All of our friends are leaving DC

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of the reasons native Washingtonians don’t go all out to befriend people who move here.

Local here, I also tend to be less interested in people that say my town is transient. It’s like saying my home is a shanty....that’s obviously not what hey mean, but it just bugs me and I next them.

Meh. I'm native and consider this town transient. You have to be an absolute airhead not to recognize that.

Welp, based in that reasoning, you’d also have to be socially stunted to keep mentioning it in conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:Used to be your friends would move to Loudon and you would BBQ with them on the weekends. Now it takes an hour+ in traffic each way so you see them once a year. Can’t say I blame the young folks for leaving.

I’m from loudoun and find it easier to visit friends in Richmond than driving home sometimes. Same with friends in distant parts of Fairfax. One way isn’t bad but it’s taken over two hours to get back more than once

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very transient area. It's just part of life. Sorry, OP. It's hard when good friends move.

Most of our friends from early jobs have left. THis is not a real American town. It is transient and mostly immigrants

I find this very offensive. You do realize there are three and four generations of DC residents. Are you saying they aren't real Americans? For shame!

+1. It is offensive. What makes a "real American town" anyway? There are many different multi-generational groups in DC. EOTR and parts of SE there are upwards of seven generations. White America = Real America FFS.

7 generations? Nope. Anacostia was mostly white 70 years ago, PG was mostly white 60 years ago.

Ignore this race-baiter above. "Real America" that people here are posting about has nothing to do with race. There are plenty of African Americans in Philly and the Philly suburbs, by way of example. The difference is a greater feeling of permanence and neighborhood in areas like that, of which there are thousands around the U.S. DC isn't one of them.

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This thread is interesting.

OP: Wahhhhh everyone is LEAVING
P1: DC is transient
P2: No it's not
P3: DC is transient!!
P4: No it's not!!!!

I have been here since 1999 and lived in my NE neighborhood since the early '00s. My neighbors were here when I got here and haven't left. My friend circle hasn't changed much either. No lawyers, politicians or lobbyists in the mix, mostly journalists, feds and teachers.

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There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

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DC is actually not a particularly transient city. See this discussion with links to actual data: https://www.gwhatchet.com/2016/01/13/we-need-to-stop-calling-d-c-a-transient-city/

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very transient area. It's just part of life. Sorry, OP. It's hard when good friends move.

This is such a myth. It’s no more transient than when I lived in Atlanta.

+1. From Atlanta and I agree.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very transient area. It's just part of life. Sorry, OP. It's hard when good friends move.

This is such a myth. It’s no more transient than when I lived in Atlanta.

Yep, I think this is true for any major metropolitan area

+1. Granted, most of my friends live in other areas with a high COL (Boston, NYC, Seattle) but they complain about friends moving away too. It’s the nature of a city.

This. People who complain about the transient nature grew up in a small town, Midwest, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:They are making wise decisions, financially.

Many couples move to be near grandparents for help once they have kids. Or once the kids start school.

There are a lot of other very cool cities in America where the standard or living and sense of community are fantastic. There are pros/cons of course. I really hope to move out of here by the time my oldest hits 6th grade or so, and do MS and HS in a normal place not here. So F'd up here for pre-teens and teens - private or public school.

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Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

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OP; I couldn’t read this whole thing but I wonder what neighborhood you live in. Some neighborhoods are much more transient than others. The ones with very small homes and/or where the politicos tend to live are going to have to more turnover. But a lot of neighborhoods with SFHs and good elementary schools and high schools are populated by people that intend to stay for the long term. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t pay the premium to live in those neighborhoods.

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Anonymous wrote:OP; I couldn’t read this whole thing but I wonder what neighborhood you live in. Some neighborhoods are much more transient than others. The ones with very small homes and/or where the politicos tend to live are going to have to more turnover. But a lot of neighborhoods with SFHs and good elementary schools and high schools are populated by people that intend to stay for the long term. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t pay the premium to live in those neighborhoods.

This makes no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:They are making wise decisions, financially.

Many couples move to be near grandparents for help once they have kids. Or once the kids start school.

There are a lot of other very cool cities in America where the standard or living and sense of community are fantastic. There are pros/cons of course. I really hope to move out of here by the time my oldest hits 6th grade or so, and do MS and HS in a normal place not here. So F'd up here for pre-teens and teens - private or public school.

I have literally never met anyone in DC who moved to be closer to their parents. My parents were too busy to want to be near my kids. Define cool cities b/c I moved 2x to be in one of those "cool" cities and moved my ass right back to DC.

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Anonymous wrote:They are making wise decisions, financially.

Many couples move to be near grandparents for help once they have kids. Or once the kids start school.

There are a lot of other very cool cities in America where the standard or living and sense of community are fantastic. There are pros/cons of course. I really hope to move out of here by the time my oldest hits 6th grade or so, and do MS and HS in a normal place not here. So F'd up here for pre-teens and teens - private or public school.

I have literally never met anyone in DC who moved to be closer to their parents. My parents were too busy to want to be near my kids. Define cool cities b/c I moved 2x to be in one of those "cool" cities and moved my ass right back to DC.

??? Then you probably don’t know anyone with kids. It’s very common to leave dc and move back to where you are from once you have a kid. Some people wait it out, wait for #2 or #3, but I agree...it’s pretty common.
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:They are making wise decisions, financially.

Many couples move to be near grandparents for help once they have kids. Or once the kids start school.

There are a lot of other very cool cities in America where the standard or living and sense of community are fantastic. There are pros/cons of course. I really hope to move out of here by the time my oldest hits 6th grade or so, and do MS and HS in a normal place not here. So F'd up here for pre-teens and teens - private or public school.

I have literally never met anyone in DC who moved to be closer to their parents. My parents were too busy to want to be near my kids. Define cool cities b/c I moved 2x to be in one of those "cool" cities and moved my ass right back to DC.

??? Then you probably don’t know anyone with kids. It’s very common to leave dc and move back to where you are from once you have a kid. Some people wait it out, wait for #2 or #3, but I agree...it’s pretty common.
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And someone else says it isn't so perhaps it is common among your circle but not common among theirs. I personally don't know anyone who left DC to move closer to family. Does my anecdata trumps yours?