Just found pot in DD's room and flushed it down the toilet

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would have held onto if for myself but DH was worried having it in the house would affect his clearance. We live in DC so it's legal by district law for *adults* - DD is sixteen. I could smell it from the hall which is why I went looking.

Now I'm not sure about next steps. Im tempted to say nothing and see if she has the courage to mention it/apologize. We aren't super anti-pot, DD knows we think it's safer than alcohol and should be legal for adults but that teens shouldn't be doing either. We don't smoke - DH never has and I haven't since college, so she's not getting any messaging that this is okay behavior. I'm annoyed that she disrespected us/broke the rules, but not that worked up over occasional pot smoking. So what's the best way to approach this?

your an idiot if you think it is "safer" than alcohol. They both affect the brain in a detrimintal way. And your attitude of "held on for myself" is why your child is using it.

Np here. It's safer. Alcohol kills people. Marijuana doesn't.

Regarding OP's attitude, you're wrong, as explained in other posts.

But long term affects aren't good:
http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/00001143.htm

[Anonymous]

Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

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Anonymous wrote:Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

Unlikely. Marijuana users often feel very impaired before they actually are. http://thefreethoughtproject.com/kind-study-finds-virtually-driving-impairment-influence-marijuana/

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Anonymous wrote:Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

Key words: drunk *and* high.

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Anonymous wrote:Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

not true.. studies are proving that pot doesn't impair driving the way alcohol and other drugs do

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Anonymous wrote:OP does not sound like an idiot. She sounds like a rational person who knows pot is not evil, but still doesn't want her teen to bring it in the house.

Tell your teen just this.

OP said she doesn't care that her 16 year old does occasional pot. That is an idiot

This. And with OP as a mother, DD needs to preserve the brain cells she has. Genetics are not working in her favor here.

Jesus, people, get a grip. It's pot. She's 16. Try to stop it. I actually don't know anyone in my social circle (PhDs, professionals, etc.) who DIDN'T smoke pot in HS. The conversation needs to be about being safe and smart. Abstinence-only discussions go over about as well as those surrounding sex.

Sex =\= illegal (statutory rape aside)
Pot == illegal almost everywhere (DC aside)

Even if you personally think it's no big deal, you owe it to your kids not to shrug off violating the law.

This is insanity- unwanted pregnancy/ sexually transmitted diseases are so not a big deal against POT SMOKING... lady you are crazy!! even under age, this girl won't serve jail time getting caught with a little pot...

19 states plus the district have decriminalized pot
23 states offer medical pot
2 states do retail sales

your "almost everywhere" is getting smaller by the year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would have held onto if for myself but DH was worried having it in the house would affect his clearance. We live in DC so it's legal by district law for *adults* - DD is sixteen. I could smell it from the hall which is why I went looking.

Now I'm not sure about next steps. Im tempted to say nothing and see if she has the courage to mention it/apologize. We aren't super anti-pot, DD knows we think it's safer than alcohol and should be legal for adults but that teens shouldn't be doing either. We don't smoke - DH never has and I haven't since college, so she's not getting any messaging that this is okay behavior. I'm annoyed that she disrespected us/broke the rules, but not that worked up over occasional pot smoking. So what's the best way to approach this?

your an idiot if you think it is "safer" than alcohol. They both affect the brain in a detrimintal way. And your attitude of "held on for myself" is why your child is using it.

learn how to spell, then judge others.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would have held onto if for myself but DH was worried having it in the house would affect his clearance. We live in DC so it's legal by district law for *adults* - DD is sixteen. I could smell it from the hall which is why I went looking.

Now I'm not sure about next steps. Im tempted to say nothing and see if she has the courage to mention it/apologize. We aren't super anti-pot, DD knows we think it's safer than alcohol and should be legal for adults but that teens shouldn't be doing either. We don't smoke - DH never has and I haven't since college, so she's not getting any messaging that this is okay behavior. I'm annoyed that she disrespected us/broke the rules, but not that worked up over occasional pot smoking. So what's the best way to approach this?

You're bonkers. I'm not sure what would have been tossed out first, the pot or the child. Unacceptable. I can't believe that some of the PPs here are actually raising children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would have held onto if for myself but DH was worried having it in the house would affect his clearance. We live in DC so it's legal by district law for *adults* - DD is sixteen. I could smell it from the hall which is why I went looking.

Now I'm not sure about next steps. Im tempted to say nothing and see if she has the courage to mention it/apologize. We aren't super anti-pot, DD knows we think it's safer than alcohol and should be legal for adults but that teens shouldn't be doing either. We don't smoke - DH never has and I haven't since college, so she's not getting any messaging that this is okay behavior. I'm annoyed that she disrespected us/broke the rules, but not that worked up over occasional pot smoking. So what's the best way to approach this?

