Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?

[Anonymous]

Like the thread from last night pointed out, a lot of people are really anti-private. My daughter just got into a great college and we'll/she'll add it to social media but I was worried about looking smug or like a braggart to our social circle which is 90% public school families. We're not in that upper echelon of exclusively private families, so it's a tricky dynamic. You want to share how proud you are, but you don't want to offend people, either.

[Anonymous]

Just don't announce anything except where she'll be going.

[Anonymous]

Why would people be offended by a private college? That's a totally different ballgame than the public/private school debate for K-12. Just announce it, OP, and say you're proud of your child. Who would get upset by that?

[Anonymous]

Your implication is that there won't be public high school students going to that same college, which is highly unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Mention it minimally. You don't need to communicate your pride to the world. Be quietly proud.

[Anonymous]

WHO CARES! She worked hard to get into where she is going; be proud!

True friends will be happy for her. And those that will have an issue of where she attended HS probably were not much of a friend to begin with.

[Anonymous]

I think it is ok to be a proud parent. Your kid just got into a great school after what I am sure was a lot of hard work. Sing it from a mountaintop and congratulations.

Signed,

Product of public school and graduate of middling university

[Anonymous]

You could just skip it. Let her announce on her own.

Or say something like "I am so proud of Larla for working so hard the past few years to achieve her goals. She was recently accepted to her dream school and we wish her continued success." Don't name the school.

Actually...just skip it. Just let her wear a college sweatshirt in a few pics here and there and people will catch on. Or show a pic of you dropping her off in August.

[Anonymous]

You do know that the majority of attendees at elite private universities graduated from public high schools, yes?

[Anonymous]

Classy? I think you mean tactful. And that requires not bragging.

"Larla is headed to Yale next year" vs. "Larla, our brilliant and talented daughter, will matriculate at Yale. So grateful for the amazing education she received at fancy private, which has made it possible for her to rise about all the riffraff."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like the thread from last night pointed out, a lot of people are really anti-private. My daughter just got into a great college and we'll/she'll add it to social media but I was worried about looking smug or like a braggart to our social circle which is 90% public school families. We're not in that upper echelon of exclusively private families, so it's a tricky dynamic. You want to share how proud you are, but you don't want to offend people, either.

1st world problems.

Do everyone a favor and get a life.

[Anonymous]

Your first mistake was having friends with children in public school. You need to curate your friend group.

[Anonymous]

I would just be subtle about her college acceptance, no matter whether she was the graduate of a private school or public school.

One of my high school classmates has a son who was admitted to Harvard in 2015 (from a public high school outside of this area). They were very subtle about it on Facebook, and I thought it was great! I admired their restraint.

No matter what the child's achievement, I don't think it's in good taste to announce it too conspicuously on Facebook (even if it's a spelling bee).

[Anonymous]

I am very confused about the assumption that public school kids won't go to private colleges. don't LOTS of private school kids go to public schools too? At any rate, I think you can also down play this unless you are someone who posts most things to social media. people who are your friends are going to find out at some point where your daughter goes to college. Congrats to her!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could just skip it. Let her announce on her own.

Or say something like "I am so proud of Larla for working so hard the past few years to achieve her goals. She was recently accepted to her dream school and we wish her continued success." Don't name the school.

Actually...just skip it. Just let her wear a college sweatshirt in a few pics here and there and people will catch on. Or show a pic of you dropping her off in August.

that's lame. People would then just ask.

OP, just be proud. "My daughter is going to ___!!" is good enough.