What is #boymom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are seriously kidding yourself if you don't know boys are under a lot more scrutiny than girls for simply being a boy.

I taught elementary school and have daughters. The behavioral expectations for boys can be tough. Either because their parents don't expect quiet play and sitting still or because they're naturally all boy or both.
It is truth though there is no one under greater scrutiny in education than the girl who doesn't conform to typical female stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

I had no idea this was even a thing. But I guess I don't have many friends who are teen moms in rural areas, who are really the only people I can envision doing this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are seriously kidding yourself if you don't know boys are under a lot more scrutiny than girls for simply being a boy.

OK, and? So? Do you really need a hashtag and virtual group therapy about that?

As a mom of girls, I think about my daughters growing up and not getting equal pay for equal work. As a mom of girls, I notice that other parents first notice that she is cute/pretty...they keep their compliments and observations of her surface-level, not realizing she loves to read and climb trees. No, she's not scrutinized for her behavior as closely as boys, but she is judged and unfairly perceived in other ways. That's life!

I don't need a hashtag or virtual group therapy about that. You know why? Because there are real, actual, major problems out there that deserve my attention and advocacy more. If you are the mom of a generally healthy, typical kid, have a seat. Relax. Enjoy. And save the moral outrage and hand-wringing and attention-seeking for worthy causes.

Can you please list worthy causes so I don't give empathy to somebody who does not deserve it.

Sorry, but in the real world, people are brought together by like experiences and moms of boys have like experiences.

You are like the crazy people that get mad over BLM and have to go around saying all lives matter as if they posted ONLY black lives matter.

As if you don't bitch about the fact your daughter roll her eyes at you and cries at the drop of a hat... You know there are starving children in Syria, I don't want to hear your attention seeking BS.

NP. I just....what? Syria?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

I do have an idea since my brother and SIL both have multiple girls. When I took my 3 and 5 yr boys to my brother's house I looked around and they never removed my grandmother's fragile knicknacks after she died (he inherited her house). I knew immediately how different our kids were. Same with my other nieces. I rule my home with STRICT but necessary rules and they still broke 4 dishes this week. A rough week but still, all within the realm of accidental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

I do have an idea since my brother and SIL both have multiple girls. When I took my 3 and 5 yr boys to my brother's house I looked around and they never removed my grandmother's fragile knicknacks after she died (he inherited her house). I knew immediately how different our kids were. Same with my other nieces. I rule my home with STRICT but necessary rules and they still broke 4 dishes this week. A rough week but still, all within the realm of accidental.

Wait. So if you have girls, you have no idea what it's like to raise boys, but if you have boys, you can just look around you to get the gist of raising girls?

Boymoms are weird, yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

Lol exactly. You notice it's never the mom's with kids of both genders doing this either...they have perspective / some semblance of social awareness

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

I do have an idea since my brother and SIL both have multiple girls. When I took my 3 and 5 yr boys to my brother's house I looked around and they never removed my grandmother's fragile knicknacks after she died (he inherited her house). I knew immediately how different our kids were. Same with my other nieces. I rule my home with STRICT but necessary rules and they still broke 4 dishes this week. A rough week but still, all within the realm of accidental.

Wait. So if you have girls, you have no idea what it's like to raise boys, but if you have boys, you can just look around you to get the gist of raising girls?

Boymoms are weird, yo.

Lol +1. Work on your logic skills there, #boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG it's totally innate in some boys. My son has no male role model (I'm a single mom) and he is "standard issue" boy all the way. It frightens me at times to see the way it works! We don't give enough credit to nature, IMHO And don't even get me started on puberty...

Agreed however though that #boymom seems to be the way moms of boys try to rationalize not having a girl. I've never seen anyone who didn't desperately want a girl posting the stupid boymom articles and hashtagging. We see you. We know what you are doing.

And you never see patents of both genders doing it either. There are some obnoxious "bring the mother of a boy is better" articles on clickbait mom websitrs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

I do have an idea since my brother and SIL both have multiple girls. When I took my 3 and 5 yr boys to my brother's house I looked around and they never removed my grandmother's fragile knicknacks after she died (he inherited her house). I knew immediately how different our kids were. Same with my other nieces. I rule my home with STRICT but necessary rules and they still broke 4 dishes this week. A rough week but still, all within the realm of accidental.

You are ridiculous. Best of luck with your tortured life

[Anonymous]

This is the most ridiculous thread on DCUM right now. Let that sink in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can tell on this thread which moms have only girl(s). the sanctimoniousness makes me laugh. I used to think that way too, then I had 2 boys. I was all into gender neutral toys and everything. I sure had a lot to learn.

being a mom of boys is notable. It's like Lord of the Rings at least once a day. That said, there is NOTHING like brotherly love.

I don't care if you judge me for this post, either. I'm probably off cleaning up blood anyway.

100% agree.

If you have girls you have NO idea what it's like raising boys and especially not brothers.

If you have boys you have NO idea what it's like raising girls, but you don't see #girlmom so the girl mom's can have a weird virtual empathy club.

You do you. #boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the most ridiculous thread on DCUM right now. Let that sink in.

I feel partly responsible ; I posted in the other thread that I thought it was weird to be proud of being a #boymom

This has gone off the rails in amazing fashion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are seriously kidding yourself if you don't know boys are under a lot more scrutiny than girls for simply being a boy.

I taught elementary school and have daughters. The behavioral expectations for boys can be tough. Either because their parents don't expect quiet play and sitting still or because they're naturally all boy or both.
It is truth though there is no one under greater scrutiny in education than the girl who doesn't conform to typical female stereotypes.

You obviously never taught lack males.

There are tons of studies that show teacher out right ignore boys in the classroom.