Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The poster with the movie analogy hit it on the nail. I once ended 2 friendships over something similar. I showed up to a 3 person event where I was excluded from the conversation. Totally forgotten and left to sit alone. While I didn't sulk I never called those ladies back after they reached out to me several times.
I imagine you and your mother arrived bragging about all the wonderful things you did with the kids earlier. Having insider conversations. She felt excluded. Rather than leave her alone you and your mother backed her into a corner. She told you the truth and you got angry about legitimate feelings. Your mom should have raised you better. As much as I wanted to side with you, I can't. The fact that your husband would let you treat his mom so rude is questionable. Invite your mother in law this year and find something else to do with your mom.
Perhaps this is the way it happened...or not. We have no idea so I don't why so many posters are projecting and imagining their own version of events, which is NOT how OP described it. Some people are hysterical and dramatic, and do things like what OP described. In fact, didn't OP say her mil is jealous and she doesn't get along with her anyway? Why entertain stupid behavior from people you don't get along with? It's also not on OP to handle the kids' relationship with her mil. Either the mil needs to try sucking up to OP or get her son more involved. Either way, it's not OP's responsibility to give a shit about her mil.
Oh wow, this is OP.
No, it went down exactly as I said in the OP.
When she got there, she immediately started pouting. Wouldn't exchange "hellos" with me or my mom, only the kids. Ignored us until DH arrived, and then ignored him. He actually asked her what was wrong first, and she said, "Nothing." She trailed behind us like a puppy, wouldn't respond to any questions with anything other than angry answers: "Shirley, are you hungry now? Should we all eat?" "I don't care." It was horribly awkward and we all walked on eggshells. Our kids didn't even have fun because they didn't understand what was going on. Finally, my mom pulled her aside and asked her if she had done anything to upset her, that she wanted to make it right. And MIL started screaming at my mom about being excluded and started crying right there. When we walked over she started screaming at me. DH walked her away and she screamed at him. It was horrible.
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