My Master's vs DH's job

[Anonymous]

Holy sh*t. Another ungrateful, self-righteous DW on DCUM? What? Of couse your DH should continue to work a job he hates while you go back to school. Of course your really hard work over a couple of years justifies you taking two years off and taking on debt to pursue your BS passion. I think DH should do the same and puruse his passion. We should all quit! This whole thread makes me sad & angry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy sh*t. Another ungrateful, self-righteous DW on DCUM? What? Of couse your DH should continue to work a job he hates while you go back to school. Of course your really hard work over a couple of years justifies you taking two years off and taking on debt to pursue your BS passion. I think DH should do the same and puruse his passion. We should all quit! This whole thread makes me sad & angry!

Ah yes, women should never pursue their passions! Their role is to smooth things over and keep the family running while DH goes out into the world and does his dream job!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy sh*t. Another ungrateful, self-righteous DW on DCUM? What? Of couse your DH should continue to work a job he hates while you go back to school. Of course your really hard work over a couple of years justifies you taking two years off and taking on debt to pursue your BS passion. I think DH should do the same and puruse his passion. We should all quit! This whole thread makes me sad & angry!

Ah yes, women should never pursue their passions! Their role is to smooth things over and keep the family running while DH goes out into the world and does his dream job!!

Agreed! We should all quit and pursue our passions! Screw the mortgage! Screw the car payments! We can live off love!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy sh*t. Another ungrateful, self-righteous DW on DCUM? What? Of couse your DH should continue to work a job he hates while you go back to school. Of course your really hard work over a couple of years justifies you taking two years off and taking on debt to pursue your BS passion. I think DH should do the same and puruse his passion. We should all quit! This whole thread makes me sad & angry!

Ah yes, women should never pursue their passions! Their role is to smooth things over and keep the family running while DH goes out into the world and does his dream job!!

Agreed! We should all quit and pursue our passions! Screw the mortgage! Screw the car payments! We can live off love!

Great idea! I'm so tired of women supporting their husbands through school, career changes, family issues, and then when it comes time to reciprocate, these men just complain about how they have NO IDEA how things are going to work out! We get it honey, it's because you've never been the one who had to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy sh*t. Another ungrateful, self-righteous DW on DCUM? What? Of couse your DH should continue to work a job he hates while you go back to school. Of course your really hard work over a couple of years justifies you taking two years off and taking on debt to pursue your BS passion. I think DH should do the same and puruse his passion. We should all quit! This whole thread makes me sad & angry!

Maybe you should try reading the thread before spouting off nonsense. There is no debt involved. Her DH has only been at hIs current job for the past few months and has switched jobs repeatedly in the last few years. It's not like he has had some well thought out plan in the works for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy sh*t. Another ungrateful, self-righteous DW on DCUM? What? Of couse your DH should continue to work a job he hates while you go back to school. Of course your really hard work over a couple of years justifies you taking two years off and taking on debt to pursue your BS passion. I think DH should do the same and puruse his passion. We should all quit! This whole thread makes me sad & angry!

Maybe you should try reading the thread before spouting off nonsense. There is no debt involved. Her DH has only been at hIs current job for the past few months and has switched jobs repeatedly in the last few years. It's not like he has had some well thought out plan in the works for years.

You're right. DH is not the consistent bread winner that he should be! Time for him to suck it up while DW gets a useless $100K Master's Degree in Psychology. Then she will finally be happy and willing to "sacrifice" in some $25K/yr lab job studying mayflies. Another DCUM living in fantasy land...

[Anonymous]

OP, I am in a later-in-life Master's program at an excellent school. Some days I think it is a great idea, other days I wonder what the heck I am doing. I take one or two courses a semester and continue working so no student loans.

There are ALWAYS going to be horror stories about someone earning a Masters and still not getting a job. That said, it is difficult to quantify the value of a Masters, even the MBA example someone gave shows for that degree it does not make sense, unless you go to at least a top 20 (think University of North Carolina or better).

Can you start the degree with a course or two before doing a full semester dive?

Will the university's name on you resume open doors? I would think that a Masters in Basket Weaving if they offered one at Harvard would be worth it?

Also, if you want to change fields a Masters can help orchestrate.

Bottom line: there is no right answer for everyone. And FWIW, $500/credit is relatively cheap.

[Anonymous]

It's not relevant to my question so I'm not going to. But it's a hard science/STEM.

Are you sure this degree is really going to be that helpful to you in that case? My husband is an engineer, my brother is a physicist, and my sister is a chemist. None of them thought a masters would really help jump start a career in their fields.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It's not relevant to my question so I'm not going to. But it's a hard science/STEM.

Are you sure this degree is really going to be that helpful to you in that case? My husband is an engineer, my brother is a physicist, and my sister is a chemist. None of them thought a masters would really help jump start a career in their fields.

Not for you but everyone, so when is it worth getting vs. it being a merit badge? Or are Master's programs, even at the Georgetown's of the world another giant scam?

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP can't win. If she doesn't do this, and comes back later for advice about her impending divorce, you guys will be all over her for not getting that career lined up first. Then you will berate her for wasting her DH's money on her SAHM hobby.

[Anonymous]

There is not a physicist out there without a doctorate, right?

[Anonymous]

You are just delaying getting a job to the detriment of your family. Get a job.

[Anonymous]

Go to school. Husbands can die and marriages can change.

Tell him to suck it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are just delaying getting a job to the detriment of your family. Get a job.

+1. Amen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would look into getting an entry-level job instead.

I would also come up with a better childcare plan than "my family and neighbors can help". Family and neighbors make good fall backs, but shouldn't be counted on as your primary childcare for the next two or three years.

Yup, at this point the plan is a little half-baked. Is the cost of the masters program really going to produce returns higher than spending that time working a full time job instead? There aren't that many masters programs that actually produce a meaningful increase in starting salary so you may be better off putting that time into gaining more experience. It really depends on the field.

But isn't there another perspective? Maybe it doesn't boost your salary but makes you more employable if you lost a job and had to find another? What if it cuts potential unemployment periods?