If you are a housewife, how much does your spouse make?

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Bitter party of 4. You (and 3 imaginary friends)

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Anonymous wrote:I make about $100k. But I have a house husband not a housewife. Two kids.

Just curious, are you a man or woman?

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DH makes 300-377k depending on a year. I work 30 hours a week from home and make 80k. DH offered me to quit many times but I feel better working plus 4k a month help so I don’t have to think about weather or not to buy new expensive shoes or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

The reason I work is to contribute to society, to be productive, to have a more equal relationship with my husband, to not be financially dependent, to be a good role model for my daughter and sons, to learn new things everyday, to be challenged, to be part of a team, because I have a strong work ethic, because it gives me a life outside my role as a mother and wife. These are just some of the reasons.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

The reason I work is to contribute to society, to be productive, to have a more equal relationship with my husband, to not be financially dependent, to be a good role model for my daughter and sons, to learn new things everyday, to be challenged, to be part of a team, because I have a strong work ethic, because it gives me a life outside my role as a mother and wife. These are just some of the reasons.

This.

Once again you can do all of that absent financial independence without a paying job. (Depending on savings and family money, you might have financial independence as well.)

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My DH makes 2.5 million a year. I've thought about going back to work, as my kids are in full day school, but it wouldn't be for the money (as anything I make would be negligible compared with his salary). And I would want something fulfilling and flexible enough so that I could still be there for the kids when they need me. I haven't come across this yet- this is why I think lots of SAHM focus on volunteer activities.

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If my DH would make millions I would quit working. In fact in the area we live( a little lower COL but not cheap like Midwest) I would quit if DH would bring 500k Combined income now is a little under 400k and I wouldn’t say we are very free with money.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

The reason I work is to contribute to society, to be productive, to have a more equal relationship with my husband, to not be financially dependent, to be a good role model for my daughter and sons, to learn new things everyday, to be challenged, to be part of a team, because I have a strong work ethic, because it gives me a life outside my role as a mother and wife. These are just some of the reasons.

This.

Once again you can do all of that absent financial independence without a paying job. (Depending on savings and family money, you might have financial independence as well.)

If you have a strong work ethic you are not a SAHM or you have extremely extenuating circumstances. Why is that so hard to admit?

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If you have a strong work ethic you are not a SAHM or you have extremely extenuating circumstances. Why is that so hard to admit?

Oh, that's sexist bullshit. I work, but I know plenty of SAHMs with a strong work ethic. You can work hard at a lot of different things that don't come with a paycheck.

Devaluing domestic labor and volunteer work undermines women, and values the almighty dollar over acts of service. Do better.

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If you have a strong work ethic you are not a SAHM or you have extremely extenuating circumstances. Why is that so hard to admit?

Oh, that's sexist bullshit. I work, but I know plenty of SAHMs with a strong work ethic. You can work hard at a lot of different things that don't come with a paycheck.

Devaluing domestic labor and volunteer work undermines women, and values the almighty dollar over acts of service. Do better.

Oh, come on. YOU do better. Domestic labor? Acts of service? Do you think these women whose husbands make $2.5mil a year are scrubbing toilets and kitchen floors, and making valuable societal contributions via "acts of service?" The average SAHM does NOT have a strong work ethic and there's nothing wrong with admitting that. Volunteering an hour or two a week in your kid's classroom does not equal a work ethic. Being a SAHM is a valuable asset, I'm not disagreeing there, but indicative of a strong work ethic is it not. Not sure how that's even up for debate.

[Anonymous]

Three kids, 130k.

When I became a SAHM, he earned 60k.

If I didn’t have kids, I’d be working.

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Anonymous wrote:In many of these mommy wars threads, the arrows come from both sides. I think this particular thread has one or two very, very angry and very, very jealous WOHMs. It's actually a little amusing.

I think the colder months and Holidays makes it harder on some women. Its not fun to pick up your kids from daycare when it is dark and chilly. + everywhere people are buying things, decorating, planning parties for the holiday season and some of these women feel overwhelmed. You have to admit that it is some sort of psychological breakdown when people start getting upset about the personal choices of other women. For these particular WOHMs, if there own situation was great they would be gleeful about how much better their own situation was. Instead they start frothing over the work status of anonymous DCUM posters. It is entertaining at first and then after some time it becomes a bit pathetic.[/quote]

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House husband. Wife makes ~900k. 2 kids.

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If you have a strong work ethic you are not a SAHM or you have extremely extenuating circumstances. Why is that so hard to admit?

Oh, that's sexist bullshit. I work, but I know plenty of SAHMs with a strong work ethic. You can work hard at a lot of different things that don't come with a paycheck.

Devaluing domestic labor and volunteer work undermines women, and values the almighty dollar over acts of service. Do better.

Oh, come on. YOU do better. Domestic labor? Acts of service? Do you think these women whose husbands make $2.5mil a year are scrubbing toilets and kitchen floors, and making valuable societal contributions via "acts of service?" The average SAHM does NOT have a strong work ethic and there's nothing wrong with admitting that. Volunteering an hour or two a week in your kid's classroom does not equal a work ethic. Being a SAHM is a valuable asset, I'm not disagreeing there, but indicative of a strong work ethic is it not. Not sure how that's even up for debate.

You know some shitty, uneducated SAHMs.

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Anonymous wrote:In many of these mommy wars threads, the arrows come from both sides. I think this particular thread has one or two very, very angry and very, very jealous WOHMs. It's actually a little amusing.

I think the colder months and Holidays makes it harder on some women. Its not fun to pick up your kids from daycare when it is dark and chilly. + everywhere people are buying things, decorating, planning parties for the holiday season and some of these women feel overwhelmed. You have to admit that it is some sort of psychological breakdown when people start getting upset about the personal choices of other women. For these particular WOHMs, if there own situation was great they would be gleeful about how much better their own situation was. Instead they start frothing over the work status of anonymous DCUM posters. It is entertaining at first and then after some time it becomes a bit pathetic.

Lol. Dude what?!?