What's the worst thing you ever did to an ex, or vice versa?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The worst thing I've done is to pretend from moment one when I found out about the affair that I was hurt and would always be in love with him but that his happiness was all that mattered to me.

Never raised my voice, never became hysterical, I just cried quietly and rolled over.

Basically my revenge is that he's too guilty to get a divorce, has no incentive to go through the process because I'm letting him do what he wants, I don't love him anymore at all but he thinks I do, and he will work to support me for the rest of my life while he never comes home so I don't even have to deal with him in exchange.

They always say living well is the best revenge, so guess what?

Joke's on you, motherfucker.

Oy.

You only have one life. Why spend it like this?

Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

That's awesome.

If this is true, she's an idiot.

Why not sell the sneakers? Her ex lost a present he didn't even know he was going to get - so he lost nothing. I guess burning them might give her momentary satisfaction, but it would have felt better to sell them and use the money for something awesome for herself. Also, it makes no sense that someone's ex burning shoes would ruin their career.

She's loaded and would never have needed the money and could always get another pair of those shoes if she wanted because she works in the industry. It brought her a lot more than momentary satisfaction and he knew he was getting the shoes so he was beyond hurt. I think we all still have screenshots of him begging for mercy on the shoes. But whatever, it was her decision, and she enjoyed what she did, so I wasn't going to say anything. Hell, I enjoyed watching it myself, as did many of our girlfriends who had also been hurt in the past. And because she had a couple of major sneaker blogs pick up on it, the people who would've been hiring him at the sneaker companies all found out about what he did and he was basically the laughing stock of everyone. Nike even reached out to my friend for a copy of her video and their social media team had a conference call with her. Social media matters a great deal in certain industries and she used it to her advantage quite well in this instance. But it is her job, so go figure she had it all planned out.

OP here WOWWW that's kind of amazing!!!!!!!!! I wish I could do something similar

Really? Burning sneakers for "revenge" is what you aspire to?

Most of these posts are beyond bizarre to me.

The best revenge is holding your head high and moving on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was going back and forth between two girlfriends in the couple years after college. I wasn't honest about my status with either of them, which was fun but not nice. Eventually, one of them figured it out and told the other. I tried to get back with the second girl for a while until she got a new boyfriend whom she later married. I pivoted to pursue the first girl and things were interesting for a while until she cut things off.

I haven't spoken to them in 20 years but we share some friends. I know that one is married, no kids and hasn't worked for a long time because her husband made millions in IT. The other is living in the midwest, has a daughter and seems to living a very comfortable life as well.

I got married a few years after those women left my life. We have a couple kids, struggle financially and fight about stuff. Probably unrelated to my earlier sins.

Thanks for sharing, tongue in cheek. You're right that the finances are unrelated, but the fighting? Perhaps you should work on communication and respect? Or failed to choose the right partner in life?

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Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

That's awesome.

If this is true, she's an idiot.

Why not sell the sneakers? Her ex lost a present he didn't even know he was going to get - so he lost nothing. I guess burning them might give her momentary satisfaction, but it would have felt better to sell them and use the money for something awesome for herself. Also, it makes no sense that someone's ex burning shoes would ruin their career.

She's loaded and would never have needed the money and could always get another pair of those shoes if she wanted because she works in the industry. It brought her a lot more than momentary satisfaction and he knew he was getting the shoes so he was beyond hurt. I think we all still have screenshots of him begging for mercy on the shoes. But whatever, it was her decision, and she enjoyed what she did, so I wasn't going to say anything. Hell, I enjoyed watching it myself, as did many of our girlfriends who had also been hurt in the past. And because she had a couple of major sneaker blogs pick up on it, the people who would've been hiring him at the sneaker companies all found out about what he did and he was basically the laughing stock of everyone. Nike even reached out to my friend for a copy of her video and their social media team had a conference call with her. Social media matters a great deal in certain industries and she used it to her advantage quite well in this instance. But it is her job, so go figure she had it all planned out.

OP here WOWWW that's kind of amazing!!!!!!!!! I wish I could do something similar

Really? Burning sneakers for "revenge" is what you aspire to?

Most of these posts are beyond bizarre to me.

The best revenge is holding your head high and moving on.

