Any Stern Teachers at the Big 3??

[Anonymous]

I am so glad I get the chance to use a term I learned from a different thread:

This OP is completely WHACKADOODLE!!!

[Anonymous]

OP: I'm sorry to have to jump on the bandwagon, but the hypocrisy of your posts is striking. Talk about lessons in civility...I think its you who could stand a few of those.

[Anonymous]

Also, from what you have descibed about your son, he is really not a good listener. Behavior problem or not, children should learn to respond to directions the first time they are given.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my child at a "Big Three" school has had "stern" teachers. I had no problem with it. I would have a problem if a teacher were mean, abusive, or belittling, but those are not the same thing as stern.

Now that I answered your question, as instructed, I have a question for you. If you were the teacher in a class of, say, 16 early elementary students, and one of those students persisted in picking things up or touching them after being told not to, what would YOU do? Keep in mind that there is a class full of kids, and assume that you have already gone over classroom rulles, asked this child to stop, and given a few reminders. Also assume that all the children are bright and curious, but that the others are following the classroom routine and rules.

[Anonymous]

"We reminded her of the school's policy, however. We suggested new ways for her to handle future situations. Case resolved."

I have to tell you- this is not good. I hope for your sake that it was worth it. I am a teacher at one of the big 3 schools. If you came to with this silliness and then suggested new ways for me to not ever have my tone mistaken as 'unkind', you would be at the top of my list of parents that I can't stand. Please understand that my principal and I would have had a LONG talk about you and decided that you were crazy. And I wouldn't go out of my way to do favors for you. Period. And I would go back to running my classroom the way I wanted. Thank goodness you didn't get into a top school. You're the kind they screen for at interviews. Good luck with the rest of your school year. You're going to need it.

[Anonymous]

You can't possibly be a Big 3 teacher -- you're so, well, stern.

(Probably only with the a-hole parents, LOL!)

[Anonymous]

Is OP for real? Sorry, she hates it when posters talk about her as though she is not here. OP, are you for real?

How dare you assume that non-big 3 parent posters are only responding out of defensiveness because they feel guilty that they haven't had their children accepted at and pay tuition for their children to be at a school that doesn't treat students sternly? But wait, you are ASKING if big three schools have teachers that are stern, so I don't follow your logic.

Besides, isn't this a non-issue for you? Your child is not at a big 3 and who on earth do you think you are to assume that he would get in?

[Anonymous]

I really feel for OP's son. I think it is she who is doing a disservice to her son by not encouraging him to take direction from adults respectfully and immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really feel for OP's son. I think it is she who is doing a disservice to her son by not encouraging him to take direction from adults respectfully and immediately.

I agree 100% I am surprised nobody mentioned the effect this all has on respect for authority.

My sister and I were both in public school for lower and middle school and had some real doosies for teachers. My parents would sympathize for us, but ALWAYS showed respect and deference to the teachers. We would complain and they would have a "well, that's unfortunate, but it's her classroom" attitude. If I was OP's DS and came home and told my parents, they would have said I'm sorry she "jolted" you (or whatever), and then would have told me at least now I know to be extra careful to follow directions. And fwiw, I was an ADHD kid and had a really difficult time with teachers, but I always respected them.

OP, I did not post this to derail your thread or debate you in any way. Everything we do sends a message to our children. If you don't like the way your child is treated, you are well within your right to deal with the situation. But bear in mind that how you approach the situation will send a message in and of itself to your son. In this case, it very well could send the message that authority can be disregarded if it is not in accordance with a style that you personally agree with. If you got pulled over for speeding and the police officer started barking rudely or even inappropriately at you the second you rolled down your window, would you not cooperate in front of your son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This last post by OP really has me question OP's sanity. Was OP sitting in class and can actually verify the mien and tone of teacher? Just last night my DC were telling me the wildest stories which had no basis in reality. But they were telling them because they could see it was getting rise out of our visitor. This was all very subtle mind you, but they were really picking up on the clues and playing to it.

Why are you talking to the other posters like I'm not here? "Was OP sitting in class?" Gee, why not just ask me, "Hey OP how do you know your teacher's tone was mean or stern?" I can answer that for you. When we met with DC's teacher, she validated his exact story. We reminded her of the school's policy, however. We suggested new ways for her to handle future situations. Case resolved.

uhm, maybe because we are hoping you will go away? but really, you need to get a grip.

