Bisexual daughter and sleepovers

[Anonymous]

our daughter is 17 and bisexual we let her have sleepovers with her girl friends because we are happy for her to explore her sexuality if she wanted to have a sleepover with a boy we would put her on the pill and allow that too

[Anonymous]

and if she wanted to have a boy and girl together in her bed st the same time that would be fine too

[Anonymous]

Lol, I assume you all lost your virginity on your wedding night? Teenagers have been having sex since the dawn of time. Give them a box of condoms, an HPV vaccine, and a lecture on consent and then send them on their way. I really don't get what the big deal is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or that you need a better relationship with YOUR daughter - it would be up to HER to tell you if she were sleeping over the house of a girl who is her friend vs a girlfriend's house!

My daughter is not bisexual, so there would be no girlfriend for her. I personally am fine with whatever sexual direction she chooses, and this is something we have talked about. My daughter is 15 and a minor, parents have a responsibility to watch out over their kids and know what kind of vulnerable situation you are placing them into.

I'd appreciate knowing if the host daughter was bisexual because if she was I would not let her attend, same as I would not let her sleep at a boys house.

Maybe another parent knows the host daughter is bisexual and is fine with a sleepover, that's not my business. My daughter is my business.

It is absolutely none of your business what sexual orientation other people's children are. My God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I assume you all lost your virginity on your wedding night? Teenagers have been having sex since the dawn of time. Give them a box of condoms, an HPV vaccine, and a lecture on consent and then send them on their way. I really don't get what the big deal is.

I am 100% like this too. Sex in your teens was top tier. As long as you preach safety and be smart, and waiting for the right people, why not? It feels amazing. I was one of the last in my friend group since I wasn't a big fan of exclusive boyfriends early on, so I think I was 16.5. Went from an ok boyfriend to an amazing one that I was with for years. I may have had sex 50 times with him during senior beach week. No regrets

Waiting for marriage is just crazy to me.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what my (tweenaged) children's sexual orientations are, but if I did know I would never dream of disclosing it to another parent, regardless of whether they were gay/straight/bi/asexual. If another parent gave any hint that they wanted to know for any reason, I would consider that parent a total creep.

If you don't want to "risk" sleepovers with a gay friend, then at least be a *normal* religious nut case and don't allow sleepovers at all.

[Anonymous]

My 14yo daughter is straight and has sleepovers with straight girlfriends as well as bi girlfriends and her bi best guy friend since 3rd grade.

My 19yo daughter is gay and always had sleepovers with her besties from 2nd grade thru high school. All of which are still her besties to this day. When her girlfriend from college comes to visit, I let them sleep in the same room together. Will do the same when my youngest brings home a boyfriend from college and beyond.

Some of you are so incredibly uptight, it's insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what my (tweenaged) children's sexual orientations are, but if I did know I would never dream of disclosing it to another parent, regardless of whether they were gay/straight/bi/asexual. If another parent gave any hint that they wanted to know for any reason, I would consider that parent a total creep.

If you don't want to "risk" sleepovers with a gay friend, then at least be a *normal* religious nut case and don't allow sleepovers at all.

AMEN Mama!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I assume you all lost your virginity on your wedding night? Teenagers have been having sex since the dawn of time. Give them a box of condoms, an HPV vaccine, and a lecture on consent and then send them on their way. I really don't get what the big deal is.

I am 100% like this too. Sex in your teens was top tier. As long as you preach safety and be smart, and waiting for the right people, why not? It feels amazing. I was one of the last in my friend group since I wasn't a big fan of exclusive boyfriends early on, so I think I was 16.5. Went from an ok boyfriend to an amazing one that I was with for years. I may have had sex 50 times with him during senior beach week. No regrets

Waiting for marriage is just crazy to me.

+1

I wish I could go back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the purpose of sleepovers, anyways?

Do kids without sleepovers suffer any developmental damage?

Sleepovers are fun.. do you not like fun?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 15 year old daughter recently told us she is bisexual which my husband and I are completely comfortable with. However, we disagree with how to handle sleepovers. Personally I am very uncomfortable with the notion of her having female friends spend the night where it’s quite possible something sexual will happen. The way I see it, there’s no way in hell I would let her have a male friend spend the night, so why should I allow it with girls? My husband disagrees and thinks it would be cruel to limit her from having sleepovers with her female friends. He does absolutely agree that boys are completely out of the question for sleepovers.

I would, and have, let a male friend sleep over. Not a male boyfriend. Same would be if DC were bi/lesbian.

She has gay and lesbian friends and they routinely, boy and girl, have sleepovers together b/c none are interested in each other that way. But we are very open about things and speak to her a lot about sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I assume you all lost your virginity on your wedding night? Teenagers have been having sex since the dawn of time. Give them a box of condoms, an HPV vaccine, and a lecture on consent and then send them on their way. I really don't get what the big deal is.

Condoms don't work in the box.

Condoms are 87% effective per year, on average, and I doubt teens are above average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I assume you all lost your virginity on your wedding night? Teenagers have been having sex since the dawn of time. Give them a box of condoms, an HPV vaccine, and a lecture on consent and then send them on their way. I really don't get what the big deal is.

Condoms don't work in the box.

Condoms are 87% effective per year, on average, and I doubt teens are above average.

m
Teen pregnancy is way down. There are so many birth control methods, plan B, etc…

Calm down

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I assume you all lost your virginity on your wedding night? Teenagers have been having sex since the dawn of time. Give them a box of condoms, an HPV vaccine, and a lecture on consent and then send them on their way. I really don't get what the big deal is.

Condoms don't work in the box.

Condoms are 87% effective per year, on average, and I doubt teens are above average.

m
Teen pregnancy is way down. There are so many birth control methods, plan B, etc…

Calm down

Exactly, just add "offer an IUD" to the list and they are good to go.

[Anonymous]

I would say no to sleepovers. IMO 15 is young for sex, regardless of sexual orientation. I would not do things to encourage sexual exploitation. When she is 17-18, in college, have at it. She will be more mature and better able to process the emotions that come with sexual experiences