Recent Ballston Tragedy - why is no one talking about this?!

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone have theories on what happened? And why did the media go radio silent on this? There were a couple of stories when it happened and then nothing. And police are not sharing details. This is sad and frightening. How can they say there’s no immediate threat to public but not share what happened?

https://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/Virginia-Community-Uneasy-Two-Weeks-After-Homicide-and-No-Arrest-478426573.html

How was this a tragedy? It sucks the guy died, but I don’t see a “tragedy” here. A bit of a mystery, maybe.

you don’t think it is a tragedy that a young boy is left without his father? you win for most clever post.

NP Jesus ! Just come out and say you're mainly concerned because it happened where you don't think/expect it to happen .

Well, of course that is one part of the tragedy. This happened in an area where murders rarely occur. It happened to someone who appeared to be a very good guy, and it has left a child without his father. And, in an area where murders that happen to unlikely candidates (wasn't a drug dealer, no nefarious behavior), it isn't really being discussed either online or on the news. Barely a mention.

And for the poster who said that this doesn't meet their "tragedy" standard, I must respectfully disagree with you.

To be fair, (and unfortunately in the world we live in today) when I saw the heading "recent Ballston Tragedy" my first thought was mass shooting or some kind of multiple shooting event. I didn't think of a single homicide, even though that is a tragedy.

[Anonymous]

Some articles are now identifying the suspect as an acquaintance of the victim: https://dcw50.com/2018/07/23/police-man-arrested-for-murdering-arlington-man-inside-his-home/

I think the odds are low that when/if the full story comes out, it won’t involve Patel having had an affair with the kid’s mom and/or the victim having had an affair with Patel’s wife.

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What do you mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and the story isnt getting much press, which seems unusual

I work in the media. We can only report what credible sources tell us. We do not expend investigative research hours on stories we will get no information from, unless we personally think the story has to be told. If folks want movement, unless police provide an update, people close to the victim need to keep the story relevant in the news by holding a vigil, making a statement, or calling for some kind of public action.

[Anonymous]

It seems like the only thing that makes sense with this case is that the mom is involved. Otherwise, what is this man's motive? Why would a someone who is not married to/living with the mother care if she has a long drive to see her son? According to the articles, he is married to someone else. He probably has zero relationship with the son.

[Anonymous]

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It seems like the only thing that makes sense with this case is that the mom is involved. Otherwise, what is this man's motive? Why would a someone who is not married to/living with the mother care if she has a long drive to see her son? According to the articles, he is married to someone else. He probably has zero relationship with the son.

Because the killer viewed John as a threat to his relationship with the woman. John was going to have a bond with her that the killer never would. The mom doesn’t necessarily have to be involved.

[Anonymous]

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It seems like the only thing that makes sense with this case is that the mom is involved. Otherwise, what is this man's motive? Why would a someone who is not married to/living with the mother care if she has a long drive to see her son? According to the articles, he is married to someone else. He probably has zero relationship with the son.

Because the killer viewed John as a threat to his relationship with the woman. John was going to have a bond with her that the killer never would. The mom doesn’t necessarily have to be involved.

Then why not kill her other baby daddy/ex-husband? Maybe he did it bc she would have more time for him without having to drive to and from Ballston from Maryland?

[Anonymous]

OK, what happened to the young father of two who may have been killed by his wife in Vienna Va a while back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, what happened to the young father of two who may have been killed by his wife in Vienna Va a while back?

He is dead. His wife was acquitted.

Vienna woman acquitted of first-degree murder in husband's killing
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/vienna-woman-acquitted-of-first-degree-murder-in-husbands-killing/2017/06/30/2f96d88a-9f68-40a1-b029-b6a768f4da61_story.html

Not sure what this has to do with the Ballston murder.

[Anonymous]

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It seems like the only thing that makes sense with this case is that the mom is involved. Otherwise, what is this man's motive? Why would a someone who is not married to/living with the mother care if she has a long drive to see her son? According to the articles, he is married to someone else. He probably has zero relationship with the son.

Because the killer viewed John as a threat to his relationship with the woman. John was going to have a bond with her that the killer never would. The mom doesn’t necessarily have to be involved.

Then why not kill her other baby daddy/ex-husband? Maybe he did it bc she would have more time for him without having to drive to and from Ballston from Maryland?

I thought there was some overlap between John and the killer. I might have my timeline off on all these guys she was sleeping with.

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It seems like the only thing that makes sense with this case is that the mom is involved. Otherwise, what is this man's motive? Why would a someone who is not married to/living with the mother care if she has a long drive to see her son? According to the articles, he is married to someone else. He probably has zero relationship with the son.

Because the killer viewed John as a threat to his relationship with the woman. John was going to have a bond with her that the killer never would. The mom doesn’t necessarily have to be involved.

Then why not kill her other baby daddy/ex-husband? Maybe he did it bc she would have more time for him without having to drive to and from Ballston from Maryland?

I thought there was some overlap between John and the killer. I might have my timeline off on all these guys she was sleeping with.

Oh where did you read/hear that? That would make more sense. Based on what I have read, John was awarded full custody in 2016 and she started seeing the married accused killer within the past year/year and a half. Her relationship with the victim seemed pretty strained considering he went for full custody, not even joint. For me, it would be hard to imagine them rekindling anything during this period.

[Anonymous]

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It seems like the only thing that makes sense with this case is that the mom is involved. Otherwise, what is this man's motive? Why would a someone who is not married to/living with the mother care if she has a long drive to see her son? According to the articles, he is married to someone else. He probably has zero relationship with the son.

Because the killer viewed John as a threat to his relationship with the woman. John was going to have a bond with her that the killer never would. The mom doesn’t necessarily have to be involved.

Then why not kill her other baby daddy/ex-husband? Maybe he did it bc she would have more time for him without having to drive to and from Ballston from Maryland?

I thought there was some overlap between John and the killer. I might have my timeline off on all these guys she was sleeping with.

Oh where did you read/hear that? That would make more sense. Based on what I have read, John was awarded full custody in 2016 and she started seeing the married accused killer within the past year/year and a half. Her relationship with the victim seemed pretty strained considering he went for full custody, not even joint. For me, it would be hard to imagine them rekindling anything during this period.

I agree that it’s most likely the ex-wife was involved, but you never know... It could always be some bizarre act of love. Look at the Dan Markel murder. Allegedly murdered by guy hired by the brother of his ex-wife as a result of a bitter custody dispute. Lots of people still think the ex-wife is involved b/c of the motive/circumstances, but LE hasn’t suggested that/certainly can’t prove it.

[Anonymous]

It will probably take Patel turning against her for her to be charged. I hope the boy is with the grandparents and not the mom.

[Anonymous]

Here’s an update from back in November:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/man-is-accused-of-killing-his-girlfriends-former-boyfriend/2018/11/20/42ba6ba6-ec65-11e8-96d4-0d23f2aaad09_story.html?utm_term=.4b1294da6b1d

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:sexual asphyxiation gone wrong?

police say no threat to the public so why get so fixated on it?

Again, the police called it a homicide and specifically asked the medical examiner not to release details of how he died.

If it was sexual asphyxiation, it would likely not be classified as murder. Why would they not release the manner of death? Something is definitely fishy. This is not an area where murders are very common.

Homicide and murder are not the same.

Please explain the difference between the two.

Would the police call a suicide a homicide?

A homicide is a legal term that indicates a human life was taken by another human.

Murder is a TYPE of homicide. But not all homicide is murder.

Manslaughter, justifiable homicide, negligent homicide, those are all types of homicide. But none are “murder”.