All of our friends are leaving DC

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Anonymous wrote:They are making wise decisions, financially.

Many couples move to be near grandparents for help once they have kids. Or once the kids start school.

There are a lot of other very cool cities in America where the standard or living and sense of community are fantastic. There are pros/cons of course. I really hope to move out of here by the time my oldest hits 6th grade or so, and do MS and HS in a normal place not here. So F'd up here for pre-teens and teens - private or public school.

I have literally never met anyone in DC who moved to be closer to their parents. My parents were too busy to want to be near my kids. Define cool cities b/c I moved 2x to be in one of those "cool" cities and moved my ass right back to DC.

??? Then you probably don’t know anyone with kids. It’s very common to leave dc and move back to where you are from once you have a kid. Some people wait it out, wait for #2 or #3, but I agree...it’s pretty common.
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And someone else says it isn't so perhaps it is common among your circle but not common among theirs. I personally don't know anyone who left DC to move closer to family. Does my anecdata trumps yours?

“Moved right back to DC.” Not surprising based on the tone of your posts. You must fit right in.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very transient area. It's just part of life. Sorry, OP. It's hard when good friends move.

This is such a myth. It’s no more transient than when I lived in Atlanta.

Yep, I think this is true for any major metropolitan area

+1. Granted, most of my friends live in other areas with a high COL (Boston, NYC, Seattle) but they complain about friends moving away too. It’s the nature of a city.

This. People who complain about the transient nature grew up in a small town, Midwest, etc.

The people who complain are also largely ignoring the majority AA population in DC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very transient area. It's just part of life. Sorry, OP. It's hard when good friends move.

This is such a myth. It’s no more transient than when I lived in Atlanta.

Yep, I think this is true for any major metropolitan area

+1. Granted, most of my friends live in other areas with a high COL (Boston, NYC, Seattle) but they complain about friends moving away too. It’s the nature of a city.

This. People who complain about the transient nature grew up in a small town, Midwest, etc.

The people who complain are also largely ignoring the majority AA population in DC.

Exactly this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Sign. Me. Up.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm in a similar boat as you. Been here 18 years since starting college at GU, and over time all but one of my college friends - who I considered family - have moved away. The one who remains I don't see very often because she's in a different stage of life. I have work friends who come and go - int'l field so lots of moving abroad and back - so that made it hard to become like family with them. So I hear you.

I am making new friends recently though. We used to live in Logan until last fall which I think contributed to the transient feel as there are lots of rentals, and DC's daycare was filled mostly with drop off from VA and MD given near K street corridor which made getting to know other parents/playdates really hard as we didn't have a car. But then moved to a SFH in Silver Spring, and I almost immediately met a new neighbor friend. We actually stalked houses in the neighborhood a bit as we liked the friendly neighborhood vibe after visiting DH's colleague. DC's new daycare is filled with local parents so playdates and other get-togethers have been numerous. Our street had a block party a few weeks ago, and it was wonderful. I'm not yet at the like family stage with my new friends, but I can see it happening over time. I don't know if my story helps, but I thought I'd share as I'm in the same boat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

No thank you, I'll let the fat white people have this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

NP here. That is a rather harsh response. There are people from this area who stick together, right or wrong; and there are people who are not from this area who stick together, right or wrong. There is no blanket statement about who should like what, nor is it all about you. Expand your horizons a bit, you may enjoy it, and it may (???) help you be less angry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

NP here. That is a rather harsh response. There are people from this area who stick together, right or wrong; and there are people who are not from this area who stick together, right or wrong. There is no blanket statement about who should like what, nor is it all about you. Expand your horizons a bit, you may enjoy it, and it may (???) help you be less angry.

