Boyfriend not interested in my family at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But a wedding? He's supposed to come and be supportive and meet the rest of my family. He wouldn't even come to the family dinner the night before the wedding. His argument was that I was in the bridal party and we wouldn't see eachother anyways (seated apart). But I still think he could have sucked it up for one night?! I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all.

I can see his point, even though I agree with you. It doesn't sound like you guys are compatible, given that seeing family regularly is important to you and he is totally disinterested.

This. The handwriting is all over the wall on this one. It will only get worse as time goes by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes huge deal breaker. It will only get worse. I promise. And the pp who said once a month is a lot is a joke.

If you family means this much to you, then you need to find someone who will naturally fit in and want to be with you and them.

Mark my words that it will only get worse with him.

Please do not have kids with him. It will tear your family apart.

This. Your priorities are not in alignment. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Get out now. If he won't go to your SISTER'S wedding with you, get out NOW.

If you stay with him, own your misery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get out now. If he won't go to your SISTER'S wedding with you, get out NOW.

If you stay with him, own your misery.

I mean, the thing is that I'm willing to bet if OP hadn't been badgering him to constantly hang out with her family, he'd be on board. I think OP is probably painting herself in the best light for DCUM. Face it, she spends an inordinate amount of time with them and I'm guessing he has just absolutely HAD IT. And doesn't want to go. He needs a break. He's tired of constantly losing out in every which way to her family. He just simply appears to be very low priority to OP--I'd certainly feel low priority after the schedule and whatnot she described. He's never first in her life. So maybe he's just DONE. Good luck to OP in finding someone who is never the first priority, never has alone time, and is expected to be with her family several times a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get out now. If he won't go to your SISTER'S wedding with you, get out NOW.

If you stay with him, own your misery.

I mean, the thing is that I'm willing to bet if OP hadn't been badgering him to constantly hang out with her family, he'd be on board. I think OP is probably painting herself in the best light for DCUM. Face it, she spends an inordinate amount of time with them and I'm guessing he has just absolutely HAD IT. And doesn't want to go. He needs a break. He's tired of constantly losing out in every which way to her family. He just simply appears to be very low priority to OP--I'd certainly feel low priority after the schedule and whatnot she described. He's never first in her life. So maybe he's just DONE. Good luck to OP in finding someone who is never the first priority, never has alone time, and is expected to be with her family several times a week.

This. Especially since her family is apparently always asking where he is, like it is weird not to visit your in laws every day. Talk about an awkward wedding.

[Anonymous]

It seems like your boyfriend is being more than accommodating if he is cool with you visiting your family that often in lieu of time with him. Expecting him to be there too is ridiculous.