Teen daughter wants her rhinoplasty soon. How young is too young?

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever she is ready, and her doctor thinks its a good time. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting a nose job, i'm persian and TONS of girls do it-- before college is ideal but also prior to sr. year where you have prom, sr photos etc.

This is strictly your opinion, formed by the community around you, which is rhinoplasty-obsessed.

What a loser you are-- there is nothing wrong with any procedure that you do safely and makes you feel more confident.

NP. Unless you have some sort of disfigurement going on, you shouldnt need a new nose to feel “confident.” There is something with very wrong with your view in life and way you were raised if you know several people in high school getting nose jobs and it seems totally normal to you

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The women in those photos didn't have truly problematic noses. I probably wouldn't have bothered with surgery for noses like that. The people I know who have had nose jobs had really bad noses. Like, really bad. My kid's dad has a really awful nose, and then he broke it but refused to get it fixed. So far, my kid's nose isn't looking like it's going to be a problem for him. It's the shape of their dad's, but not so bumpy/prominent or long. If the nose starts to take on a life of its own, I'd gladly find a great surgeon and have it fixed on our dime. I had breast reduction surgery as an adult and my mom didn't give me a hard time about it. In fact, she came to help nurse me afterward. Neither she nor my sisters had ginormous breasts like I did. We think I got them from my dad's side of the family. She completely understood how frustrating it was to squish them into painful bras and not be able to wear clothing that fit the rest of my body. I also had braces as an adult. I could say that it was dental hygiene thing but that wouldn't have been enough to make me endure the pain and expense of braces. I did it for cosmetic reasons and my only regret was not doing it sooner.

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I find it funny where people draw the line for acceptable vs unacceptable modification.

I’m in my mid 40s, had a nose job in my early 20s after I broke my nose and it settled with a noticeable bump and looked crooked. I didn’t have a “perfect” nose before but my nose really bothered me after that. Having had that experience, I would support it for my daughters if it really bothered them.

All my friends use expensive face creams and make up and dye their hair. Many get manicures and pedicures. They get laser treatments for hair removal. Some get Botox or other types of interventions. I support them for it if it makes them feel good about themselves, although I have decided I would rather take a less interventionist approach to aging. I certainly don’t accuse them of supporting a misogynistic culture.

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I got mine when I was 16 and two classmates had theirs around the same time. I think 16 is a good age but the earliest I’d allow this.

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Anonymous wrote:Had a friend who did it winter break in 7th grade. She said she broke her nose but everyone knew. It was kind of weird.

Most of my other friends did it in the 17-18 range. I think summer before college is the perfect time.

Wow. I don’t know a single person who got a nose job in high school or college; lived in an affluent UMC area.

Probably because you are a WASP.

My guess is many people you know have had them, you just don’t know that they have.

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Anonymous wrote:How is it different than braces? People have no problems altering teeth for cosmetic reasons. As far as I know, no one in our family has ever had cosmetic surgery, so I don't care personally but I can see there are some things, like the breast reduction (or a nose job for a nose that is far, far outside the mainstream) that I could agree to for under 18.

Braces don't usually require anesthesia and surgery. And good dental health is important down the road for overall health in general. Crooked, overcrowded teeth actually can cause problems with higher incidence of tooth decay and gum disease. So, they aren't the same, even though straight teeth is also a desired cosmetic trait.

I am not against a nose job or other cosmetic procedure and I would say the choice is between the kid and parents if doctors all agree it is safe and reasonable to do at her age.

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I always disliked my far-from perfect nose, but have managed to lead a fulfilling life anyway. But if my tween daughter ever wants the surgery, we'll happily get it for her. As wonderful as it would be if all people were happy with their noses, some aren't. We have the technology. There's nothing wrong with using it.

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It's weird how you phrase it as "her rhinoplasty", like it's a foregone conclusion. Like "her dental appointment".

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Whenever the Dr. says that it is appropriate. My parents offered to fund a surgery for me in my HS years and I declined out of fear of the procedure. One of the biggest mistakes of my life.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to be in the "wait until 18" camp but I'm watching my really well endowed daughter struggle with how well endowed she is, and I'm finding myself thinking that if she asked for a reduction at 16 or so, I'd probably take her to talk to a doctor.

Find a doctor you trust. Talk to the doctor.

Off topic, but I have two friends who had breast reductions in their late teens/early 20s who were not able to breastfeed after they had children. They claim no-one ever told them about that side effect. I think they were told but didn't pay attention.

they were definitely told. it is like the number 1 thing they tell you.

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I think when the doctor says she is ready for it.

also, to all the vanity haters- feeling bad about how you look is a terrible feeling so why belittle it when a simple nose job could boost confidence and alleviate depression

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have a dog in this fight but I'll say this: I like my nose. My husband literally said to me this morning "you have the perfect nose." That feels good.

My nose is unaltered, but who cares. Who the hell am I, or you, or someone else, to tell another girl/women she can't feel the same way about her nose? If that's her goal and its within her means, who cares.

Well said

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A friend of mine in high school hated her nose and had a nose job when she was around 15. She had sort of a hooked nose. I always thought it suited her well and would have made her a stunning and distinctive woman.

But, it wasn't my face and she got the nose job. I think she must have been too young though and it "re-hooked" if that makes sense. Her bones must still have been growing.

She ended up having to get another one later. So, my advice would be to make sure she's finished growing.

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Have you down and watched Botched with her?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have a dog in this fight but I'll say this: I like my nose. My husband literally said to me this morning "you have the perfect nose." That feels good.

My nose is unaltered, but who cares. Who the hell am I, or you, or someone else, to tell another girl/women she can't feel the same way about her nose? If that's her goal and its within her means, who cares.

Well said

It isn’t that simple with a teen. Most teens hate something about their face/body. That doesn’t mean they will when they are 25