I understand it made sense for her world and her lifestyle, but there's no way I'd do the same - the bonfire probably stank to high heaven, and... adult wearing/begging for priceless sneakers? A whole industry around that? How stupid.

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Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Between you and the person who said I may as well kill myself, my mind is boggled at your ability to judge.

I never cheated on my husband. I never hurt his feelings or wished him harm. He was the one to cheat on me. Would you have preferred that I throw things and call names and go scorched earth? Would that have made you more proud of me? You don't know me.

Why should I split my family up because he has decided not to honor our marriage vows? Why should I "get a job" if I don't want to get a job? Why is having a job the only way to live a productive life? I have friends. I have my kids. I have my family. I even help take care of his family (because he would rather be going on vacations with his girlfriend than bother seeing them). My MIL is not well.

That you took from my post that I'm some worthless person sitting on the couch every day counting my dollars and cackling and steeping in my hatred is simply false.

My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

[Anonymous]

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Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Between you and the person who said I may as well kill myself, my mind is boggled at your ability to judge.

I never cheated on my husband. I never hurt his feelings or wished him harm. He was the one to cheat on me. Would you have preferred that I throw things and call names and go scorched earth? Would that have made you more proud of me? You don't know me.

Why should I split my family up because he has decided not to honor our marriage vows? Why should I "get a job" if I don't want to get a job? Why is having a job the only way to live a productive life? I have friends. I have my kids. I have my family. I even help take care of his family (because he would rather be going on vacations with his girlfriend than bother seeing them). My MIL is not well.

That you took from my post that I'm some worthless person sitting on the couch every day counting my dollars and cackling and steeping in my hatred is simply false.

My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

And I completely understand and support your decision. It's much more mature than what the others did on this thread! You may be too wise for this forum, PP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Am I the only one who is not impressed with this story? She stooped to his level and made herself look bad. While what her ex did is beyond atrocious, what she did is juvenile and could be considered atrocious as well, if it is really true that she negatively impacted his future job prospects.

I'm hung up on the idea that "sneaker blogs" exist....

[Anonymous]

It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Sounds like someone has alimony payments to make

Rush to judgment

You must be new here!

[Anonymous]

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

I get what you're saying, you just kinda come off a little angry ... that's probably what they are picking up on.

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you just kinda come off a little angry

op. Well, there is that some days. And it is a thread about revenge.

I don't think it would help the anger to act against my own interests, though - then I'd be angry about that, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Am I the only one who is not impressed with this story? She stooped to his level and made herself look bad. While what her ex did is beyond atrocious, what she did is juvenile and could be considered atrocious as well, if it is really true that she negatively impacted his future job prospects.

Nope. I think this is stupid. 1) who cares about rare sneakers? 2) they weren't even his yet 3) she seems whacko.

[Anonymous]

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Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Between you and the person who said I may as well kill myself, my mind is boggled at your ability to judge.

I never cheated on my husband. I never hurt his feelings or wished him harm. He was the one to cheat on me. Would you have preferred that I throw things and call names and go scorched earth? Would that have made you more proud of me? You don't know me.

Why should I split my family up because he has decided not to honor our marriage vows? Why should I "get a job" if I don't want to get a job? Why is having a job the only way to live a productive life? I have friends. I have my kids. I have my family. I even help take care of his family (because he would rather be going on vacations with his girlfriend than bother seeing them). My MIL is not well.

That you took from my post that I'm some worthless person sitting on the couch every day counting my dollars and cackling and steeping in my hatred is simply false.

My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

NP. You sound miserable. I'm glad you are happy, but you sound absolutely miserable.

[Anonymous]

Slept with his best friend.

[Anonymous]

Went into Barnes and Noble and got subscription cards for all the magazines, about 100 in all.

Printed labels with his name and address, adduced them to the postage-paid cards, and subscribed him to all of them.

He only wasted about 3 weeks of my life...a guy I met online who threw himself into this intense thing, basically swept me off my feet, took me out nearly every night, claimed to be falling in love with me. Turns out his fiancé easing of town taking care of her sick mother and he was just entertaining himself.

I figured it would prob take a lot as long for him to cancel all the subscriptions and deal with the hassle as he did in wasting my time.

(actually I never really did that but that was my fantasy revenge.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slept with his best friend.

Nice, you must be proud... you really showed him! I'm sure he and his best friend hold your reputation in high regard.