Hot dads, not so hot moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the hot guys I know with "not so hot" moms, dated hot chicks... Realized they were high mAintenance bitches and went with love, adoration and good moms.

Translation they married women with low self esteem who would put up with their BS because they didn't have any other options and they carry on with their hot size 2 office mate.

Exactly the opposite. They married women who realized they had to go with what God gave them. On the inside not outside and did not settle for less.

[Anonymous]

OP my natural instinct is to slam you for your post but the. I realize it's honest and you are just posting what as a society with our current norms for women's value and beauty, we'd all be thinking. Can't be mad with you about that

it happens. I was hot when I met DH 10 years ago. I got fat then had a kid and my body isn't the same, stretched skin, and ugly. It happens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

Maybe she's stressed, has multiple health problems, DC has emotional and chronic life threatening medical needs. He's stressed too but under eats when stressed so he looks trim. He's got high blood pressure and is pre diabetic which you wouldn't know from looking at him.

[Anonymous]

Many moms let themselves go and let their DHs take as much time and money as they need to look good.

[Anonymous]

Attraction isn't that simple. I look like Keely Shay, but my guy is 6'4", good-looking and thin. He doesn't have any trouble getting attention from women. We are best friends and a great sexual match. We mesh well with another another's family. I guess I'll have t-shirts made with all of our less obvious relationship qualities. That way, no one will have to wonder why we're together.

[Anonymous]

I know a couple like this. While grossly overweight, she is intelligent, witty, super cool woman...Maybe he doesn't mind the fat. They have a loving and happy marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

Do you have the same comment for men who are not so hot and have hot wives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

Do you have the same comment for men who are not so hot and have hot wives?

There are tons of fat men with hot women... it's called money.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I can look like that some times. He's chiseled and looks like an actor. He gets asked literally every time we go out, "Hey, has anyone ever told you that you look like ___" He's a walking Brooks Brother's catalog and takes longer to get dressed than I do.

I don't wear makeup 95% of the time, and don't bother doing more to my hair that pulling it back into a pony tail. I HATE shopping, so I don't wear the new trends. I'm pretty basic and put zero effort into my appearance.

When I do have time and put energy into my appearance, I am model pretty. I actually did model in my younger days. But, I work full-time, have a household to run, along with 3 kids doing sports and activities allover northern Virginia.

If DH wants me to look like I did then, he can start outsourcing half of what I do to give me the time to go to the gym and do my hair and makeup, and he can do all the grocery shopping and cooking to make sure we're eating "21-day meal plans" every day.

But OP, don't feel bad AT ALL. When we are out, I sometimes look around thinking, these women checking out my husband must wonder what he's doing with such a haggardly looking slob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only know one couple mismatched in that direction. the vast majority of mismatched couples, the DH is ugly and the DW is attractive. But who knows what draws people together.

This.

Also I went to my 20th HS reunion last summer and thr women looked great, but them men? Holy shit. Awful. Fat balding, sloppy...just gross. I went home and banged the hell out of my fit and well groomed DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I can look like that some times. He's chiseled and looks like an actor. He gets asked literally every time we go out, "Hey, has anyone ever told you that you look like ___" He's a walking Brooks Brother's catalog and takes longer to get dressed than I do.

I don't wear makeup 95% of the time, and don't bother doing more to my hair that pulling it back into a pony tail. I HATE shopping, so I don't wear the new trends. I'm pretty basic and put zero effort into my appearance.

When I do have time and put energy into my appearance, I am model pretty. I actually did model in my younger days. But, I work full-time, have a household to run, along with 3 kids doing sports and activities allover northern Virginia.

If DH wants me to look like I did then, he can start outsourcing half of what I do to give me the time to go to the gym and do my hair and makeup, and he can do all the grocery shopping and cooking to make sure we're eating "21-day meal plans" every day.

But OP, don't feel bad AT ALL. When we are out, I sometimes look around thinking, these women checking out my husband must wonder what he's doing with such a haggardly looking slob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I can look like that some times. He's chiseled and looks like an actor. He gets asked literally every time we go out, "Hey, has anyone ever told you that you look like ___" He's a walking Brooks Brother's catalog and takes longer to get dressed than I do.

I don't wear makeup 95% of the time, and don't bother doing more to my hair that pulling it back into a pony tail. I HATE shopping, so I don't wear the new trends. I'm pretty basic and put zero effort into my appearance.

When I do have time and put energy into my appearance, I am model pretty. I actually did model in my younger days. But, I work full-time, have a household to run, along with 3 kids doing sports and activities allover northern Virginia.

If DH wants me to look like I did then, he can start outsourcing half of what I do to give me the time to go to the gym and do my hair and makeup, and he can do all the grocery shopping and cooking to make sure we're eating "21-day meal plans" every day.

But OP, don't feel bad AT ALL. When we are out, I sometimes look around thinking, these women checking out my husband must wonder what he's doing with such a haggardly looking slob.

He's going to outsource your "sexy woman" function to some young unmarried thing who revels in looking good for him.

But hey, your priorities are what they are.

[Anonymous]

If someone like Rob Lowe stays with his beautiful wife in spite of her up/down weight then maybe even really attractive and successful men marry women for more than just their looks?

[Anonymous]

It took years for my model built XH to finally gain a small pouch. It sits atop a lot of muscle, but it's there!

Before I piled on the weight, I'd also had all of the responsibilities of caring for two children and a household piled on me. XH (then my somewhat DH) was at the gym daily. Of course he looked amazing. He didn't have a care in the world!

How'd SHE let it get that far? How'd he keep himself free of all responsibility for that long? That's the question I'd ask. The gym was the first thing DH took from me. Sleep was next. If that's not a recipe for weight gain, I don't know what is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It took years for my model built XH to finally gain a small pouch. It sits atop a lot of muscle, but it's there!

Before I piled on the weight, I'd also had all of the responsibilities of caring for two children and a household piled on me. XH (then my somewhat DH) was at the gym daily. Of course he looked amazing. He didn't have a care in the world!

How'd SHE let it get that far? How'd he keep himself free of all responsibility for that long? That's the question I'd ask. The gym was the first thing DH took from me. Sleep was next. If that's not a recipe for weight gain, I don't know what is.

Also a recipe for weight gain: eating like crap. Which you can't blame on him. Bodies are 70% made in the kitchen, 30% in the gym. Blaming your ex only goes so far.