What??? I'm the one who wrote this post. It's YOU who should be going away, especially if you aren't here to answer the question in the original post. Enough with the high school comments, "get a grip," "she's got a screw loose." Save such comments for conversations with your 14 year old daughter while you both go shopping at Forever 21. Please leave this discussion for those who truly wish to answer the poster's questions. My goodness, it really is not a surprise to me that people like you embrace yelling and raising your voices to your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"We reminded her of the school's policy, however. We suggested new ways for her to handle future situations. Case resolved."

I have to tell you- this is not good. I hope for your sake that it was worth it. I am a teacher at one of the big 3 schools. If you came to with this silliness and then suggested new ways for me to not ever have my tone mistaken as 'unkind', you would be at the top of my list of parents that I can't stand. Please understand that my principal and I would have had a LONG talk about you and decided that you were crazy. And I wouldn't go out of my way to do favors for you. Period. And I would go back to running my classroom the way I wanted. Thank goodness you didn't get into a top school. You're the kind they screen for at interviews. Good luck with the rest of your school year. You're going to need it.

Your 'principal'? I didn't think the head of schools at schools like Potomac, Sidwell, Maret, etc..were called 'principals.' As a teacher of the big 3 schools you should know that. So muchof how you communicate belies your assertion that you are a teacher at one of the big 3. Qualified, education teachers do not communicate this way: "Please understand that my principal and I would have had a LONG talk about you and decided that you were crazy. And I wouldn't go out of my way to do favors for you. Period."

This discussion is closed because it's very clear to me that those responding now with the rudeness are the real trolls, out for blood to defend their parenting or their schools or their tolerance of their schools. I feel really sorry for you. To have this much venom to spew and try so hard to detract from my original question reveals much about your level of anger. And the sad part about it I doubt you can be rehabilitated.

Actually DC's school is wonderful. Think of all the schools you know that have a tuition of $25,000 or more that are top schools in the DC metro area. It might be one of the ones I already mentioned, because thats where he goes. This was one brand new teacher who messed up one time. We are certain it will not happen again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"We reminded her of the school's policy, however. We suggested new ways for her to handle future situations. Case resolved."

I have to tell you- this is not good. I hope for your sake that it was worth it. I am a teacher at one of the big 3 schools. If you came to with this silliness and then suggested new ways for me to not ever have my tone mistaken as 'unkind', you would be at the top of my list of parents that I can't stand. Please understand that my principal and I would have had a LONG talk about you and decided that you were crazy. And I wouldn't go out of my way to do favors for you. Period. And I would go back to running my classroom the way I wanted. Thank goodness you didn't get into a top school. You're the kind they screen for at interviews. Good luck with the rest of your school year. You're going to need it.

Your 'principal'? I didn't think the head of schools at schools like Potomac, Sidwell, Maret, etc..were called 'principals.' As a teacher of the big 3 schools you should know that. So muchof how you communicate belies your assertion that you are a teacher at one of the big 3. Qualified, education teachers do not communicate this way: "Please understand that my principal and I would have had a LONG talk about you and decided that you were crazy. And I wouldn't go out of my way to do favors for you. Period."

This discussion is closed because it's very clear to me that those responding now with the rudeness are the real trolls, out for blood to defend their parenting or their schools or their tolerance of their schools. I feel really sorry for you. To have this much venom to spew and try so hard to detract from my original question reveals much about your level of anger. And the sad part about it I doubt you can be rehabilitated.

Actually DC's school is wonderful. Think of all the schools you know that have a tuition of $25,000 or more that are top schools in the DC metro area. It might be one of the ones I already mentioned, because thats where he goes. This was one brand new teacher who messed up one time. We are certain it will not happen again.

Hmmm, our DC are at a Big 3: there is a head of school AND a principal. And yes, the PP, who is a teacher at a Big 3, would discuss your case with the principal, not the head of school. Well, more aptly, they would laugh about your case.

[Anonymous]

Hey, didn't you read her post? She said this discussion is closed.

[Anonymous]

OP: Your son is desperately in need of some improved parenting and a mother who is in control of her affect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please leave this discussion for those who truly wish to answer the poster's questions.

Because, God knows, there's no chance that the OP will critically engage any of the thoughtful comments that have been posted questioning her approach. She's really only interested in receiving affirmation or trading insults.