What's the worst thing you ever did to an ex, or vice versa?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Between you and the person who said I may as well kill myself, my mind is boggled at your ability to judge.

I never cheated on my husband. I never hurt his feelings or wished him harm. He was the one to cheat on me. Would you have preferred that I throw things and call names and go scorched earth? Would that have made you more proud of me? You don't know me.

Why should I split my family up because he has decided not to honor our marriage vows? Why should I "get a job" if I don't want to get a job? Why is having a job the only way to live a productive life? I have friends. I have my kids. I have my family. I even help take care of his family (because he would rather be going on vacations with his girlfriend than bother seeing them). My MIL is not well.

That you took from my post that I'm some worthless person sitting on the couch every day counting my dollars and cackling and steeping in my hatred is simply false.

My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

I am the PP, and I would never tell anyone to kill themselves, that is a terrible thing to say to someone.

You put your post out there, and I shared my opinion. Call it judging if you will, but your life sounds like a miserable one to me. Clearly, you are in charge of your life and can make your own decisions.

This is a discussion board. You put it out there, others are going to have an opinion on what you choose to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Sounds like someone has alimony payments to make

Rush to judgment

You must be new here!

Huh? I think the PP's life sounds miserable. I guess in your world the only person possible of thinking that is someone who has alimony payments to make. Okeydokey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was with a girl in Grad School. She dumped me because I did not have enough money. She was an undergrad and was living off of mommy and daddy; I was on a stipend, on my own, living on 11K/yr. I did not have a car, had a dumpy apartment with room mates, and lived paycheck to paycheck.

That was in 1990. She popped up in "people you might know."

My revenge was friending her on Facebook, so she could see what she gave up. First, I look just like I did 26 years ago, including the hair; I have a prestigious job that pays good money where I only work a regular work week. I am happily married. She? Well, she is single with a kid, working as a clerk in a hospital. She drives a 14 year old car, and is morbidly obese. I won.

Hate to break it to you, but someone who holds onto a break-up by a 20 year old college girl from 26 years ago hasn't "won."

Kind of sounds like he did, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married a man to whom he doesn't compare. While it's true my husband makes 2x what my ex does, he's also emotionally stronger, a better father, and someone I can actually trust. Meanwhile, the ex is a stunted 35yr old with the life of a 23yr old.

Good for you! God, I hope my outcome is the same as yours one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Why would HER burning shoes that SHE bought ruin HIS career?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Why would HER burning shoes that SHE bought ruin HIS career?

Um, the OP is the one who made the claim that it affected his job prospects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Between you and the person who said I may as well kill myself, my mind is boggled at your ability to judge.

I never cheated on my husband. I never hurt his feelings or wished him harm. He was the one to cheat on me. Would you have preferred that I throw things and call names and go scorched earth? Would that have made you more proud of me? You don't know me.

Why should I split my family up because he has decided not to honor our marriage vows? Why should I "get a job" if I don't want to get a job? Why is having a job the only way to live a productive life? I have friends. I have my kids. I have my family. I even help take care of his family (because he would rather be going on vacations with his girlfriend than bother seeing them). My MIL is not well.

That you took from my post that I'm some worthless person sitting on the couch every day counting my dollars and cackling and steeping in my hatred is simply false.

My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

This is so sad. I pity you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Why would HER burning shoes that SHE bought ruin HIS career?

Um, the OP is the one who made the claim that it affected his job prospects.

I know. I'm saying why would OP's friend burning a pair of shoes she bought and was going to give her ex affect the ex's career? What does that even mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Why would HER burning shoes that SHE bought ruin HIS career?

Um, the OP is the one who made the claim that it affected his job prospects.

PP who posted the story. If you read my other posts you'd see how. Namely that she had sneaker blogs cover the story and her livestream of the bonfire. Sneaker companies saw it as a result and turned around and canceled his interviews. Nike corporate even had a conference call with her and asked her to send them the full video. They then sent her a few pairs of free sneakers as did a few other sneaker brands. Social media is big in that world and she used it to her advantage.

[Anonymous]

I had an BF dump me right before he had abdominal surgery. After surgery asked me to drive him to the store and shop for him. Pathetic me did, thinking my kindness would make him want to get back together. Of course after I paid and got back in the car he said thanks, but no interest in seeing me again after I took him back home.

So to get back I took the back roads route that had a ton of speed bumps, and sped up over every single bump to make the car land as hard a possible. Each landing was excruciatingly painful for him. I was 19 at the time and in retrospect, holy crap that was terrible of me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Why would HER burning shoes that SHE bought ruin HIS career?

Um, the OP is the one who made the claim that it affected his job prospects.

