What is #boymom?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What I think is strange is that the people who are posting #boymom are usually only raising boys, and have no idea if that parenting experience is unique to raising that particular gender. They're just using some kind of characterization or stereotype to back into what they think a parenting experience for that gender is supposed to be.

That's why it's dumb.

I was a nanny for 15+ years. There is absolutely a difference between boys and girls. Why do you need them to be innately the same when they aren't?

Did you read the PP?

You have actual first-hand experience of working with boys and girls. People posting #boymom do not. Their opinions are based on nothing but conjecture.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:#boymom is the new "he's ALL BOY," which is to say, just sheer ridiculousness.

I think phrases like these are helpful, though, because then I know to stay far away from the person using those phrases.

Since schools are trying to turn them into girls it is an accomplishment for them to still be boys by middle school.

#allboy

Exactly! They force them to have a whole month devoted to women's history! What's the value in that!?

I tell ya, we're turning 'em into sissies.

Wow somebody had a chip on their shoulder.

School are geared around the interests of girls. You don't need a phd in ed to know that.

Luckily we have greAt all boys schools in the area, so we just did that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#boymom is the new "he's ALL BOY," which is to say, just sheer ridiculousness.

I think phrases like these are helpful, though, because then I know to stay far away from the person using those phrases.

Since schools are trying to turn them into girls it is an accomplishment for them to still be boys by middle school.

#allboy

Exactly! They force them to have a whole month devoted to women's history! What's the value in that!?

I tell ya, we're turning 'em into sissies.

Wow somebody had a chip on their shoulder.
School are geared around the interests of girls. You don't need a phd in ed to know that.

Luckily we have greAt all boys schools in the area, so we just did that.

Bahahaha. Tell me more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#boymom is the new "he's ALL BOY," which is to say, just sheer ridiculousness.

I think phrases like these are helpful, though, because then I know to stay far away from the person using those phrases.

Since schools are trying to turn them into girls it is an accomplishment for them to still be boys by middle school.

#allboy

Exactly! They force them to have a whole month devoted to women's history! What's the value in that!?



I tell ya, we're turning 'em into sissies.

Wow somebody had a chip on their shoulder.
School are geared around the interests of girls. You don't need a phd in ed to know that.

Luckily we have greAt all boys schools in the area, so we just did that.

Bahahaha. Tell me more.

Indeed to tell you? Are you educated?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

Hey, just because you have boys doesn't mean that you have to give up being an actual parent. If that's the way you rationalize your hashtag usage and raising of hellions, then may god have mercy on your Kia Soul.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#boymom is the new "he's ALL BOY," which is to say, just sheer ridiculousness.

I think phrases like these are helpful, though, because then I know to stay far away from the person using those phrases.

Since schools are trying to turn them into girls it is an accomplishment for them to still be boys by middle school.

#allboy

Exactly! They force them to have a whole month devoted to women's history! What's the value in that!?



I tell ya, we're turning 'em into sissies.

Wow somebody had a chip on their shoulder.
School are geared around the interests of girls. You don't need a phd in ed to know that.

Luckily we have greAt all boys schools in the area, so we just did that.

Bahahaha. Tell me more.

Indeed to tell you? Are you educated?

I don't know what that means. Yes, I'd like you to tell me more about how schools are so obviously geared towards girls that you need no formal education to alert you to that fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think all of you debating nature/nurture on boys and girls always miss the larger idea that socialization is ALSO kind of nature.

Not that we can't fight it to an extent, but humans are social creatures who group and label and find meaning and companionship in these groups. LGBT community keeps on adding letters, why? Because its a group that kind of welcomes differences and smaller subsets keep wanting to get included into a larger and welcoming movement. This is a good thing because those people are gaining a lot from joining but its human nature to want to belong.

The reality is that nature and nurture have created gender divisions for a lot of reasons over the centuries. Hunter/gatherer, centuries of division of labor having the man work and the woman caretake. Exacerbated by the physical and biological trend towards those roles via increased strength/testosterone and the ability to bear children and nourish them through early childhood. Those have created a bajillion subtle things that reinforce those roles in our society. But to simply write that off as 'socialization' is to write off like...human nature as simply socialization. Which hey! It kind of is! But also virtually impossible to totally fight against.

I've never understood how someone can truly embrace and support the transgender movement AND believe that gender is a completely social construct. It is a social construct, but one that is woven into our biology and built on the centuries of human evolution, both cultural and bodily evolution. Humans want to belong, so men embrace a common set of traits that define them as a part of that group and so do women. You can disagree or agree with the 'goodness' of that quality of humanity but to deny it is, IMO, to deny human nature.

I would also say adding onto this that the recent kveching about robbing men of their masculinity is probably just opposition to a new and necessary evolution in masculinity as the things that inspired the defining traits of masculinity are slowly kind of being eradicated. We don't NEED men to provide in the same way because women are capable of doing the work in a way that was simply not true when these divisions first started to emerge. But despite that, the things that cemented the 'female' identity (primarily childbirth and early childhood care) ARE still necessary and things that even high powered working moms have to take on to an extent.

In other words women have caught up with men in capability due to technology in ways that men will be incapable of catching up to women due to biology. Caught up in the context of, 'things one gender was in charge of because the species survived more effectively that way' not in a better or worse way.

I think men are trying to figure out how to define 'men' in a world that doesn't require and in some ways is harmed by the extreme examples of what has made men invaluable and successful in the past. It is really interesting from a sociological perspective IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a boy who is older, and who plays with a lot of girls, and yes - there are (generalized) differences! Things like risk taking, style of play, physicality, noise, when certain types of maturity occur, etc... It's real. It's not all kids, but it's a generalization that bears weight in lots of cases. So I guess I am a #boymom.

