What's the worst thing you ever did to an ex, or vice versa?

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Anonymous wrote:Slept with his best friend.

Nice, you must be proud... you really showed him! I'm sure he and his best friend hold your reputation in high regard.

I think his best friend is the skank here, not the poster.

I think they both are the skanks.

All 3 are skanks engaging in a skanky skankfest.

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Anonymous wrote:My EX used to text me pics of her using a hairbrush in unusual ways. When she cheated on me I sent them to her mother and grandmother.

OP of the thread. That's revolting on both sides. Wtf

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Anonymous wrote:My EX used to text me pics of her using a hairbrush in unusual ways. When she cheated on me I sent them to her mother and grandmother.

Was it really necessary to involve her mother and grandmother? What have they done to deserve that?

Seriously! Her poor grandmother.

You're a loser, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Slept with his best friend.

Nice, you must be proud... you really showed him! I'm sure he and his best friend hold your reputation in high regard.

I think his best friend is the skank here, not the poster.

I think they both are the skanks.

All 3 are skanks engaging in a skanky skankfest.

I was 16. I was close to 30 before I was actually ready to act like a good person in a relationship. Just in case you think staying married to a narcissist with an anger problem won't completely warp your children's idea of what people are for and whether or not love is a real thing.

[Anonymous]

Ex is a republican. He lived in a rural area filled with republicans. None of them were very opened mined.

I placed a rainbow Obama sign in his front yard and put a small magnet on the back of his truck. I let his neighbors do the rest.

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My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

Well, I get it, I suppose, but sounds like you are just meeting deceit with more deceit.

I'm not sure how I feel about it.

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Stuck a garden hose in his front door mail slot and then turned the water on. Now she's the favorite to become Trump's White House press secretary.

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Anonymous wrote:got a pg coworker to pee on "the stick" and left it on the bathroom counter. He was in the process of leaving me - because he didn't "love me enough" but really it was for his pg gf, which he didn't think I knew about. He's not caucasion, but he went whiter than white, I thought he might faint. He didn't, but he did throw up. Then I threw him out. Put his clothes out in the hallway and everything. I only wish we had a house so I could have put them in the yard. But it was still worth it to watch him run around the building up and down, collecting boxes, going and getting some duffel bags, taking the elevator ride of shame

A co-worker from Prince George's?

[Anonymous]

I put a photo of my ex on Craigslist and made a post about wanting to try my first time with a man. Listed his phone number and said to call. I was 25 and psycho. Any man who wronged me had to pay dearly.

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I wanted to buy a billboard exposing their affair to her husband. Near her office building. But it never happened.

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I don't see it as sad at all. She stays in her home. Her kids stay in the home. The kids' lives aren't turned upside down by divorce. She gets to continue taking care of her home and her children. If she and her DH were fighting in front of the kids or if there was abuse, it would be different. I think she is making the best decision for her family. I would do exactly the same.


I agree. Look at the alternative: splitting the retirement money, possibly moving with the kids to a smaller place since his income has to provide for two homes, having to get an at least initially low paying job and giving up her ability to be a sahm, living on less money while he's free to marry the ow who will then become part of her kids' lives, not to mention the hardship of all of this on the kids.


Yes, her kids stay in a toxic home where dad has affairs and treats mom like crap, and she looks the other way.

Sounds dreamy.

I'm the OP in this thread who posted this morning. I reread my post and particularly my first reply. Yes I did come off quite sharply, sorry. Not enough coffee yet.

It's obviously true I am not 100% happy and there is anger underneath and sometimes on top. But there is no toxic household, except that their dad stopped coming home every night many years ago ("working") and after he admitted the affair, he stopped even the pretense of coming home at all. No demand for divorce, no custody arrangements, he just went on his own way and kept paying for everything in absentia. And I didn't do anything except continue to do what I do.

He's a very astute lawyer and if I tried to fight back in a divorce he would do everything in his power to fight me back - that would be ugly. I don't doubt that for a minute.

I grew up seeing my mom and my mom's friends have their lives upended by their acrimonious divorces, their lives did not improve, they were not any more happy with their "dignity" purchased at a dear price of both cash and chaos and conflicted kids. My life as a child with warring divorced parents was not made better. Nor were their lives imho.

My husband is content (and probably relieved) to look at me as a friend, and yes, I put on a happy face for him ALL THE TIME. The kids are now teens and know about their dad (I mean, he doesn't come home! Of course they know). But I teach them some adverse situations are overcome in different ways. Sometimes it's okay to turn the other cheek when someone does you wrong. Or, don't bite off your nose to spite your face. I could tell my husband at any time how I really feel in a lot of very colorful nasty words, or file and face a bitter divorce battle, but who does that really benefit? No one. Not even me.

So if the best revenge is "living well" - then that's what I feel I am doing, living as "well" as I can under the circumstances I have been presented with, outside of my control.

I was egregiously lied to and deceived. My revenge is that he doesn't realize how I feel about him (or don't feel about him) as I go on my way. If I died tomorrow, he would probably eulogize me as a saint. Or probably not - he'd delegate that to someone else, probably my sister. If he dies tomorrow, there's a lot of life insurance and I am on that paperwork.

PS for the person who asked if I am interested in another relationship in my lifetime, the answer is no, I had stepparents growing up and I would not want the same for my own kids. I'd like to just concentrate on them for the rest of my life. Also, based on my marriage, the honest truth is that I've had years to get used to being on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to buy a billboard exposing their affair to her husband. Near her office building. But it never happened.

Glad you didn't. That would've hurt and humiliated her, for I'm sure no reason

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I put a photo of my ex on Craigslist and made a post about wanting to try my first time with a man. Listed his phone number and said to call. I was 25 and psycho. Any man who wronged me had to pay dearly.

lol I kind of want to do something similar.

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Anonymous wrote:I was with a girl in Grad School. She dumped me because I did not have enough money. She was an undergrad and was living off of mommy and daddy; I was on a stipend, on my own, living on 11K/yr. I did not have a car, had a dumpy apartment with room mates, and lived paycheck to paycheck.

That was in 1990. She popped up in "people you might know."

My revenge was friending her on Facebook, so she could see what she gave up. First, I look just like I did 26 years ago, including the hair; I have a prestigious job that pays good money where I only work a regular work week. I am happily married. She? Well, she is single with a kid, working as a clerk in a hospital. She drives a 14 year old car, and is morbidly obese. I won.

Hate to break it to you, but someone who holds onto a break-up by a 20 year old college girl from 26 years ago hasn't "won."

not to mention wearing their hair the same as 26 years ago.

[Anonymous]

my then boyfriend and then roommate starting sleeping together (she invited him over for dinner when I was out of town). God it was so painful at the time. He didn't even have the decency to break up with me, I had to figure it out.

I didn't get revenge, though I fantasized about it.

Years later, she seems to have hit a full stop. She lost her prestigious job and doesn't seem to be fulfilling the promise she had as a brilliant graduate student, put on a lot of weight, and is unmarried w/o kids (although I don't think she wanted them).

he is highly successful, married 3 kids, and definitely sleeps around. He is a charming narcissist.

So, I never got revenge, but I am way, way past the hurt and the best thing of it all was that I learned to choose both my lovers and friends wisely.
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As for the PP who chooses to stay with her straying husband, hey, no judgment here, but do you think you will divorce when the kids are out of the home?