PP who posted the story. If you read my other posts you'd see how. Namely that she had sneaker blogs cover the story and her livestream of the bonfire. Sneaker companies saw it as a result and turned around and canceled his interviews. Nike corporate even had a conference call with her and asked her to send them the full video. They then sent her a few pairs of free sneakers as did a few other sneaker brands. Social media is big in that world and she used it to her advantage.

But why? I still don't get it. They canceled the interview because she ... burned shoes? Or because he was a bad boyfriend? None of this makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had an BF dump me right before he had abdominal surgery. After surgery asked me to drive him to the store and shop for him. Pathetic me did, thinking my kindness would make him want to get back together. Of course after I paid and got back in the car he said thanks, but no interest in seeing me again after I took him back home.

So to get back I took the back roads route that had a ton of speed bumps, and sped up over every single bump to make the car land as hard a possible. Each landing was excruciatingly painful for him. I was 19 at the time and in retrospect, holy crap that was terrible of me!

I'm glad you regret it. He was an ass first, though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my best friends walked in on her BF with a prostitute and found STD pills in his nightstand when she flew out early to surprise him for Valentine's Day. For revenge, she burned his Valentine's Day presents in a bonfire (the ones she had bought him but not given to him). One item was a pair of rare Nike's by Kanye West that he had also autographed. I think they're pretty much priceless shoes and after she livestreamed the bonfire, no sneaker company would hire him. (He was trying to get a job with one) He's still in a dead end job and single while her business boomed after she did this and she's definitely moved on.

I'm too shy and meek to do something like she did but I can't say I didn't enjoy watching her plan and execute her revenge. For her, revenge was ultimately very sweet.

Why would HER burning shoes that SHE bought ruin HIS career?

Um, the OP is the one who made the claim that it affected his job prospects.

PP who posted the story. If you read my other posts you'd see how. Namely that she had sneaker blogs cover the story and her livestream of the bonfire. Sneaker companies saw it as a result and turned around and canceled his interviews. Nike corporate even had a conference call with her and asked her to send them the full video. They then sent her a few pairs of free sneakers as did a few other sneaker brands. Social media is big in that world and she used it to her advantage.

But why? I still don't get it. They canceled the interview because she ... burned shoes? Or because he was a bad boyfriend? None of this makes sense.

Who the hell knows because the whole thing sounds incredibly immature. Her friend did not "win" anything by getting herself involved with all of this drama... and on social media, no less, where anyone who Googles her can witness her petty behavior.

[Anonymous]

When I was a senior in high school I went to visit my then-boyfriend at college. Instead of having a romantic weekend he dragged me all over campus - to parties, to random restaurants, to a girls' soccer game. Turns out he was falling for another girl who played on the soccer team and was at those places - and they were flirting etc right in front of me. No idea what he told her - that his babyish high school GF was coming up and he didn't want to break it to her ahead of time, etc. THEN - he had HER email me to break it off.

Now he's a big shot here in DC and I'm pretty sure his now-wife (not her) is on here (saw her reference her husband's name in an unusual names thread and it was his).

I know this is nothing compared to some of what's on here but 20 years later I still cringe thinking about that weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Seriously. It is extraordinarily sad that you would choose to live like this over getting a job and actually accomplishing something. Where's your pride?

Between you and the person who said I may as well kill myself, my mind is boggled at your ability to judge.

I never cheated on my husband. I never hurt his feelings or wished him harm. He was the one to cheat on me. Would you have preferred that I throw things and call names and go scorched earth? Would that have made you more proud of me? You don't know me.

Why should I split my family up because he has decided not to honor our marriage vows? Why should I "get a job" if I don't want to get a job? Why is having a job the only way to live a productive life? I have friends. I have my kids. I have my family. I even help take care of his family (because he would rather be going on vacations with his girlfriend than bother seeing them). My MIL is not well.

That you took from my post that I'm some worthless person sitting on the couch every day counting my dollars and cackling and steeping in my hatred is simply false.

My revenge is living well - the way I choose to live my life, supported by his income. It's the least I am owed for all the years I have spent with him, supporting his goals. My goal was always to raise my children to be good people (which they are, despite their father) and to look forward to grandchildren and being there for them, which my husband won't be. He barely even interacts with the kids he has, much less grandchildren.

I'm simply continuing with my own original goals and not letting his choices get in the way of mine.

I never did anything wrong and yet somehow you imply I am completely worthless in life because I'm not doing what you think I should do. Take a walk and live your own life. This is mine and you don't get to choose for me.

I applaud you. Now please tell me you are hiding cash and have an exit plan once the kids are out of the house.