

Needless to say, sexual identity aside, we explored and watched soft porn and snuck shots of some weird peppermint schnapps from the bar and played truth or dare and did all sorts of selacious things I'd never repeat...

..and this was between the ages of 12-15.

No sleepovers after age 10 for my kids.

+1 lots of “exploring” between straight tweens... not sure bisexuality has anything to do with it

Because you didn’t feel force to put a label on yourself. Teens now do and early. There are 10-12 yr olds calling themselves bi now. Agree, no sleepovers in teen yrs, but especially middle school

No one feels forced. Kids feel more open to express themselves instead of being in the closet. Big difference.

And none of this should dictate if a teen can have a platonic friend sleepover.

True but then who would clutch their pearls and deem this generation is going to ruin themselves because they can say they are bi one month and straight another. GASP!!!!

[Anonymous]

I would say no sleepovers. It's probably a good idea to stop them for many reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let her have the sleepovers. I plan to let my kids have boys sleep over too but then they have to be on birth control. Why does the thought of her experiencing sexual pleasure in your house bother you so much? I would be relieved that possible pregnancy would not be an issue.

LOL. Birth control fails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say no sleepovers. It's probably a good idea to stop them for many reasons.

Name the reasons please?

[Anonymous]

Are 15 year olds ever up to any good at a sleep over? I doubt they're doing their algebra homework together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say no sleepovers. It's probably a good idea to stop them for many reasons.

Name the reasons please?

pot (or worse)
porn (or worse, like snuff videos)
bullying
sleep deprivation
getting into weird trouble like phishing a man on the internet to meet them somewhere in person (actual example)
sexual abuse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say no sleepovers. It's probably a good idea to stop them for many reasons.

Name the reasons please?

pot (or worse)
porn (or worse, like snuff videos)
bullying
sleep deprivation
getting into weird trouble like phishing a man on the internet to meet them somewhere in person (actual example)
sexual abuse

None of these makes sense.

Two girls having a sleepover can get pot but won't smoke alone? Girls only look at porn together and not alone in their room? Um ok. 2 friends bully each other at the sleepover? Why choose that person then? One sleepover is sleep deprivation? lol
Phishing a man - this is what 2 girls do at a sleepover? And sexual abuse. Good god lady. You are WEIRD!!

[Anonymous]

How will they get pot if they never have unsupervised time with pot heads?

As for porn, I was shown cunnilingus on barbie dolls by an older girl at an age when I didn't know what it was. A sexually precocious girl can expose others to stuff they are not ready for

They bullying happens when the cool girl invites the dork over, she eagerly accepts and the cool girls entertain themselves picking on her

My kids are busy with stuff all weekend. I don't want them cranky. You do you.

The phishing thing from memory, the group of girls thought it would be fun to send dirty pics to some loser, got him to show up at some parking lot where they laughed at him from a distance

If your daughter is going to be sexually abused, a sleep over is the #1 place. Think about it. Where else is it going to happen? In broad daylight in school? Piano lessons?