When people say they are not SAHM material

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

You think there are two kinds of parents--those who love staying, and those who are bored by their kids? Nothing in between?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how people say they would be bored by spending time with their own children.

Think about it for longer than it takes to hit "reply" and send some scathing comment back.

They are developing and learning and growing at a rapid fire pace, they are full of wonder and joy, they are not bitter or jaded, and they are your offspring. They are little miracles, each and every one.

But post after post claims they find all that boring.

Surely you realize that there are lots of things in the world that other people find fascinating that would bore you?

Lots of things? It's your own child. Not a craft, mountain biking, or pottery. Man, you guys are harsh. These are your own children that are the source of such boredom and apathy!!!

I agree with this and I am a wohm. There are a lot of reasons why someone might not want to SAH. But to say outright that you find spending time with your kid to be "boring" - idk. Sounds pretty bad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

To me it means I'm not of the rich husband/family money material. We need two incomes to support our family, ergo neither of us is stay at home material.

+1. I wish I could be a SAHM, but we can't afford it.

Same here. And it's not like I'm going to go into detail with anyone who isn't a close friend about why we both work. So, to the rando SAHM I run into at the playground who wants to know why I don't stay home, a pleasant "It's not for me!" should suffice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

You're right. They're all terrible mothers and you are the best. Happy now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

I think people are trying to use very simple explanations and familiar examples since the complexities and subtleties of expressed language seem to be beyond the comprehension of several posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

They really mean that they don't really want to talk about why they made the choice they did with a judgmental twat like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

No one compared children to ice cream. People used eating the same meal every day to illustrate how doing the same thing day after day can become boring, even if the activity is generally enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

I think people are trying to use very simple explanations and familiar examples since the complexities and subtleties of expressed language seem to be beyond the comprehension of several posters.

+1. There is at least one poster here who is just militantly obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

You're right. They're all terrible mothers and you are the best. Happy now?

Seriously. That was a perfectly fine analogy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geez, I wonder when we will all find ways to support eachother, whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. The thread is appalling and a distraction from the greater societal problems of institutional sexism, lack of family friendly policies, etc.

Disagree--there are clearly some posters on this thread who feel pretty strongly that women should be home with their kids, and therefore are PART of the problem of sexism and why we don't have family friendly policies. Which is why the rest of us need to keep fighting, including both WOHMs and SAHMs who should all have choices.

But if it's so awful and dull to be with your children, why the need for any of this? It would result in spending more time being bored. Can't have it both ways. Either you want to get away or you want your policies so you don't have to. This thread clearly shows those policies are not wanted or needed, it would only result in, as one poster said, "pulling my hair out in boredom".

Because no one said that being with their kids is universally boring...only that being with them all day, every day is. I like ice cream, but I don't like eating only ice cream for every meal of the day. See how the modifier matters?

Stop with the comparisons of ice cream to your child. Dear lord how far have we sunk as mothers to actually be having this conversation where we try to justify our sheer boredom by comparing our children to a frozen dairy dessert.

I think people are trying to use very simple explanations and familiar examples since the complexities and subtleties of expressed language seem to be beyond the comprehension of several posters.

+1. There is at least one poster here who is just militantly obtuse.

Probably the same person posting on another thread today about how most mothers enjoy "all the downs" of parenting as well as the ups. So, if you work--of if you're a SAHM, but don't enjoy cleaning up barf--you probably just shouldn't have had kids.

[Anonymous]

Shouldn't she be...I don't know...enjoying the wonder and joy of her children? How does she have so much time to post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn't she be...I don't know...enjoying the wonder and joy of her children? How does she have so much time to post?

Shouldn't you be...I don't know...working at your very important job that is not as boring as those dull and mind numbing children you are glad to be away from?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Shouldn't she be...I don't know...enjoying the wonder and joy of her children? How does she have so much time to post?

Shouldn't you be...I don't know...working at your very important job that is not as boring as those dull and mind numbing children you are glad to be away from?

Oh, hi, extremely defensive and subliterate poster! Since PP never identified herself as a WOHM, let alone one of the people who think SAH-ing is boring, your comment is pointless.