What is #boymom?

[Anonymous]

Some future MIL are already showing their fangs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

Exactly this. I have tons of friends and family who have boys, and they are all great. I don't mind a bit if kids are playful or loud or acting up in restaurants or whatever--we've all been there, boys or girls, and it takes a tremendous amount of patience and energy that we just don't always have. Kids are kids and should be having fun and testing limits.

But here's what: it's not the boys, or the moms of boys: it is the #boymoms. It's that extra layer of attention-seeking and self-aggrandizement that I just can't stand, whether it is #BOYMOMS or people who just loooooooooooveeee coffee sooooo much that they have to wear a T-shirt about it. Like, it's great that you enjoy wine. But if you are one of the obnoxious "BUT FIRST...WINE" people, than you are mock-able.

It's just another branch of look-at-meeeee/post every damn thing on social media/hyper-trendiness that I just can't stand.

[Anonymous]

You are seriously kidding yourself if you don't know boys are under a lot more scrutiny than girls for simply being a boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are seriously kidding yourself if you don't know boys are under a lot more scrutiny than girls for simply being a boy.

OK, and? So? Do you really need a hashtag and virtual group therapy about that?

As a mom of girls, I think about my daughters growing up and not getting equal pay for equal work. As a mom of girls, I notice that other parents first notice that she is cute/pretty...they keep their compliments and observations of her surface-level, not realizing she loves to read and climb trees. No, she's not scrutinized for her behavior as closely as boys, but she is judged and unfairly perceived in other ways. That's life!

I don't need a hashtag or virtual group therapy about that. You know why? Because there are real, actual, major problems out there that deserve my attention and advocacy more. If you are the mom of a generally healthy, typical kid, have a seat. Relax. Enjoy. And save the moral outrage and hand-wringing and attention-seeking for worthy causes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some future MIL are already showing their fangs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

Exactly this. I have tons of friends and family who have boys, and they are all great. I don't mind a bit if kids are playful or loud or acting up in restaurants or whatever--we've all been there, boys or girls, and it takes a tremendous amount of patience and energy that we just don't always have. Kids are kids and should be having fun and testing limits.

But here's what: it's not the boys, or the moms of boys: it is the #boymoms. It's that extra layer of attention-seeking and self-aggrandizement that I just can't stand, whether it is #BOYMOMS or people who just loooooooooooveeee coffee sooooo much that they have to wear a T-shirt about it. Like, it's great that you enjoy wine. But if you are one of the obnoxious "BUT FIRST...WINE" people, than you are mock-able.

It's just another branch of look-at-meeeee/post every damn thing on social media/hyper-trendiness that I just can't stand.

uh-oh guys it's the me-me-me lady!

[Anonymous]

You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some future MIL are already showing their fangs!

Hahaha my thoughts exactly. Feeling bad for some of these kids' future wives (...and honestly, worst for the #boymoms, who aren't going to take their sons growing up and getting married / having a more important woman in their lives too well)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

Haha err what? Pretty evenly half of the world is male, being a mom of a boy is not "notable". Like I'm actually laughing at the absurdity of that statement, I sincerely hope you're not basing that much of your identity on this because I promise you it does not make you special or even unique, based on numbers alone.

I have both and they are all wonderful. I think I would have initially been pretty sad if I'd had all boys OR all girls...but I also know that once you have met your child you wouldn't trade or change him/her for anything in the world.

I'm not sure where you're getting the brotherly love thing, but I won't bore you with anecdotes. I can tell you that I personally would be lost without my sister and told my husband (only half jokingly...but I'm glad my bluff wasn't called) once we had our first daughter that I wasn't going to stop until we had a sister for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

Why do you need to gender your children's love for each other?

Everyone on this thread needs to listen to some free to be you and me and CHILL.

[Anonymous]

#lamemom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

Haha err what? Pretty evenly half of the world is male, being a mom of a boy is not "notable". Like I'm actually laughing at the absurdity of that statement, I sincerely hope you're not basing that much of your identity on this because I promise you it does not make you special or even unique, based on numbers alone.

I have both and they are all wonderful. I think I would have initially been pretty sad if I'd had all boys OR all girls...but I also know that once you have met your child you wouldn't trade or change him/her for anything in the world.

I'm not sure where you're getting the brotherly love thing, but I won't bore you with anecdotes. I can tell you that I personally would be lost without my sister and told my husband (only half jokingly...but I'm glad my bluff wasn't called) once we had our first daughter that I wasn't going to stop until we had a sister for her.

You obviously have no sense of humor. I hope that trait didn't get handed down to your offspring. I bet sound money you don't have 2 or more boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are seriously kidding yourself if you don't know boys are under a lot more scrutiny than girls for simply being a boy.

OK, and? So? Do you really need a hashtag and virtual group therapy about that?

As a mom of girls, I think about my daughters growing up and not getting equal pay for equal work. As a mom of girls, I notice that other parents first notice that she is cute/pretty...they keep their compliments and observations of her surface-level, not realizing she loves to read and climb trees. No, she's not scrutinized for her behavior as closely as boys, but she is judged and unfairly perceived in other ways. That's life!

I don't need a hashtag or virtual group therapy about that. You know why? Because there are real, actual, major problems out there that deserve my attention and advocacy more. If you are the mom of a generally healthy, typical kid, have a seat. Relax. Enjoy. And save the moral outrage and hand-wringing and attention-seeking for worthy causes.

Can you please list worthy causes so I don't give empathy to somebody who does not deserve it.

Sorry, but in the real world, people are brought together by like experiences and moms of boys have like experiences.

You are like the crazy people that get mad over BLM and have to go around saying all lives matter as if they posted ONLY black lives matter.

As if you don't bitch about the fact your daughter roll her eyes at you and cries at the drop of a hat... You know there are starving children in Syria, I don't want to hear your attention seeking BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#boymom is the new "he's ALL BOY," which is to say, just sheer ridiculousness.

I think phrases like these are helpful, though, because then I know to stay far away from the person using those phrases.

Pretty much this.

I was a nanny, educator and now I'm a mom to sons and daughters and they are far more alike than they are different.

[Anonymous]

I'd never hashtag and I know there are many exceptions to the rule - but in our house of two there are certainly differences. Even though my girl loves to rough around and wrestle with her big brother, and can get hyper etc - she posesses more calm and composure throughout it all somehow. Her risks aren't as great and she doesn't like getting dirty like my son does. She might find it funny for a second then immediately wants to be cleaned! It's been funny watching her having had my boy first and I see big differences! Do think hash tagging either way is obnoxious regardless......