Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?

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Op, "private" is not an important distinction.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Or ANY college. I'm starting to see posts from friends' with seniors and I'm as happy for the one planning to go to a local state university as the one who is going to Brown. I enjoy learning where my friends' kids will be going on this next big step in life.

Good correction. And I agree. Even if it's vocational school. You should be proud.

+1 I was as excited to read about a friend's daughter accepted to Harvard as I was for another friend's daughter who will be attending a fabulous cosmetology school in Florida and another friend's son who will be going to the Culinary Institute of America! We need to celebrate accomplishments and good news! I do not have a Facebook or other social media page but, to me, when I go to those sites, it is much more interesting and exciting to hear about an actual accomplishment of a friend or family member rather than what they thought about lunch at such and such place.

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I'm feeling triggered!

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Or ANY college. I'm starting to see posts from friends' with seniors and I'm as happy for the one planning to go to a local state university as the one who is going to Brown. I enjoy learning where my friends' kids will be going on this next big step in life.

Good correction. And I agree. Even if it's vocational school. You should be proud.

+1 I was as excited to read about a friend's daughter accepted to Harvard as I was for another friend's daughter who will be attending a fabulous cosmetology school in Florida and another friend's son who will be going to the Culinary Institute of America! We need to celebrate accomplishments and good news! I do not have a Facebook or other social media page but, to me, when I go to those sites, it is much more interesting and exciting to hear about an actual accomplishment of a friend or family member rather than what they thought about lunch at such and such place.

Agreed that there's nothing wrong with being proud of a kid for working hard and achieving something difficult. But if that's the case, turn to your kid and tell THEM. "Marci, I'm so proud of you! Let's celebrate by going out to dinner." Being proud of your child and bragging about your child are two separate things. One is fine and one is awful. Don't brag about your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm feeling triggered!

You're funny!

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College is different from private K-12, not least because there are good scholarships, or tuition breaks, to be had even at top Ivies. Therefore you're taking out of the equation the irritant that bothered people the most - money.

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Only verbally announce to close friends and family in celebration of your child. It might mean a great deal to her

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I'm not exaggerating when I say this: EVERY kid posts something about the college they're going to. Even the kids going to toilet tier jokes that accept everyone with a pulse "brag" about it on Facebook Instagram snapchat.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Don't assume people are jealous for advising OP not to brag. In my experience, many of the most accomplished people I know are also the most humble. For example, the top execs at the company where I work (a Fortune 100 company) are very humble and low-key.

+100

When my DS got into all three high schools to which he applied, I wanted to post about the school he chose with a photo of the acceptance letter on Facebook. DH would not let me do this. And he is an extremely successful leader in his field. I, on the other hand, love to brag about my kids. My gut (and DH) told me not to do it this time.

+1000. Just because Trump brags all the time doesn't mean it's now socially acceptable. Nor does it inoculate you against people thinking you (or Trump) are tone deaf or, alternately, a sad loser living through your kids. Most people who read your brag are going to roll their eyes at you for one of these reasons, with a handful of charitable exceptions. Signed, my kid is at Columbia (but I'm anonymous here, so not bragging)

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My daughter in 9th grade is seeing seniors at her school post on IG about their acceptances. Some of them post a picture of them in their sweatshirt from their school to be. Some of them post a picture from their campus visit. Some post a selfie. Some don't even say what school the acceptance is from. The reaction is universally thrilled for each kid -- doesn't matter if it is a college no one has heard of or an acceptance into a really well known school. A student accepted at Columbia got an equivalent number of likes and positive comments as someone who was accepted at a not so well known small religious college.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Don't assume people are jealous for advising OP not to brag. In my experience, many of the most accomplished people I know are also the most humble. For example, the top execs at the company where I work (a Fortune 100 company) are very humble and low-key.

+100

When my DS got into all three high schools to which he applied, I wanted to post about the school he chose with a photo of the acceptance letter on Facebook. DH would not let me do this. And he is an extremely successful leader in his field. I, on the other hand, love to brag about my kids. My gut (and DH) told me not to do it this time.

+1000. Just because Trump brags all the time doesn't mean it's now socially acceptable. Nor does it inoculate you against people thinking you (or Trump) are tone deaf or, alternately, a sad loser living through your kids. Most people who read your brag are going to roll their eyes at you for one of these reasons, with a handful of charitable exceptions. Signed, my kid is at Columbia (but I'm anonymous here, so not bragging)

Actually I have bragged about other things about my kids and I get quite a few positive responses to them. So for those who roll their eyes, they can unfollow, or unfriend if they feel that strongly. Parents have bragging rights for their kids. Lots of my friends post photos of their kids getting awards, great report cards, sports performances, musical performances, etc. etc. Parents have the right to be proud of their kids, and lots of our friends like seeing what the kids are doing. So the rest of you who feel either jealous, annoyed, furious, envious, or whatever, can go away.

Lots of my friends have posted about where their kids ended up going for college. It is news that is fit to be shared. I don't care if it's Harvard or Montgomery College.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Don't assume people are jealous for advising OP not to brag. In my experience, many of the most accomplished people I know are also the most humble. For example, the top execs at the company where I work (a Fortune 100 company) are very humble and low-key.

+100

When my DS got into all three high schools to which he applied, I wanted to post about the school he chose with a photo of the acceptance letter on Facebook. DH would not let me do this. And he is an extremely successful leader in his field. I, on the other hand, love to brag about my kids. My gut (and DH) told me not to do it this time.

Posting the acceptance letter? Over the top. Posting a simple "DS will attend X next year"? Not over the top. I am shocked that people cannot say the difference between bragging and giving information.

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I'm on the say it side. "Larla made a decision and she's going to XYZ college in the fall! We're so proud!" I would like that status if XYZ was Harvard, Vassar, VCU, Mary Washington or whatever. It's an exciting time.

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Anonymous wrote:Boy, I really hate the word "classy."

Me and you both.

That makes three of us. My mother told me it was one of the tackiest words in the English language, and not something anyone with actual class would say.

We are not alone, apparently:

http://www.townandcountrymag.com/society/money-and-power/a1166/classy/

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter in 9th grade is seeing seniors at her school post on IG about their acceptances. Some of them post a picture of them in their sweatshirt from their school to be. Some of them post a picture from their campus visit. Some post a selfie. Some don't even say what school the acceptance is from. The reaction is universally thrilled for each kid -- doesn't matter if it is a college no one has heard of or an acceptance into a really well known school. A student accepted at Columbia got an equivalent number of likes and positive comments as someone who was accepted at a not so well known small religious college.

Pretty sure we are talking about a parent posting, not the kid. Totally different scenario.