Teen daughter wants her rhinoplasty soon. How young is too young?

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The vanity is repulsive

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has a severely deviated septum, can only breathe out of one nostril and hates her nose. We are making her wait until the summer before senior year.

Np: I think those are two very different things. I had a severe deviated septum, as well, and had it fixed in high school and it did not change the appearance/shape of my nose at all.

[Anonymous]

Without reading the posts, I would say talk to your doctor about your family's growth patterns. If you have a "late bloomer" family I would wait until probably 18 or 19 (which I know its probably ideal to do it before college but after freshman year might be even better)- I know its not always dependent on family history but I think it might give you an idea of your child's likelihood to be done growing/ changing dramatically toward the end of adolescence.

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I hated my nose in high school...think Sara Michelle Gellar and Molly Shannon. I was determined to get a nose job, but my parents said not before I was 18. I went off to college and matured. My new friends told me there was nothing wrong with my nose, and I learned to embrace it. I also saw how Jennifer Grey's nose job made her look like a totally different person, and that freaked me out. I am glad my parents didn't let me make this decision as a child. I would make her wait until she's at least 18.

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Anonymous wrote:If my parents had let me make a major decision like that when I was a teenager I would be unhappy now.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to be in the "wait until 18" camp but I'm watching my really well endowed daughter struggle with how well endowed she is, and I'm finding myself thinking that if she asked for a reduction at 16 or so, I'd probably take her to talk to a doctor.

Find a doctor you trust. Talk to the doctor.

Punky Brewster had a reduction as a teenager.

My sister did hers at 20
She would have done it earlier but my parents needed to save a bit more to help in case insurance didn't come through, which it actually did end up covering a LOT even though she had no real medical problems with them at 20 but definitely would have led to it probably 20 years later. I have a (barely) DD and am thinking I want them gone, if you are at ALL inclined to liking to play sports or running or anything they are a huge hassle. They cover my ribs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea that there are large groups of young women surgically altering their faces is horrible. If everyone just kept their noses it would be normal.

I thought this was a really interesting read:

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/5gk7m8/shes-so-najoor-0000467-v21n10

[Anonymous]

How is it different than braces? People have no problems altering teeth for cosmetic reasons. As far as I know, no one in our family has ever had cosmetic surgery, so I don't care personally but I can see there are some things, like the breast reduction (or a nose job for a nose that is far, far outside the mainstream) that I could agree to for under 18.

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When i was younger I really, really wanted a nose job. And breast implants. My best friend and I actually were saving up together.

A couple years later, that want started to die down, as I realized how my face made me- me. And I saw how generic many people with nose jobs look. Now I'm really relieved I didnt get it- or breast implants!

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has a severely deviated septum, can only breathe out of one nostril and hates her nose. We are making her wait until the summer before senior year.

This was my mom. She was 17. So much happier afterwards. She did end up having her nose altered a little because there were other issues as well. Although, when you look at pictures of her before hand and look at her now there’s really not that much difference.

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Anonymous wrote:How is it different than braces? People have no problems altering teeth for cosmetic reasons. As far as I know, no one in our family has ever had cosmetic surgery, so I don't care personally but I can see there are some things, like the breast reduction (or a nose job for a nose that is far, far outside the mainstream) that I could agree to for under 18.

I agree. Beauty is on the inside. If you have something on the outside that makes you uncomfortable, fix it. Life's too short.

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17/18...and this is coming from someone who had one at that age. I think the summer between junior/senior year or senior/college is a good time - I remember the recovery being more uncomfortable than expected and it was hard to sleep, so I'd try to pick a time she had a break. Then just make sure you pick a good surgeon

I am very happy with mine, and am so glad my parents were supportive and understanding. I did NOT have a beautiful nose. It was the one thing I very consistently hated about my appearance, and there's not much you can do with makeup/hair/etc to disguise your nose (although I tried!). The surgery was subtle but addressed the main problem area for me, and almost immediately I felt like I had the nose I was supposed to have - it really fit my face and looks very natural. I've never regretted it, and it certainly was not a decision made in haste.

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Anonymous wrote:The idea that there are large groups of young women surgically altering their faces is horrible. If everyone just kept their noses it would be normal.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea that there are large groups of young women surgically altering their faces is horrible. If everyone just kept their noses it would be normal.

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[Anonymous]

There is NOTHING wrong with someone having a nose job to fix a nose they hate. That person is the one who has to look at it for their entire life. The PP opining against nose jobs are jack-holes. Yes, let your DD have one as soon as she is 16 or so, whenever the doctor says its okay.