Less angry? How white of you! This thread rests upon the premise that DC is a transient town. For us black folk that's laughable. Not that you'd dare walk down MLK with me, but if you would, I'd love to see you tell all the people around that they are newcomers. I'm actually laughing while sitting at my desk thinking about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

NP here. That is a rather harsh response. There are people from this area who stick together, right or wrong; and there are people who are not from this area who stick together, right or wrong. There is no blanket statement about who should like what, nor is it all about you. Expand your horizons a bit, you may enjoy it, and it may (???) help you be less angry.

Less angry? How white of you! This thread rests upon the premise that DC is a transient town. For us black folk that's laughable. Not that you'd dare walk down MLK with me, but if you would, I'd love to see you tell all the people around that they are newcomers. I'm actually laughing while sitting at my desk thinking about that.

I don't know/care what you look like, but I know what you sound like, and that is angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

NP here. That is a rather harsh response. There are people from this area who stick together, right or wrong; and there are people who are not from this area who stick together, right or wrong. There is no blanket statement about who should like what, nor is it all about you. Expand your horizons a bit, you may enjoy it, and it may (???) help you be less angry.

Less angry? How white of you! This thread rests upon the premise that DC is a transient town. For us black folk that's laughable. Not that you'd dare walk down MLK with me, but if you would, I'd love to see you tell all the people around that they are newcomers. I'm actually laughing while sitting at my desk thinking about that.

I don't know/care what you look like, but I know what you sound like, and that is angry.

People have a tendency to act that way when you make ignorant, bigoted, generalizations about them based off the color of their skin.

Crazy, I know!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are making wise decisions, financially.

Many couples move to be near grandparents for help once they have kids. Or once the kids start school.

There are a lot of other very cool cities in America where the standard or living and sense of community are fantastic. There are pros/cons of course. I really hope to move out of here by the time my oldest hits 6th grade or so, and do MS and HS in a normal place not here. So F'd up here for pre-teens and teens - private or public school.

I have literally never met anyone in DC who moved to be closer to their parents. My parents were too busy to want to be near my kids. Define cool cities b/c I moved 2x to be in one of those "cool" cities and moved my ass right back to DC.

??? Then you probably don’t know anyone with kids. It’s very common to leave dc and move back to where you are from once you have a kid. Some people wait it out, wait for #2 or #3, but I agree...it’s pretty common.
T

And someone else says it isn't so perhaps it is common among your circle but not common among theirs. I personally don't know anyone who left DC to move closer to family. Does my anecdata trumps yours?

“Moved right back to DC.” Not surprising based on the tone of your posts. You must fit right in.

Yes, I moved right back to DC. My tone? Dummy, I just wrote the first post about not knowing anyone who moved to be closer to their parents. Yes, I know people with kids. Hell, I have 2 of my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

Sorry, I am another Wisconsinite who has lived in the DC area for over a decade, and none of those things happen in DC. You seem angry, defensive, and a little dense. PP was not trying to make this a racial issue. She was only listing some things she liked about another place. But you couldn't help yourself, could you? In any case, if you know anywhere I can find cheese curds, a fish fry, or snowmobiling in DC, please let me know. I have been looking for years and haven't found them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a lot to like about D.C. But I do miss the friendliness and more laid back life-style of the Chicago area. We lived north of the city on Lake Michigan and it was wonderful with great schools and very nice people. I don't miss the winters but D.C. summers are pretty miserable.

Baseball pick up games. BBQs. Lake house parties. Going to the pub. Door county/the Dells. Festivals.

SIgh.

#WisconsinLife: Beer blasts, keggers, beer fights, beer pontoon boat cruises, cheese curds and beer, drunken snowmobile rides, frozen schnapps, drunken ice fishing, fish fried in beer batter.

Newsflash- all of that happens in DC too. Unless you're just an annoying, racist transplant moaning about 'home' being better. Then, you probably don't get invited to diddily.

I’m sure some of here things happen in DC. But I think it speaks to your lack of ever having lived anywhere else to see how much better other places are at certain things. Especially places like Wisconsin. That said, there are downsides to living in other places as well.