This is shade, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter if everyone else is wearing ripped jeans. One should NOT wear ripped jeans in an office/at an office job.

You deserve to be given a warning by HR for what you are wearing. You are not supposed to look "cute!" at your office. You are supposed to look professional.

And I say this as a 20-something who works at a tech firm.

Oof, nothing like a good talking-to to get the blood going! Keep it up, we gotta make sure everybody is worrying that they're being judged. Rule-followers rule! Ripped jean-wearers drool!

I mean, PP was a bit much in saying that HR should be involved, but the main point is clear. Wear whatever you want, but don't be surprised when people don't take you seriously and you don't advance as quickly as some peers.

[Anonymous]

OP, your poor social skills will definitely hamper your career. You may want to exhibit common courtesy to your colleagues as a baseline. And dress for the job you want, not the job you have.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like the most annoying coworker ever. She's way too cool for the business world.

[Anonymous]

WTF is ‘shade’?

[Anonymous]

I wear my uggs, and leggings to the office while listening to music. We don't receive people and I sit at a desk all day. Sue me.
Tell her to cry me a river, build a bridge, and get over it.

[Anonymous]

She did you a favor. You don't know how to dress for an office job. Ripped jeans are a no-no (even on a casual day).

[Anonymous]

There are few things more annoying than white people who don't know how to use slang properly.

The woman asked you a direct question and stated that she thought you were casually dressed. That is not shade. It might be annoying or rude, but it is not shade.

Shade is subtle, not actually stated. If she had remarked "I prefer to dress professionally, but your jeans are nice," THAT would be shade. That sentence implies, without saying, that she thinks you are sloppy. It requires an inference and is even extra shady because it is masked as a compliment.

Understand?

Now, go forth and use the term properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

Whoa, this blew up! I hadn't expected that.

Actually, I work in the IT directorate for my agency. Our dress code is lax, especially on Thursdays when we're encouraged to wear team jerseys. Some of you are ridiculous. I don't owe a stiff old biddy an answer to her busy body attempt at an insult.

**Those of you defending my position and/or response to her, THANK YOU!

Lastly, I didn't use the word hater (I never use that word) as one PP suggested. Although, shade is, in fact, used properly in my post/title.

Carry on...

Hmm, I wonder if this is my agency. AND for the record, “torn denim” is forbidden.

[Anonymous]

OP - hope you are taking big steps to correct your lame professional image.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you weren’t dressed appropriately but only you know that.
She was a bitch for pointing it out to you in a passive aggressive way. Unless you’re an intern and she’s a director.
I think your reaction was fine. Who made her fashion police of the office?

[Anonymous]

Just saw your post that you work in IT. I don’t know about the ripped jeans but IT in my office is definitely casual.

[Anonymous]

100% shock is what is sounded like. But, I can see the shade too. I would be giving major side eye unless we worked in any place other than an “office.” Well, maybe if our “office” was Starbucks or whatever local coffee shop. <—- also could be an example of shade.

[Anonymous]

Op, out of curiosity, did you once post about someone getting mad about a skirt you were wearing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wear my uggs, and leggings to the office while listening to music. We don't receive people and I sit at a desk all day. Sue me.
Tell her to cry me a river, build a bridge, and get over it.

It's curious how you never used the word "work" to describe what you do in the office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ripped jeans at work are an absolute no.

This.
I work in a VERY casual work setting and I too have a couple of very cute ripped jeans that I wear on the weekends.