Teen daughter wants her rhinoplasty soon. How young is too young?

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Ethnic teens are all getting blonde highlights, using hair straighteners, having nose jobs. It IS kind of sad but looking WASP seems like one more thing on the checklist of must have items.

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It's a personal decision and if someone hates their nose and wants to change it, let them. My DD was miserable in HS with hers. She is very petite and it did overwhelm her face. People teased her about it. She had it done at 18 before college and is so much happier. She was a late bloomer, and it was recommended we wait until she was 18. For the record, it's not a tiny little nose. There's no way it could be. It looks very natural and the most important thing is she feels good about herself. Totally worth it.

[Anonymous]

I had mine at 16. In so thankful my parents let me do it. My confidence in my looks increased dramatically and that affected my sel-confident in a very positive way. Never once have I regretted getting it fixed.

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Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 16. In so thankful my parents let me do it. My confidence in my looks increased dramatically and that affected my sel-confident in a very positive way. Never once have I regretted getting it fixed.

BTW, there were two other girls in my class that had nose jobs the summer I did when we were all 16. None of us are Jewish.

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What is the general consensus of what age is the minimum for a nose job?

[Anonymous]

16

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Anonymous wrote:I used to be in the "wait until 18" camp but I'm watching my really well endowed daughter struggle with how well endowed she is, and I'm finding myself thinking that if she asked for a reduction at 16 or so, I'd probably take her to talk to a doctor.

Find a doctor you trust. Talk to the doctor.

This can be a quality of life condition that affects her back, her posture. I get it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it different than braces? People have no problems altering teeth for cosmetic reasons. As far as I know, no one in our family has ever had cosmetic surgery, so I don't care personally but I can see there are some things, like the breast reduction (or a nose job for a nose that is far, far outside the mainstream) that I could agree to for under 18.

I agree. Beauty is on the inside. If you have something on the outside that makes you uncomfortable, fix it. Life's too short.

I know a child who had surgery to pin back his ears and the result was life changing - not for his looks, but for his confidence and self esteem. He and his parents have no regrets.

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I had one the summer I turned 16. I was tormented and teased. I felt ugly and hated myself. I don't regret it. I'm still no super model but I don't literally hide anymore. I have an average level of confidence and insecurities. I'm sad that my 16 year old self hated herself so much, and I'm angry at the bullies who made me feel that way. But it was the right choice to let me grow into my self without such a glaring difference getting in the way. I likely won't ever have any other work done - I don't need "perfection".

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Anonymous wrote:Question for those who did get rhinoplasty, or had friends who did, in HS-

Was it not weird coming back to school obviously having had plastic surgery? I don't know anyone who did this (that I'm aware of) and I feel like it would have been obvious.

One of my friends had it done in college, freshman year. She looked much better but it was not obvious and I couldn't tell what was changed until she told me. IMO, the trick is to keep the same shape. I think these are great examples

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it different than braces? People have no problems altering teeth for cosmetic reasons. As far as I know, no one in our family has ever had cosmetic surgery, so I don't care personally but I can see there are some things, like the breast reduction (or a nose job for a nose that is far, far outside the mainstream) that I could agree to for under 18.

I agree. Beauty is on the inside. If you have something on the outside that makes you uncomfortable, fix it. Life's too short.

I know a child who had surgery to pin back his ears and the result was life changing - not for his looks, but for his confidence and self esteem. He and his parents have no regrets.

I had my ears pinned back. Life changing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to be in the "wait until 18" camp but I'm watching my really well endowed daughter struggle with how well endowed she is, and I'm finding myself thinking that if she asked for a reduction at 16 or so, I'd probably take her to talk to a doctor.

Find a doctor you trust. Talk to the doctor.

Off topic, but I have two friends who had breast reductions in their late teens/early 20s who were not able to breastfeed after they had children. They claim no-one ever told them about that side effect. I think they were told but didn't pay attention.

I couldn't care less. I haven't had any breast surgery but had zero interest in breastfeeding

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Anonymous wrote:The only person I ever knew who got theirs done, had to have it done 3 times.

The first time he blamed the surgeon, the second time he blamed the guy who elbowed him and the third time it no longer fits his face because he keeps gaining and losing weight.

Who cares??
I would have 5 nose surgeries if that is what was needed. No big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only person I ever knew who got theirs done, had to have it done 3 times.

The first time he blamed the surgeon, the second time he blamed the guy who elbowed him and the third time it no longer fits his face because he keeps gaining and losing weight.

Yeah, the only 2 people who have admitted it to me had to have theirs redone too and have snoring/health issues despite using "top" surgeons.

And??? Who cares if they had it done 2x?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would give me pause, as DH has a friend who got a nose job in HS and really regrets it. It doesn’t fit her face and she would have grown into her old nose— she’s gorgeous but at most would have been better off with a very slightly altered Jose— this was the 80s and she had her “Jewish” nose drastically trimmed to a button. Her teen daughter has her old nose (so to speak!) and is gorgeous.

I don't buy that. It's easy to regret it now that her nose is small. She forgets how much she hated that big honker. I know tons of people with nose jobs and not one ever regretted it.

Exactly