Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?

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Photo of her + something like <School> Class of 2021!

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My son went to a private college. As a lowly public school graduate. Oh the horror

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We never told anyone when our kid got into a top Ivy. There's no need to gloat OP. Why do you need to tell anyone?

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Reason #473 as to why social media is going to be downfall of society. Prior to Facebook and the like, this would never even be an issue. Your kid got into Harvard? Great. How would that information be shared? It would come up in conversation with those with whom you're close. Or if someone asks you directly, you share. No need for any "announcement."

Now thanks to social media, everything has to be an event. I work in an elementary school, so there is always someone who is pregnant. This year there were 2 teachers who felt they had to announce to the entire staff at a meeting. "I'm pregnant!!!" It was a bit over the top in attention seeking.

Just tell those that you're closest to and then word will spread.

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I read an article last year about jealous "friends" emailing admissions departments negative things, pictures, screen shots to thwart admissions for private schoolers!

[Anonymous]

OP, why do you need to add it to social media at all? Why not just tell your close friends in person or through a text conversation?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your implication is that there won't be public high school students going to that same college, which is highly unlikely.

According to Parchment no more than two or three per year between the two large high schools in our district.

I just chose Yale as an example and looked it up. 60% of their freshmen went to public school. There may be a divide in your community, but this is not a public/private school issue. Your child should arrive at college expecting most of her classmates will have gone to public school.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you need to add it to social media at all? Why not just tell your close friends in person or through a text conversation?

Yes, this. You sound like a troll, but if not, skip the social media. The only reason you'd post on social media is to brag, and people will know how shallow you are.

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I don't get why adults talk about their (grown) kids on Facebook or whatever social media outlet you choose. This is her news. Let her share it. If your friends care, they will ask where she's going, and then you can tell them.

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Anonymous wrote:Like the thread from last night pointed out, a lot of people are really anti-private. My daughter just got into a great college and we'll/she'll add it to social media but I was worried about looking smug or like a braggart to our social circle which is 90% public school families. We're not in that upper echelon of exclusively private families, so it's a tricky dynamic. You want to share how proud you are, but you don't want to offend people, either.

Like the other thread suggested, they aren't reacting to the fact that your child is in private school. They are reacting to your superiority complex about it, which comes through in spades on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you need to add it to social media at all? Why not just tell your close friends in person or through a text conversation?

Better than all the moms and dads bragging every weekend about travel sports.

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Boy, I really hate the word "classy."

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could just skip it. Let her announce on her own.

Or say something like "I am so proud of Larla for working so hard the past few years to achieve her goals. She was recently accepted to her dream school and we wish her continued success." Don't name the school.

Actually...just skip it. Just let her wear a college sweatshirt in a few pics here and there and people will catch on. Or show a pic of you dropping her off in August.

that's lame. People would then just ask.

OP, just be proud. "My daughter is going to ___!!" is good enough.

I agree - and while we are on the subject - please, please don't inculcate in your DC that annoying habit of saying "oh I went to school in the Northeast" forcing the inevitable conversation of oh where? Boston? Oh, where? when she should have just said Harvard and be done with it - it's sooooo annoying. It makes others feel way more uncomfortable than just saying I went to Harvard/Yale/Columbia or wherever.

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If anyone will be upset about your announcement it will probably be the other private school parents who have been fretting over elite schools acceptances.

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Anonymous wrote:We never told anyone when our kid got into a top Ivy. There's no need to gloat OP. Why do you need to tell anyone?

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