Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just be subtle about her college acceptance, no matter whether she was the graduate of a private school or public school.

One of my high school classmates has a son who was admitted to Harvard in 2015 (from a public high school outside of this area). They were very subtle about it on Facebook, and I thought it was great! I admired their restraint.

No matter what the child's achievement, I don't think it's in good taste to announce it too conspicuously on Facebook (even if it's a spelling bee).

That's what I meant - subtle. How did they announce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your implication is that there won't be public high school students going to that same college, which is highly unlikely.

According to Parchment no more than two or three per year between the two large high schools in our district.

[Anonymous]

"So proud of our @Larla Lastname! All her hard work over the last few years has paid off and she's been accepted to HYP(e)! Great job, baby girl! We're really going to miss you ..."

[Anonymous]

I am so confused by your post. Did your friends' kids attend public high schools, or public universities? Do you think they attend the public colleges but secretly covet the private universities? They won't covet the tuition you'll be shelling out for that top notch school. Here's a secret: Kids who attend public universities have a better financial outcome when they aren't trying to pay off an enormous student debt when they graduate. That is why your friends are anti-private.

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I understand what OP is saying. I have sort of a similar issue with my family. I have very different peer groups than my two sisters and I am sometimes worried that I am coming off like a pompous ass, which I probably am. Nothing wrong with being worried about that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would just be subtle about her college acceptance, no matter whether she was the graduate of a private school or public school.

One of my high school classmates has a son who was admitted to Harvard in 2015 (from a public high school outside of this area). They were very subtle about it on Facebook, and I thought it was great! I admired their restraint.

No matter what the child's achievement, I don't think it's in good taste to announce it too conspicuously on Facebook (even if it's a spelling bee).

That's what I meant - subtle. How did they announce?

See, that's the thing: "Announcements" are by their very nature unsubtle. Congratulating your kid publicly is fine and sweet. It's a bit of a humblebrag, but not one that anyone is going to fault you for if you keep the focus on how hard your kid worked to achieve a goal. However, simply announcing to the world that "My kid got into Harvard" is tacky. If you had anything to do with your kid getting in (Im talking legacy or massive donations here, not just good parenting), then it's not his/her accomplishment and that cheapens it. If you didn't, then don't brag about your kid's accomplishment as if it was your own.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand what OP is saying. I have sort of a similar issue with my family. I have very different peer groups than my two sisters and I am sometimes worried that I am coming off like a pompous ass, which I probably am. Nothing wrong with being worried about that.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so confused by your post. Did your friends' kids attend public high schools, or public universities? Do you think they attend the public colleges but secretly covet the private universities? They won't covet the tuition you'll be shelling out for that top notch school. Here's a secret: Kids who attend public universities have a better financial outcome when they aren't trying to pay off an enormous student debt when they graduate. That is why your friends are anti-private.

While the college is private, I'm worried about triggering public secondary school friends & family.

[Anonymous]

Very proud of Larla.

picture of larla with the school sweatshirt.

Don't post some long sappy message that makes it sound like she is more amazing that she is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am so confused by your post. Did your friends' kids attend public high schools, or public universities? Do you think they attend the public colleges but secretly covet the private universities? They won't covet the tuition you'll be shelling out for that top notch school. Here's a secret: Kids who attend public universities have a better financial outcome when they aren't trying to pay off an enormous student debt when they graduate. That is why your friends are anti-private.

While the college is private, I'm worried about triggering public secondary school friends & family.

And you think their kids can't get into private colleges because they went to public high schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very proud of Larla.

picture of larla with the school sweatshirt.

Don't post some long sappy message that makes it sound like she is more amazing that she is.

This is what I usually see. Often the kid posts the sweatshirt photo. Maybe she could tag her parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very proud of Larla.

picture of larla with the school sweatshirt.

Don't post some long sappy message that makes it sound like she is more amazing that she is.

Perfect.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so confused by your post. Did your friends' kids attend public high schools, or public universities? Do you think they attend the public colleges but secretly covet the private universities? They won't covet the tuition you'll be shelling out for that top notch school. Here's a secret: Kids who attend public universities have a better financial outcome when they aren't trying to pay off an enormous student debt when they graduate. That is why your friends are anti-private.

While the college is private, I'm worried about triggering public secondary school friends & family.

And you think their kids can't get into private colleges because they went to public high schools?

Less than three will get into this caliber of college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am so confused by your post. Did your friends' kids attend public high schools, or public universities? Do you think they attend the public colleges but secretly covet the private universities? They won't covet the tuition you'll be shelling out for that top notch school. Here's a secret: Kids who attend public universities have a better financial outcome when they aren't trying to pay off an enormous student debt when they graduate. That is why your friends are anti-private.

While the college is private, I'm worried about triggering public secondary school friends & family.

And you think their kids can't get into private colleges because they went to public high schools?

Less than three will get into this caliber of college.

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