Would I ever write that hashtag on Facebook or something? No way. That seems icky. Like showing a photo of my new concealer and saying #onlyforladiez - I mean sure, mostly for ladies, but that's not the entire truth!

When I've noted differences aloud to closer friends or neighbors, I usually say "I hate to generalize" or "This probably is just my experience" and 9 out of 10 times the other person say "Oh. No. I see it. It's real." They just don't hashtag it!

Nope. It's socialization.

No it is not. My son almost exclusively plays with cars and trucks and trains. He has 4 girl cousins and when we go to their houses he will dig through the toy bins, past the dolls and Frozen gear, until he finds a car.

We have baby dolls and he never plays with it. But when his cousins come over they do play it.

Why is that anecdote evidence of anything? Couldn't that be socialized behavior?

Meaning what? He's a boy and he has a natural interest in cars and trucks. My nieces do not.

What's a natural interest? Nothing you said points to the idea that's it's innate rather than learned.

It is absolutely innate. I didn't teach my son what to play with. I didnt buy him only cars and trucks. I didn't teach him to crash his cars.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

Hey, just because you have boys doesn't mean that you have to give up being an actual parent. If that's the way you rationalize your hashtag usage and raising of hellions, then may god have mercy on your Kia Soul.

I don't drive a Kia Soul but god blessed my with a Notre Dame athlete and an Amherst son headed to med school. SoI guess not squashing them was a good parenting move.one was voted most liked by the moms in HS.

So I guess not forcing them to act like girls was a good plan, my parenting worked out fine.

But you are the exact mom the rest of Team Boys Moms avoid. Because you just don't know how to treat boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#boymom is the new "he's ALL BOY," which is to say, just sheer ridiculousness.

I think phrases like these are helpful, though, because then I know to stay far away from the person using those phrases.

Since schools are trying to turn them into girls it is an accomplishment for them to still be boys by middle school.

#allboy

Exactly! They force them to have a whole month devoted to women's history! What's the value in that!?



I tell ya, we're turning 'em into sissies.

Wow somebody had a chip on their shoulder.
School are geared around the interests of girls. You don't need a phd in ed to know that.

Luckily we have greAt all boys schools in the area, so we just did that.

Bahahaha. Tell me more.

Indeed to tell you? Are you educated?

I don't know what that means. Yes, I'd like you to tell me more about how schools are so obviously geared towards girls that you need no formal education to alert you to that fact.

Google it, boys need hands on learning not sitting, lecture, memorization.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

Hey, just because you have boys doesn't mean that you have to give up being an actual parent. If that's the way you rationalize your hashtag usage and raising of hellions, then may god have mercy on your Kia Soul.

I don't drive a Kia Soul but god blessed my with a Notre Dame athlete and an Amherst son headed to med school. SoI guess not squashing them was a good parenting move.one was voted most liked by the moms in HS.

So I guess not forcing them to act like girls was a good plan, my parenting worked out fine.

But you are the exact mom the rest of Team Boys Moms avoid. Because you just don't know how to treat boys.

That's bizarre. Are you from this country?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

Hey, just because you have boys doesn't mean that you have to give up being an actual parent. If that's the way you rationalize your hashtag usage and raising of hellions, then may god have mercy on your Kia Soul.

I don't drive a Kia Soul but god blessed my with a Notre Dame athlete and an Amherst son headed to med school. SoI guess not squashing them was a good parenting move.one was voted most liked by the moms in HS.

So I guess not forcing them to act like girls was a good plan, my parenting worked out fine.

But you are the exact mom the rest of Team Boys Moms avoid. Because you just don't know how to treat boys.

Oh my gosh, I feel so bad for your future DILs, but I'll enjoy reading their posts about you in the family forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

Hey, just because you have boys doesn't mean that you have to give up being an actual parent. If that's the way you rationalize your hashtag usage and raising of hellions, then may god have mercy on your Kia Soul.

I don't drive a Kia Soul but god blessed my with a Notre Dame athlete and an Amherst son headed to med school. SoI guess not squashing them was a good parenting move.one was voted most liked by the moms in HS.

So I guess not forcing them to act like girls was a good plan, my parenting worked out fine.

But you are the exact mom the rest of Team Boys Moms avoid. Because you just don't know how to treat boys.

That's bizarre. Are you from this country?

Sorry your disappointed I am a good parent.

My the peace of Lord be with you and guide you away from a life of judgement and towards a life without judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boy moms are judged all the time and this thread show it.

I judge people who wear dumb t-shirts and use dumb hashtags. I don't give a hoot about moms who have boys.

I am sure if you judge a tshirt you judge a kid not sitting still in a restaurant, or throwing things in their house.

If the parent isn't taking appropriate measures to squash that behavior in the moment, then yes, I judge that. Are you saying that it's not possible to behave in a restaurant if you're a boy? or that boys are the only ones who throw things in the house?

You want me to squash a child's behavior.

You obviously don't raise boys.

#teamboys

Hey, just because you have boys doesn't mean that you have to give up being an actual parent. If that's the way you rationalize your hashtag usage and raising of hellions, then may god have mercy on your Kia Soul.

I don't drive a Kia Soul but god blessed my with a Notre Dame athlete and an Amherst son headed to med school. SoI guess not squashing them was a good parenting move.one was voted most liked by the moms in HS.

So I guess not forcing them to act like girls was a good plan, my parenting worked out fine.

But you are the exact mom the rest of Team Boys Moms avoid. Because you just don't know how to treat boys.

That's bizarre. Are you from this country?

Sorry your disappointed I am a good parent.

My the peace of Lord be with you and guide you away from a life of judgement and towards a life without judgement.

And also with you, judger of internet strangers.