Just found pot in DD's room and flushed it down the toilet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have small kids, but I work with teens as a psychiatrist and have some experience in adolescent rehab centers. My problem with pot isn't that it causes people to do dangerous things, but just that it causes apathy. Kids who are smoking don't really care about doing well in school, playing sports, relationships with friends and parents. I can usually tell within twenty minutes of meeting a kid in my clinic if they are a regular pot smoker. They just don't care about stuff that most adolescents get all in a tizzy about.
And besides the impact on future career prospects if a kid tanks high school, there are developmental implications as well. Kids are supposed to get all depressed when they break up with their first boyfriend or go through any number of high school dramas. If you choose not to deal with these things and just get high instead, you are going to be far behind your peers if/when you do decide to cope with normal ups and downs of daily life.
It also puts kids at higher risk for developing psychosis as they get older.
So, no, finding your daughter smoking pot in her room on a Sunday afternoon isn't as bad as finding her passed out drunk in your front yard on Saturday night, but it is something to take seriously.

1. You are an awful psychiatrist. Please provide your name so we can ensure to never patronize your practice.
2. I'd rather have a depressed kid mope out on weed than start cutting herself. I knew so many cutters in high school and college it was pathetic.
3. I have many healthy relationships with my girlfriend and my parents and my good friends. Enough with the medical malpractice, you quack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have small kids, but I work with teens as a psychiatrist and have some experience in adolescent rehab centers. My problem with pot isn't that it causes people to do dangerous things, but just that it causes apathy. Kids who are smoking don't really care about doing well in school, playing sports, relationships with friends and parents. I can usually tell within twenty minutes of meeting a kid in my clinic if they are a regular pot smoker. They just don't care about stuff that most adolescents get all in a tizzy about.
And besides the impact on future career prospects if a kid tanks high school, there are developmental implications as well. Kids are supposed to get all depressed when they break up with their first boyfriend or go through any number of high school dramas. If you choose not to deal with these things and just get high instead, you are going to be far behind your peers if/when you do decide to cope with normal ups and downs of daily life.
It also puts kids at higher risk for developing psychosis as they get older.
So, no, finding your daughter smoking pot in her room on a Sunday afternoon isn't as bad as finding her passed out drunk in your front yard on Saturday night, but it is something to take seriously.

Okay, but those are the kids who present at your clinic, who have other issues besides just smoking pot. You're not seeing the AP students who are athletes, volunteers, artists, holding part-time jobs--those are the kids I smoked pot with in HS, and we weren't at your rehab clinic. We were doing homework and applying to college.

My DS got into and attends an Ivy. He is addicted to pot and has withdrawn from
the life he used to live and the person he used to be. I do not believe that recreational pot is cause for much concern, but we are dealing with something much, much different.

[Anonymous]

A person never knows when they start down this path whether they will get addicted or not.

[Anonymous]

Schizophrenia anyone?

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Anonymous wrote:I've smoked a good deal of pot in my life. One thing that stuck out to me, OP, is that you could smell it in her room from the hallway. It was probably very strong weed. I'd be concerned. Weed today is so much stronger than the hippie shit we smoked from the '60s and into the '90s. In my opinion, it's a lot more dangerous. When I was in high school, I smoked shitty weed out in the woods or in someone's basement - I'd be concerned about my kid running around DC high on this shit.

It is super strong. My brother gave me a little and it is in a mason jar in our basement and I can still smell it outside of the jar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schizophrenia anyone?

http://psychcentral.com/news/2013/12/10/harvard-marijuana-doesnt-cause-schizophrenia/63148.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave a note where you found it. 'We need to talk." Then ground the fuck out of her unless you want her to only get in to safety colleges.

Smoked a lot all thru HS. Went to a top ten SLAC. I'm not alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Schizophrenia anyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My DS got into and attends an Ivy. He is addicted to pot and has withdrawn from
the life he used to live and the person he used to be. I do not believe that recreational pot is cause for much concern, but we are dealing with something much, much different.

Can't blame him, he's probably sick and tired of putting up with your overbearing shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have small kids, but I work with teens as a psychiatrist and have some experience in adolescent rehab centers. My problem with pot isn't that it causes people to do dangerous things, but just that it causes apathy. Kids who are smoking don't really care about doing well in school, playing sports, relationships with friends and parents. I can usually tell within twenty minutes of meeting a kid in my clinic if they are a regular pot smoker. They just don't care about stuff that most adolescents get all in a tizzy about.
And besides the impact on future career prospects if a kid tanks high school, there are developmental implications as well. Kids are supposed to get all depressed when they break up with their first boyfriend or go through any number of high school dramas. If you choose not to deal with these things and just get high instead, you are going to be far behind your peers if/when you do decide to cope with normal ups and downs of daily life.
It also puts kids at higher risk for developing psychosis as they get older.
So, no, finding your daughter smoking pot in her room on a Sunday afternoon isn't as bad as finding her passed out drunk in your front yard on Saturday night, but it is something to take seriously.

1. You are an awful psychiatrist. Please provide your name so we can ensure to never patronize your practice.
2. I'd rather have a depressed kid mope out on weed than start cutting herself. I knew so many cutters in high school and college it was pathetic.
3. I have many healthy relationships with my girlfriend and my parents and my good friends. Enough with the medical malpractice, you quack.

Look, I've smoked my fair share of weed, and I agree with the psychiatrist. I've seen it and done it. Sure, not everyone is affected like this, but lots of teens are. The cutters, at least, largely learned to deal with their feelings in my experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't wait to confiscate my kid's weed one day! Score!!

I know. Especially if it's stuff I can smell from the hallway.

It was probably just stored poorly - pot in DC isn't that great. I'm in Seattle and my house doesn't smell like pot but we have about a pound of high potency sour diesel and haze.

If you store your bud in thick, high quality sealing mason jars - the sweet aroma isn't coming out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Sex =\= illegal (statutory rape aside)
Pot == illegal almost everywhere (DC aside)

So you base your entire moral compass on the law? Wow. I'd be a little more concerned about little Jenny getting knocked up than smoking some dope.

I think it really depends from parent to parent. My youngest sister is a massive pot head - started at 15, and by the time she was a junior in hs would smoke on the deck of our parents house almost daily pretty much saying 'i have straight a's, i'm doing well in sports, i'm not having teenage sex like everyone else in school, so get off my shit'. my parents pretty much were happy she wasn't having sex and decided to let even a heavy pot habit slide as long as she wasn't messing up school and sports.

she still smokes almost daily to this day and for her age is extremely successful.

I think there are other parents more ok with teen safe sex than pot use but my parents definitely were a lot more happy they had a pothead for a daughter rather than a sexually active one.

[Anonymous]

i'm curious - would DCUM's rather have their daughters have a semi-regular pot habit or be sexually promiscuous in HS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i'm curious - would DCUM's rather have their daughters have a semi-regular pot habit or be sexually promiscuous in HS?

Pot, as long as she's using it responsibly. You get knocked up: game over.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i'm curious - would DCUM's rather have their daughters have a semi-regular pot habit or be sexually promiscuous in HS?

Pot, as long as she's using it responsibly. You get knocked up: game over.

+1. I went to school with both types of girls and was probably the former (depending on your definition of "semi-regular"). My fellow pot smokers and I went to college. The girls who slept around a lot had way more problems and usually ended up at the alternative high school and went nowhere after that.