Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?

[Anonymous]

Your child is the only one who should be posting on social media about his/her acceptances, IMO. When parents do this I think it a bit odd, although I understand they are proud of their child's achievements. To me it seems a bit needy and "look at ME!" when parents post about where their 18 year old nearly grown children are going to school.

[Anonymous]

Stay classy, Washington, D.C.

[Anonymous]

So what's the college?

[Anonymous]

I do not see the problem with a parent posting about where their child will attend college. This is such a milestone and totally appropriate for parents to share. I have seen this done by many of my friends and I have no problem with it. It doesn't matter whether it is a top ten or a community college. I am curious about where my friends' kids end up going. If you are not and feel the person is being inappropriate, you should unfollow or unfriend.

[Anonymous]

Triggering? Triggering what? Envy? Jealousy? Who cares? There is not such thing as triggering anything about your kid getting into great college. Bunch of rubbish. Announce to the world and be happy for your kid. Brag too. That is what parents do, don't you know that?

[Anonymous]

I've seen the discussion come up in a FB group that a lot of people feel like there's less stigma to sharing extracurricular accomplishments than academic ones...like people are fine with "We're so proud of Susie, who won MVP at the soccer banquet!" but roll their eyes at "We're so proud of Susie, who was accepted early at Wellesley!"

Do you all find this to be true in your social networks, or nah?

[Anonymous]

Also, to add, there is no announcement needed. When somebody asks you, tell them, why announcement? Even for a wedding no announcement is needed, send invitations nothing before. What you are saying is this, I want to brag, but I want to be classy about it. When asked answer truthfully, announcement, really??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen the discussion come up in a FB group that a lot of people feel like there's less stigma to sharing extracurricular accomplishments than academic ones...like people are fine with "We're so proud of Susie, who won MVP at the soccer banquet!" but roll their eyes at "We're so proud of Susie, who was accepted early at Wellesley!"

Do you all find this to be true in your social networks, or nah?

That is interesting. Not sure why it is ok to brag about sporting accomplishments but not academic. My son is a klutz on the athletic field, but he is very bright and gets excellent grades. Should I be jealous of the parents with the elite athletes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, to add, there is no announcement needed. When somebody asks you, tell them, why announcement? Even for a wedding no announcement is needed, send invitations nothing before. What you are saying is this, I want to brag, but I want to be classy about it. When asked answer truthfully, announcement, really??

I don't believe it is bragging. I believe people genuinely want to share their kids accomplishments because they are happy about it and hope their audience will also be happy for them. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Triggering? Triggering what? Envy? Jealousy? Who cares? There is not such thing as triggering anything about your kid getting into great college. Bunch of rubbish. Announce to the world and be happy for your kid. Brag too. That is what parents do, don't you know that?

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your child is the only one who should be posting on social media about his/her acceptances, IMO. When parents do this I think it a bit odd, although I understand they are proud of their child's achievements. To me it seems a bit needy and "look at ME!" when parents post about where their 18 year old nearly grown children are going to school.

+1 Just wait. If someone asks, tell them. If they don't ask, don't volunteer it. Not because it is "triggering" but because not every single thing that happens in your child's life needs to go on your social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what's the college?

Tier two Ivy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen the discussion come up in a FB group that a lot of people feel like there's less stigma to sharing extracurricular accomplishments than academic ones...like people are fine with "We're so proud of Susie, who won MVP at the soccer banquet!" but roll their eyes at "We're so proud of Susie, who was accepted early at Wellesley!"

Do you all find this to be true in your social networks, or nah?

I've blocked a lot of mothers who overshare the stupid sports accomplishments and grades and college VISITS (!).

I think college acceptance is fine. But I also think if it's a great college -- especially out of state -- you're going to have a lot of provincial parents who will be bitter. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've seen the discussion come up in a FB group that a lot of people feel like there's less stigma to sharing extracurricular accomplishments than academic ones...like people are fine with "We're so proud of Susie, who won MVP at the soccer banquet!" but roll their eyes at "We're so proud of Susie, who was accepted early at Wellesley!"

Do you all find this to be true in your social networks, or nah?

I've blocked a lot of mothers who overshare the stupid sports accomplishments and grades and college VISITS (!).

I think college acceptance is fine. But I also think if it's a great college -- especially out of state -- you're going to have a lot of provincial parents who will be bitter. It is what it is.

Ok this is fair (I'm the PP), I've definitely clicked "heck yes" to "See less from [person]?" because I was completely over reading about their kid's football season. (Especially posts about how upset the parents are about the calls the refs made...our team deserved to win, they were better, and the other team's excessive celebrating was not classy...also they're ELEVEN YEARS OLD.)

I will take ten college visit posts over one appeal to join a multi-level marketing "team," though!

[Anonymous]

There is never an OK reason to brag for no reason OP. Just keep it to yourself. That's what we did. People find out soon enough.