This is shade, right?

[Anonymous]

You can’t be for real. Seriously...society is truly in trouble. You were so wrong in dress, actions, etc. Wow your parents must be proud. Or even scarier, they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are few things more annoying than white people who don't know how to use slang properly.

The woman asked you a direct question and stated that she thought you were casually dressed. That is not shade. It might be annoying or rude, but it is not shade.

Shade is subtle, not actually stated. If she had remarked "I prefer to dress professionally, but your jeans are nice," THAT would be shade. That sentence implies, without saying, that she thinks you are sloppy. It requires an inference and is even extra shady because it is masked as a compliment.

Understand?

Now, go forth and use the term properly.

I'm not white, Ms. Loud and Wrong.

Thanks for the tip on the proper use of shade. It's good to see you get something right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeans with holes? I don't care how "cute", I wouldn't wear those even to the office picnic. (I'm a fed too)

Jeans with holes should not be part of anyone’s work wardrobe. One time when I dropped off my kid at preschool, the teacher was wearing jeans with holes and I remember thinking it was really inappropriate. She probably thought it was “cute” but it was very unprofessional. If an intern wore ripped jeans I would say something to them about appropriate work clothes.

[Anonymous]

I am old. i wore ripped jeans the first time they came around. I don't wear them now because I would feel like an idiot. I certainly wouldn't wear them to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are few things more annoying than white people who don't know how to use slang properly.

The woman asked you a direct question and stated that she thought you were casually dressed. That is not shade. It might be annoying or rude, but it is not shade.

Shade is subtle, not actually stated. If she had remarked "I prefer to dress professionally, but your jeans are nice," THAT would be shade. That sentence implies, without saying, that she thinks you are sloppy. It requires an inference and is even extra shady because it is masked as a compliment.

Understand?

Now, go forth and use the term properly.

I'm not white, Ms. Loud and Wrong.

Thanks for the tip on the proper use of shade. It's good to see you get something right.

PP here, you're very welcome, dear. I know figuring out proper garb keeps you busy, so don't worry about what shade is.

(And yes, that was shade.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suppose I'm old-fashioned, but I don't think "knee holes" are appropriate office wear.

+1

Nor is leaving ear buds in once you arrive at your office building, particularly if you have encountered a person you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were incredibly rude, OP. When someone asks you a question, you answer, and when you feel it comes with judgement, you are allowed to be short instead of courteous. But failing to answer and shaking your head is grossly offensive.

This person really wants to confirm which office, even if she previously thought you both worked for the same office, because she can't believe that they would let you wear that crap to work. Yes, she's judging, but she also asked you a question and you need to answer.

You do not come to work with ripped jeans.
You do not walk in the corridors with ear buds.
You answer questions.
You say please and thank you.

Where on earth do you come from that you don't know these basic social skills?

Agree with all of this. I wear ripped jeans on the weekends and out on my own time, but I’d never wear them to work, even on casual Friday in my paltry local government office job.

[Anonymous]

Ripped jeans are never professional. They can be super cute -
but cute does not = professional. Even in a casual environment. I'm not a stuffy old biddy either. I assume this is common sense but I've seen worse, so no. I would never assume a person is most familiar with their own office dress code because people like the OP are clearly ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a federal government office. Today, I'm wearing jeans, a dressy shirt, and warm/fuzzy boots. The jeans have knee holes, but they are not overly ripped. They're cute! (I am not dressed outside of my agency's approved dress code.)

I am listening to a podcast on my nano, and I walked to an elevator bay where there was another lady--an older lady. I know her (though, not well), and we work for the same office/directorate. She's asked me for help on something before, so I know she knows who I am. She has never been overly friendly.

We wait a few minutes for the elevator. After we're on the elevator, I hear her say, "Excuse me, miss! Miss!" (through the sound of the podcast I'm listening to).

I remove the ear bud, and tell her I'm sorry, I didn't hear her at first.

She said, "What office do you work for that lets you dress so casually?" I just looked at her dumbfounded. It definitely seemed like she was insulting me. I stared at her and sputtered from being caught of guard. She repeated her question--no smile, not friendly. I stared at her, shook my head, remained quiet, and walked out of the elevator once the door opened.

You guys, we work for the same office, so it definitely seemed like a bit of shade. Maybe I'm crazy, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once, the intern in the office came in with ripped jeans and I asked her if they were ripped on purpose.

Now that's shade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shade would be, "did you get lost on your way to Ultrabar?"

+1. OP seems she wants to be perceived as cool, but she used the term incorrectly.

[Anonymous]

First, ripped jeans are not appropriate professional office attire ever (vs. working in retail selling ripped jeans, in which case go for it).

Second, why are you listening to a podcast on your nano during work hours? Is it work-related?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, ripped jeans are not appropriate professional office attire ever (vs. working in retail selling ripped jeans, in which case go for it).

Second, why are you listening to a podcast on your nano during work hours? Is it work-related?

really have to wonder what position she holds and what agency this is that allows that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, ripped jeans are not appropriate professional office attire ever (vs. working in retail selling ripped jeans, in which case go for it).

Second, why are you listening to a podcast on your nano during work hours? Is it work-related?

really have to wonder what position she holds and what agency this is that allows that.

I totally missed the nano reference.
At first I thought OP must be in her early 20s but there's no way 20 year olds are using an ipod nano...

I'm going to guess she's an admin.

[Anonymous]

OP, your unprofessional attitude is going to catch up with you.