You're bonkers. I'm not sure what would have been tossed out first, the pot or the child. Unacceptable. I can't believe that some of the PPs here are actually raising children.

omg, and successfully too... it is like this whole pot thing isn't as big a deal as the propaganda lead me to believe

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Anonymous wrote:Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

Unlikely. Marijuana users often feel very impaired before they actually are. http://thefreethoughtproject.com/kind-study-finds-virtually-driving-impairment-influence-marijuana/

Look I'm all for decriminalization of pot but are you saying that its unlikely that high people will drive?! About every single time I got high, there was eventually a car involved, often to get home, get food, etc. and while I can't drive while high, I definitely have gotten into a car with the driver who had been smoking. I believe it was called "college".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would have held onto if for myself but DH was worried having it in the house would affect his clearance. We live in DC so it's legal by district law for *adults* - DD is sixteen. I could smell it from the hall which is why I went looking.

Now I'm not sure about next steps. Im tempted to say nothing and see if she has the courage to mention it/apologize. We aren't super anti-pot, DD knows we think it's safer than alcohol and should be legal for adults but that teens shouldn't be doing either. We don't smoke - DH never has and I haven't since college, so she's not getting any messaging that this is okay behavior. I'm annoyed that she disrespected us/broke the rules, but not that worked up over occasional pot smoking. So what's the best way to approach this?

You're bonkers. I'm not sure what would have been tossed out first, the pot or the child. Unacceptable. I can't believe that some of the PPs here are actually raising children.

If you disown your child for pot use, your child is better off without you.

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Anonymous wrote:Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

Unlikely. Marijuana users often feel very impaired before they actually are. http://thefreethoughtproject.com/kind-study-finds-virtually-driving-impairment-influence-marijuana/

Look I'm all for decriminalization of pot but are you saying that its unlikely that high people will drive?! About every single time I got high, there was eventually a car involved, often to get home, get food, etc. and while I can't drive while high, I definitely have gotten into a car with the driver who had been smoking. I believe it was called "college".

I'm saying it's unlikely that legalization will cause a surge in high driving accidents. It's not happening in Colorado. The point is that many users feel impaired and decide not to drive way before they're actually impaired.

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Anonymous wrote:Pot can kill. Not alone in a room just overdosing, but the more acceptable it becomes, the more people will drive while high. Sam Ellis was drunk and high on marijuana when he killed his two friends last summer.

Unlikely. Marijuana users often feel very impaired before they actually are. http://thefreethoughtproject.com/kind-study-finds-virtually-driving-impairment-influence-marijuana/

Look I'm all for decriminalization of pot but are you saying that its unlikely that high people will drive?! About every single time I got high, there was eventually a car involved, often to get home, get food, etc. and while I can't drive while high, I definitely have gotten into a car with the driver who had been smoking. I believe it was called "college".

I think the point this person was trying to make is that, as a pot smoker, I do not feel impaired enough to not drive and if I did behind the wheel I would compensate for it, I have other friends (like you) who feel the impairment and will not drive.

Totally different from how drunk driving works, drunks think they can handle it and can't.

http://norml.org/library/item/marijuana-and-driving-a-review-of-the-scientific-evidence

http://ntl.bts.gov/lib/25000/25800/25867/DOT-HS-808-078.pdf---- quote directly from this study done by the US Department of Transportation " As a consequence, THC's adverse effects on driving performance appear relatively small. "

[Anonymous]

Personally, I would let it go. Especially living in the District. If you want to approach it, the clearance issue would be the easiest way in that doesn't seem preachy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I would have held onto if for myself but DH was worried having it in the house would affect his clearance. We live in DC so it's legal by district law for *adults* - DD is sixteen. I could smell it from the hall which is why I went looking.

Now I'm not sure about next steps. Im tempted to say nothing and see if she has the courage to mention it/apologize. We aren't super anti-pot, DD knows we think it's safer than alcohol and should be legal for adults but that teens shouldn't be doing either. We don't smoke - DH never has and I haven't since college, so she's not getting any messaging that this is okay behavior. I'm annoyed that she disrespected us/broke the rules, but not that worked up over occasional pot smoking. So what's the best way to approach this?

You're bonkers. I'm not sure what would have been tossed out first, the pot or the child. Unacceptable. I can't believe that some of the PPs here are actually raising children.

If you disown your child for pot use, your child is better off without you.

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