If you are a housewife, how much does your spouse make?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised at people who are not working when DH earns 250k or less.

DH earns 1-2m. I stopped working when he hit 800k. We had two kids then. Now we have 3 kids.

If DH earned less, I would have continued to work.

Because some of us don't need a fancy house or cars and manage our money well so we can comfortably live off $200K.

How about college and retirement?

I feel like 200k is the worst because you are disqualified from any financial aid. College will probably be 400k+ per child.

Great state college and healthy retirement funds + hsa.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

[Anonymous]

$700k - $1m now, depending on his bonus $600k when I stopped. Made around $300k my last year of work, so it clearly wasn't for lack of good income on my part. Multiple factors made it a better decision for us, including the high stress in both jobs and insane amount of travel (me).

All the great nannies and outsourcing in the world don't help when both of your parents are working too much and wound up tight. Helps if its just one of them. At least that's what we thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised at people who are not working when DH earns 250k or less.

DH earns 1-2m. I stopped working when he hit 800k. We had two kids then. Now we have 3 kids.

If DH earned less, I would have continued to work.

Because some of us don't need a fancy house or cars and manage our money well so we can comfortably live off $200K.

How about college and retirement?

I feel like 200k is the worst because you are disqualified from any financial aid. College will probably be 400k+ per child.

We managed to save enough for retirement and college on less. DCs are currently in college and their expenses all in are about $45 each. One we pay full out of state freight and one has a nice merit scholarship at a private that brings the cost down to the out of state cost.

HHI is around $200k now, but was about $100k when the kids were born.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH makes about $250,000. Our kids are grown. I have been at home for 26 years. No plans to work outside the home.

What about after you divorce?

We have been married for 30 years. I don't see that happening. But if he died or we divorced, I would be fine. He is a Fed SESer eligible for full retirement now. (We are both 52). I get half of his pension, TSP, and social security. Plus half the house (nearly paid for). And if God forbid he dies, I get all the survivor benefits from the feds plus a 2 million dollar life insurance policy.

But thank you for your concern. It's sweet of you to be worried.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

The reason I work is to contribute to society, to be productive, to have a more equal relationship with my husband, to not be financially dependent, to be a good role model for my daughter and sons, to learn new things everyday, to be challenged, to be part of a team, because I have a strong work ethic, because it gives me a life outside my role as a mother and wife. These are just some of the reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:250,000
Kids grown and married
I haven’t worked in many years and have no plans to change that.

Of course you don't.

Bother you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

The reason I work is to contribute to society, to be productive, to have a more equal relationship with my husband, to not be financially dependent, to be a good role model for my daughter and sons, to learn new things everyday, to be challenged, to be part of a team, because I have a strong work ethic, because it gives me a life outside my role as a mother and wife. These are just some of the reasons.

I work, but I'm giving you a giant eyeroll. You can do almost all of those things -- everything except maybe the financial dependence piece, depending on savings and family money -- without having a paying job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't assume that being a "housewife" is always a "choice." There are many of us who made an initial choice to take care of the kids full time, then when we wanted to go back to work, there was a recession and even past the recession, no one will hire us. Doesn't matter that you are a capable person. Doesn't matter that you have an advanced degree. In some ways, I understand that an employer will favor a person with recent experience over someone with past experience.

But, after a certain number of years (and I don't mean 20), the work world just doesn't want women who have been out of the workforce. We smile and pretend it is our "choice," but that's a cover for the fact that we have been rejected literally hundreds of times.

speak for yourself. Where I live (Manhattan suburbs), few women work and that's because all their husbands earn millions of dollars in finance.

When people don't need the money and even an extra $60k wouldn't make a difference in their lifestyle, they usually choose not to work.

You're not very bright, are you?

The millionaire husband doesn't change the fact that nobody is going to hire these women, whether they want to work or not.

Not you are not that bright. The point is, these women are not even looking for a job. The thought hasn't crossed their minds in YEARS. They're sitting on millions of dollars. Why would they slave away for no reason?

The reason I work is to contribute to society, to be productive, to have a more equal relationship with my husband, to not be financially dependent, to be a good role model for my daughter and sons, to learn new things everyday, to be challenged, to be part of a team, because I have a strong work ethic, because it gives me a life outside my role as a mother and wife. These are just some of the reasons.

I work, but I'm giving you a giant eyeroll. You can do almost all of those things -- everything except maybe the financial dependence piece, depending on savings and family money -- without having a paying job.

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[Anonymous]

Two kids, one on the way. Only $300k right now but was just made equity partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two kids, one on the way. Only $300k right now but was just made equity partner.

The “only” makes you tone deaf. Not sure what values you teach your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised at people who are not working when DH earns 250k or less.

DH earns 1-2m. I stopped working when he hit 800k. We had two kids then. Now we have 3 kids.

If DH earned less, I would have continued to work.

Because some of us don't need a fancy house or cars and manage our money well so we can comfortably live off $200K.

I used to earn 200k by myself as a single. Can’t fathom supporting an entire family on that.

wow. expand your imagination a little! We do quite well on that. $900k house is paid off. have investments worth $2mil. DH is ret. AF now GS-15. We aren't suffering in poverty! We pretty much have all we want or need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised at people who are not working when DH earns 250k or less.

DH earns 1-2m. I stopped working when he hit 800k. We had two kids then. Now we have 3 kids.

If DH earned less, I would have continued to work.

Because some of us don't need a fancy house or cars and manage our money well so we can comfortably live off $200K.

I used to earn 200k by myself as a single. Can’t fathom supporting an entire family on that.

Our incomes combined are 165K and we're fine. Two kids one teen and one tween.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised at people who are not working when DH earns 250k or less.

DH earns 1-2m. I stopped working when he hit 800k. We had two kids then. Now we have 3 kids.

If DH earned less, I would have continued to work.

Because some of us don't need a fancy house or cars and manage our money well so we can comfortably live off $200K.

I used to earn 200k by myself as a single. Can’t fathom supporting an entire family on that.

wow. expand your imagination a little! We do quite well on that. $900k house is paid off. have investments worth $2mil. DH is ret. AF now GS-15. We aren't suffering in poverty! We pretty much have all we want or need.

Please ignore the idiots who can't imagine raising a family on 200k, the truth is that the multi millionaires above them can't fathom how these people manage without a private jet, 4 vacation homes and cooks, maids etc. There is ALWAYS a level above you, it's important to keep things in perspective and not sound like a jerk.